My guest today is Cindy Muchnick.
Listen in this week as Cindy and I talk about “The Parent Compass” book & movement, a guide for parents on how to pull back & let go through the teen years. Moving from managing everything for your little kids to pulling back & giving your teens the reins can be really hard, but we have to do it. Cindy shares some tips for inviting feedback from your adolescent and why, sometimes, we do want our kids to struggle. I ask Cindy about how to talk to teens and stay solution-focused when they don’t seem to be a good fit or interested in a typical, four-year college path. We end by sharing thoughts on over-tutoring, letter grades, monitoring your teen’s grades, & picking colleges.
Takeaways from the show
“The Parent Compass” book & movement
Moving from manager to consultant during the teen years
Inviting feedback from your teen
Staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached”
Building resiliency by doing hard things
Gap years & options outside of four-year colleges
Conversations when your teen is struggling with academics
What does “do your best” really mean?
Over-tutoring, letter grades, & choosing colleges
For full show notes, including transcriptions, visit our website here.
My guest today is someone who is a friend to the JC pod, DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson.
This episode is all about mutual respect. Casey and DJ start by talking about how the idea of respect has changed from the 1950’s to today, and how kids & teens today are asking to & expecting to be respected. We teach respect by being respectful. They dig into whether or not kids need to earn their dignity, our respect, and our love (spoiler: they don’t). DJ points out that the way we treat our children at home is the basis for what they expect from other adults outside of the home, and Casey explains how kids being disrespected in their home can show up as defiance & disconnection. DJ shares stepping stones you can use when young people are disrespectful, a bit about how teenage brain development plays in, and how to be a leader from a place of service for your teen. Casey finishes up by touching on the power of “and” - teaching & expecting kids to respect themselves AND the person in front of them.
Takeaways from the show:
Showing up respectfully and modeling respect for our teens
The difference between respect and being nice
Cultivating and teaching respect by being respectful, not by demanding it
Kids deserve respect, dignity, & love - they don’t need to earn it
Disrespect in the home showing up as defiance and disconnect
Softening, respecting, and loving your kids regardless of how they’re showing up
Leading from a place of service
Teaching teens to respect themselves AND the person in front of them
For full show notes including transcriptions, visit our website here.
My guest today is Rachel Macy Stafford.
Rachel joins Casey today to share about her new book, “Soul Shift,” and how to find joy and get back to yourself. Rachel shares the painful truth that started her journey. Casey and Rachel connect over the challenges that raising teens can bring, and how we can be present, relationship-focused, and connected with them during the tough times. Rachel shares a beautiful story about how being human and vulnerable with your teens allows them to be authentic with you, too. They touch on the messiness of teens and how we need to deeply know our children so we can best support them. Rachel shares some of her best practices to find self-worth & growth, like speaking to yourself compassionately and taking time for yourself.
Takeaways from the show
Cultivating the practice of presence
Asking yourself and owning why you do what you do
Finding time to nurture yourself
Uncovering and responding to one’s deepest truths
Connecting with your teen through presence
Being real, authentic, & vulnerable with your teen
Presence as a door opener for your teen
Letting go of distractions and prioritizing connection
Finding your self-worth
Being in your experience vs. observing the experience
For more show notes including full transcripts, visit our website here.
Bringing this show back from the vault to remember how we can get clear if we are responding to our kids in a way that is helpful and guiding them towards life skill building. Listen in as I break down the five criteria for Positive Discipline and how it looks in real life with our kids.
See all the show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/TBT-259-SOLO-Is-this-positive-discipline
My guest today is Dr. Chris Willard.
Dr. Willard explains how trying to teach mindfulness to teens ended up being a learning opportunity for himself and why he wrote his new book, “How we Grow Through What We Go Through.” He explains the three types of trauma, then Casey & Chris connect on how much self-work needs to be done to parent teens. Casey asks what the first steps are for moving through triggers, and Dr. Willard shares how children & teens can be the catalyst for us to do that work. They dig into why we don’t punish adolescents and what tools to use when things do go sideways with your teen like pausing, responding vs. reacting, mindfulness, anticipating, co-regulating, building trust, & asking “what are both learning?” Dr. Willard and Casey wrap-up today by sharing some specific breathing strategies for all ages.
Key takeaways from the show
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My guest today is Dr. Shefali Tsabary.
Dr. Shefali begins by sharing her journey into motherhood & discovering conscious parenting. She shares a bit about what her new book, “The Parenting Map” covers. Casey and Dr. Shefali talk about how challenging it is to look inward and how we work towards growth, not perfection. They dig into challenging any narratives you may have for your own children and finding your flow. Casey asks how we can get past the “smoke screen” and dig in deeper into what’s going on with misbehavior. They talk about teens practicing regulation and about how individuation & defiance are not only developmentally appropriate but necessary. Dr. Shefali shares her five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, fleer and how to acknowledge and calm your ego. They wrap up talking on being in partnership with your child, how & why negotiating with your kids can actually be a good thing, and why we don’t use punishment.
Takeaways from the show
What is conscious parenting?
Dr. Shefali’s new book: “The Parenting Map”
The challenges of looking inward
Parenting is about growth, not perfection
Challenging & deconstructing your narratives
The “iceberg” and “smoke screen” behind behaviors
Defiance is developmentally healthy
Dr. Shefali’s five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, & fleer
Acknowledging and calming your ego
Why & how negotiating with your kids can be positive
For complete show notes including transcripts, visit our website here.
My guest today is Olivia Thompson.
Olivia shares her path to Sesh, a mental health platform for online support groups led by licensed therapists. Olivia shares what she loves about Sesh and tells Casey her thoughts on support groups and connecting with other people who are going through the same things you are. Casey & Olivia talk about the benefits of telehealth. Olivia explains how she was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, her own mental health journey, & strategies that work well for her. Casey connects Olivia’s story to how we can support and scaffold for teens & young adults with ADHD. They also touch on addiction, recovery, identifying triggers, and the stigmas & barriers around mental healthcare.
Takeaways from the show
Using online & telehealth resources for mental health
Support groups & connecting with a community
ADHD diagnosis as an adult
Sesh platform & offerings
Stigmas around & barriers to mental healthcare
For full transcripts and more show notesm, visit our website here.
This week I am thrilled to be expanding on a conversation happening in the Living Joyful Courage community around how to support a growth mindset and optimism in our teens. They have a lot going on and are coming of age in a messy world - listen in to this show to hear my take on it all.
My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields.
Back from Abu Dhabi, Casey and Hunter reflect on Parenthood: The Unconference. Hunter shares how she got involved with the conference, and they remember what it was like to visit the UAE (including a trip to a camel festival and being anointed with oils)! They discuss the universality of parenting challenges despite other cultural differences. Casey and Hunter finish by sharing what tools they used to stay confident on a global stage like mindfulness, self-compassion, & preparing beforehand.
Takeaways from the show
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My guest today is Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg.
Stephanie starts by explaining what a narcissist is, what they’re driven by, & what that may look like. Stephanie shares what it’s like to be in relationship with a narcissist, how you might feel growing up with a narcissistic parent, and how that ripples out into other relationships. Casey asks for indicators that someone may be a narcissistic parent and what that relationship looks like as an adult. They talk about setting limits & boundaries that work versus cutting a parent out. Stephanie shares her wisdom on radical acceptance & letting go. Casey & Stephanie dig into how people can start dismantling their negative thinking.
Takeaways from the show
My guest today is Olatunde Sobomehin.
Olatunde Sobomehin shares about his life-changing sabbatical and how that led to him co-authoring the book, “Creative Hustle: Blaze Your Own Path and Make Work That Matters.” Olatunde shares how to name and know your and your teen’s gifts & goals and how principles, people, & practice can help you move from gifts to goals. He shares specific questions to reflect on to discover your gifts and what he sees getting in the way for young people. They dig into how to help young adults choose work that matters while still needing to make money. Casey shares some of her story about finding and choosing work that matters to her. Sobomehin wraps up by sharing more about his book, who is profiled inside, and practical tips for encouraging your teen to stretch & find their own ‘creative hustle.’
Takeaways from the show
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Today is a solo show that highlights shifting our thinking about how we are showing up for Gen Z and why this is crucial as we move through the adolescent years with our kids. I share three essential tools for making this shift in a way that strengthens relationship and provides space for our kids to discover who they're meant to be.
My guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart.
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart & Casey dig into ADHD in the adolescent years. Parents of teens with ADHD may see dysregulation looking like compulsiveness, messiness, impulsivity, & a lack of motivation. Parents may think that their kids are lazy or lacking willpower, when in reality, their executive functioning skills are truly off balance. Dr. Lockhart & Casey talk about discussing long-term goals with teens, moving backwards from there, baby steps, as well as figuring out what feels hard so we can best support them. They discuss how to support adolescents with ADHD and how that may differ from what neurotypical teen brains need. Dr. Lockhart explains what rejection sensitive dysphoria is & how to talk to teens about their ADHD. Casey asks how to get buy-in from a teen to work with an ADHD coach or other outside support or services. They finish by talking about what teens with ADHD need most.
Takeaways from the show
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Today I am on solo to talk about moving into a new year and how community supports us in growing through what we are going through. I am here to speak directly to you, the listener, and hopeful that you feel seen and heard in what I share.
Join Casey for the final show of 2022! Casey’s solo this episode, recapping and reflecting on the year and welcoming 2023. She revisits her 2022 vision board and some of her favorite episodes & guests from the year. Casey ends the show by leading an end-of-year manifestation ritual.
Takeaways from the show:
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My guest today is Ivy Kwong.
Ivy shares about her journey to become a psychotherapist and how she’s healing her relationship and connecting with her parents. Ivy talks about increasing your capacity for discomfort and staying regulated during conversations. Casey and Ivy dig into genetic & experiential intergenerational trauma and how to start healing by expanding your awareness and reparenting yourself. They talk about knowing your inner-selves at different ages and what brings them out. Casey asks what clues we can look for that we have trauma to heal and if we need apologies from parents to move forward. Ivy explains setting boundaries with our parents. Casey and Ivy wrap up by talking about finding compassion for ourselves on our journey.
Key takeaways from the podcast:
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Happy to have this episode to lean back on as we find ourselves in yet another holiday season! Ericka came on last year and talk to me about expectations, flexibility, and communication with our teens during this somewhat-stressful-but-we-want-everyone-to-be-happy time of year.
The struggle is real, right!?
Ericka provides thoughtful ideas around tradition, gratitude and prioritizing OUR happiness during this season.
You can find the full show notes for this episode by going to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-302-creating-tradition-and-connection-with-ericka-souter/
My guest today is Elise Knox.
Casey and Elise share thoughts and advice on taking care of ourselves while connecting with our teens. How do we keep it together during the turbulent teenage years? Elise shares how she stays grounded, then Casey and Elise explore what a parent’s role is during the teen years & how parents can define and get their needs met. They discuss how to show up helpfully, not hurtfully, in the most challenging moments, how to build relationship before the teen years, and how to show up when your teen isn’t feeling connected to you. Elise touches on how we can have empathy and compassion for teenage troubles without projecting our experiences as adolescents. Casey and Elise close by talking about what teens want & need from their parents.
Takeaways from the show
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Today's guests are Jean Chatzky and Kathryn Tuggle. Casey, Jean and Kathryn discuss their new book, "How to Money".
Key takeaways from the show:
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My guest today is Julie Lythcott-Haims.
Casey and Julie chat about Julie’s newest book, “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult,” including what topics are covered, reactions from young adults & parents, and what Julie was hoping for while she wrote this book. They talk on how young adults learn to “fend for themselves” and find self-acceptance. Casey and Julie dig into how and when young adults claim their own narratives and the challenges of when that’s different from your vision for them. They get into the unknown and lifelong effects of Gen Z and the pandemic and wrap-up by touching on how great self-agency and problem-solving feels for everyone, especially these young adults.
Takeaways from the show
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My guest today is Alicia Robertson.
Casey and Alicia discuss how to keep and grow your self-worth, healthy boundaries, communication, and confidence during and after divorce. Alicia advises on what to share with kids about your divorce and how to give them (and yourself) safety, security, and stability during this complex, emotional time. Casey and Alicia talk custody agreements, single parenting, co-parenting challenges, and tweens and teens having a parental preference. They wrap up by digging into dating after divorce.
Takeaways from the show:
Another throwback!! Love going into the vault to revisit some of the Joyful Courage solo shows of the past. This one is especialy sweet. Our teens are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment. They are responding to the external events and experineces around them. Listen in as I guide listeners through an experiential activity that highlights how the WAY we communicate influences how our kids are feeling, thinking and deciding to do.
You're kids are not manipulating you.
Get the full show notes for this show at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-183-your-kids-are-not-manipulating-you/
My guest today is Todd Adams.
Todd and Casey talk about raising young, straight, cis-gendered, white men and how to balance teaching them about the responsibility that comes with their privilege without over-burdening them. They discuss what it means to “be a man” and how to nurture a young man’s emotional intelligence & the importance of modeling. Todd shares how important it is for parents to be self-aware, curious, and willing to learn. He gives strategies for connecting with and calling-in teenagers and why to connect when they’re ready. Casey and Todd remind us that there’s not a perfect script, but an ongoing conversation, when it comes to tough topics like consent, substance use, & being advocates. Todd wraps up by talking about what healthy masculinity and “mature masculinity” look like to him.
Takeaways from the show
Hi listeners! I am always so honored when you chose to listen in to what I have to say to you all over here! Thank you for showing up, staying open, and considering how this content can make an impact on your relationships with your family.
This week is another throwback. We (parents) get so stuck in the right/wrong conversation that we forget or miss all of the LAYERS to the human experience!
In this episode, I talk about the mistaken belief that "Kids have to pay for their behavior" and invite parents to consider something new...
We get into brain science and self regulation, the power of not taking things personally, the sometimes short sightedness of consequence... and so much more.
You can find the full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-231-solo-show-moving-from-right-wrong-to-effective-and-remembering-that-self-regulation-is-learned-over-time-with-practice/
So glad to be highlighting this show again - wowzer. This is such a profound invitation, every day, to be who our teens need then to be. Yes, love them with all of you, stand by them, AND give them space to discover all there is to learn from mistakes and risks, triumphs and failures - these are THEIRS to experience. Doesn't mean we abandon them, it DOES mean that we love them through it all regardless of how it looks. This is what all kids need, even those adult ones!
You can find the show notes https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-185-how-to-be-fiercely-committed-and-lovingly-detached/