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Summer Series: Eps 198, Grounding Ourselves with Kerry Foreman 0

Jul 30, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Hey friends! Welcome back to Joyful Courage – a conscious parenting podcast, where we get real and raw about the parenting journey. You have tuned in to another SUMMER SERIES EPISODE!! This week I am super excited to bring back my conversation from TWO YEARS AGO, Episode 98, with Kerry Foreman. I am THRILLED to be sharing this conversation with you. Kerry is someone that I follow on Instagram and am continuously inspired by how she shows up in the world.

Kerry has an online program for teens that is based in mindfulness. It is a 4 week research based course will allow your teen to develop beginning mindfulness skills and cultivate a mindfulness practice that will reduce stress and improve their mental health. Your teen will become empowered to take control of their well being, become more aware of thoughts and behaviors leading to higher accountability, increase their self esteem, and find an inner happiness not attached to anything external.

Kerry Foreman is a Registered Psychotherapist, with her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She is passionate about Mindfulness and has been practicing and teaching for 4 years. Kerry lives in Monument, Colorado with her patient husband, a teenager, a tween and two rescue dogs, Norman and Fern. Through using Mindfulness to increase her self awareness, she realized that during her childhood she had learned and practiced faulty coping skills. She targeted them one by one, and slowly changed the cycles of her family, learned new behaviors, and worked to create new, positive habits for life. She did this in order to have a successful marriage and to be the kind of Mom she wanted to be. She is passionate about her ability to create change. Change your thinking and it changes your life.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes
Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond
Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate?
Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change?
Learning to respond instead if react
Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience
Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being
Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships
How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us?
Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety
What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds?
Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language
Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of.

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG

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Upcoming Programs from Joyful Courage

Hey all, just reminding you that I am getting ready for the fall. I have decided to RE-RELEASE the Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit in September, and then follow it with TWO Academy tracks in October – one for the 12-14ish crowd, and another for the parents of 15-18+ kids.

The summit is 15 interviews released over the course of a week. You have access during that week to listen. You also will have the option to purchase the interviews if you would like unlimited access.

The Joyful Courage Academy is a FIVE WEEK course is a learning opportunity for parents of teens that includes content, community and a powerful one on one call with me.

I am so excited!!! Make sure that you are all signed up for my newsletter so that you get all the info about how to sign up!! www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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And don’t forget there are lots of powerful convos happening over in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage and the Joyful Courage Parents of Teens group on FB – ask to join!

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

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Summer Series: Eps 197, Walking the Tightrope of Raising Teens with Kim Muench 0

Jul 23, 2019

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Hey friends! Welcome back to Joyful Courage – a conscious parenting podcast, where we get real and raw about the parenting journey. You have tuned in to another SUMMER SERIES EPISODE!! This week I am bringing back my conversation with Kim Muench. Kim has been on the show a couple of times, but this episode we dig into how the parenting teens experience can really feel like a tight rope walk. Consider the content of LAST WEEK’s show, I thought it would be helpful to share this conversation.

Kim is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

- When children arrive at adolescence
- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens
- Choosing your battles
- Defining your family values
- Setting an example for your kids
- Defining non-negotiables
- Ways to offer choices to your teenager
- Detaching from the outcome
- Prioritizing personal care and personal development
- The illusion of control
- Individuation and what that can look like
- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol
- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer
- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach
- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Twitter | Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

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Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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Summer Series: Eps 196, Kids, Drugs and my Conversation with Liz Blackwell-Moore 0

Jul 16, 2019

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Today I am bringing back my conversation with Liz Blackwell-Moore from episode 128. Liz and I go deep into the conversation of substance use and abuse and how to be in relationship with our kids while also navigating the very real decisions they may or may not decide to make. I know, this topic is tough. We all want our kid to be safe and healthy…. And we all feel the fear around the very real risks some of them take. This conversation is powerful and left me feeling more grounded about this super intense part of the parenting teens journey. Check it out.

Alright - My guest today is Liz Blackwell-Moore. I connected with Liz through my friend, and one of your fave podcast guests, Julietta Skoog from besproutable.com. I am so excited to have Liz on today to talk about an incredibly relevant topic – kids and drugs. GAH. I know. No one really WANTS to talk about this, but we have to.

Liz has been working in the field of substance use since 2000. Her current work involves working with community coalitions and organizations to provide training on prevention strategies as well as technical assistance to translate public health research into practice and implement a restorative trauma-informed approach to addressing public health problems.

So basically, Liz is going to break it all down for us in a way that is helpful. She lives in Portland, Maine with her wife, two happy kids, and a puppy.

Content:

Liz shares about her early work with people involved with substance abuse and was drawn to exploring prevention work
How can we make “systems” (including the family) better for young people, with more support in their lives?
What the “risk taking years” feels like, according to Casey
Liz shares her moms’ analogy of the two boats
Adolescent brain development
- It’s like a house being build bottom up
- Built through interactions and the environment kids experience
- Reward center develops first – ready to go, “volume turned up”
- Front, logical part of brain not fully developed, and not integrated
- W/o the desire to try new things, how would they ever leave home??
The perception and science of marijuana and adolescence
- National Academy of Sciences – research on the research
  - Young people using
    - Impacts learning and memory
    - Significant effects on mental health
      - “Regular use” – once every 30 days
      - 2xs more likely to become depressed
      - 3xs more likely to have suicidal thoughts
      - Kids with MH issues are more likely to use/self-medicate
    - Initially make people feel calm/relaxed
      - Brain likes to do what’s easy so eventually wants more
    - What about vaping
      - Tobacco companies are SO LAME – trying to suck in kids
      - Some kids just the flavoring
        
        Not regulated – we don’t know what is in it
      - Lots of kids ARE putting nicotine and weed into the vape
    - All drugs impact the reward center of the brain – putting young people at a greater risk of addiction later in life
      - Rewires/primes the brain for addiction
    - How do we get them to wait????
    - Relationship is the most powerful tool we have… Share our values… AND – THEY HAVE CRAZY REWARD CENTERS!!! GAH!!!
      - Be present, listen, develop a strong relationship
      - Set clear expectations – bring it up in a variety of ways
      - Continue to bring it back to what their goals are, how might risky behavior get in the way?
      - Help them to “see” the bigger picture
      - Restorative practices: Hold them accountable while offering support
        
        What are you getting out of this?
        
        What were you thinking?
        
        How else can you get thrills?
        
        Social connection?
        
        Is this a mental health issue?
      - Having these conversations REQUIRES the adults to be in solid relationship with their kids
      - Also, our stuff shows up and gets in the way – fear, rigidity
      - Ok to say, “this is disappointing” “this is hard for me” – they need to know how they are impacting their parents
      - Teens aren’t great with nuance
      - SLEEP MATTERS!!
      - Natural consequences are powerful
      - Boundaries are MESSY
      - How do we balance nurture and structure?? It’s a dance
      - How do we know when it really is a problem?
        
        Major changes in physical appearance
        
        Personality
        
        Participation
        
        Peer group changes
        
        Public image has changed
      - org – online resources
      - 20-minute guide – helping parents use motivational interviewing 20inuteguide.com
      - Find your people!
      - There is uncertainty and change AND we all have flexible, learning brains – we can be resilient!!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

For me it means trying to see those amazing things that are happening as you move through adolescence – having the courage to stick with your values and follow our instincts…

Resources:
https://the20minuteguide.com/
http://www.drugfree.org/

Good reading on the teen brain:
Dan Siegel Brainstorm
Francis Jensen The Teenage Brain

Links for young people:
http://www.teen.drugabuse.gov/
*This is National Institute of Drug Abuse website for teens

http://www.protectwhatsnext.com/
*This is a website out of Colorado for young people specifically about marijuana use

Where to find Liz:

Birchlanestrategies.com (under-construction)
Linked in

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Summer Series: Eps 195, Jessica Lahey Talks About the Gift of Failure 0

Jul 9, 2019

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Today we are going wayyyyy back to revisit Episode 21, my conversation with Jessica Lahey about what it means to be an “autonomy supportive” parents.

This was such a powerful revisit for me, four years later, as my kids settle into the teen years and all the challenges and celebrations they get to navigate. I would love to take away the pain and confusion that comes with this time – AND I know that my kids will have their deepest learning through experience…

Such a great conversation!

Jessica Lahey is smart and funny and real when it comes to talking straight up about how we rob our kids of their future when we protect the from failure...

It doesn't matter if they are in the sandbox or a high school classroom, our kids only learn the tools for relationship, empathy and resiliency when we (parents) allow them the gift of discomfort, making mistakes and yes, failure.

Listen in to this candid conversation and consider where you could pull back a bit, where you could allow your kids a little bit more room to learn from their missteps, to own when they've hurt someone, to problem solve it when they've left their homework or lunch at home (again!)...

We all love our kids, we want them to grow into the fullest, best versions of themselves, sometimes that requires us to back off and let them figure some things out... You may be surprised by just how capable they are!

Mentions:

The book: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey
The article in the Atlantic that started it all: Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail
Why Back to School Night Made Me Feel Like a Bad Mom
Glennon Doyle Melton on momastry.com
How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims
The Price of Privilege by Madeline Levine

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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Summer Series: Eps 194, Genevieve Simperingham on Peaceful Parenting and Teens 0

Jul 3, 2019

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Today we are going to revisit Episode 138, my conversation with Genevieve Simperingham about what peaceful parenting during the teen years looks like.

Genevieve Simperingham is a counsellor, an AWARE parenting educator, a writer, a group facilitator, meditation teacher and founder of the Peaceful Parent Institute in New Zealand. Over the last 24 years, Genevieve has presented hundreds of workshops and courses. She has parented her own kids using attachment principles and she seeks to empower parents with the tools that result in increased harmony, trust and cooperation in the family unit. We are discussing peaceful parenting our teenagers. Join us!

“It’s about bringing into your parenting not just how you should respond in this situation or in that situation and our different approaches and techniques (which are really, really important) but it’s all about who we are as a person and who our child is as a person and the dynamic and the energy between us.”

“We shouldn’t be in fighter stance simply because we have teenagers.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What is peaceful parenting and how it is different than some of the more mainstream behaviorist parenting approaches.
The Centre, Connect, Communicate approach
Stress management, self care and healing trauma and how they relate to parenting
The need for authenticity in empathy and curiosity
The biggest hang-ups for parents around peaceful parenting teenagers
Having tough conversations with your teens without shorting out the connection at the outset
Setting and holding limits within the peaceful parenting framework
Sex, drugs and alcohol use in teens - is it better to allow at home or to restrict?
Reducing power struggles and rebellion
Educating and empowering teens to make their own choices
Reconnecting to move past conflict

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage to me, it connects me with that last bit that we were just talking about, to me it’s about joy we feel in the heart and it takes a lot of courage to reconnect. So to me it’s about opening the heart and allowing the joy, the enjoyment of the relationship, of the connection to come back in and that takes courage. It takes courage to be vulnerable again. It’s easier to be hard and defensive and stern and it takes courage to open the heart come back to the joy of that beautiful connection again.

Resources:

Aware parenting

Where to find Genevieve:

The way of the Peaceful Parent Facebook Group
Facebook
Website

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you!!!!

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