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Today’s guest is Jeremy Schneider. Jeremy is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families focussing on parenting, relationships and mental health. He is the author of Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots and has been featured on the New York Times, The Today Show and CNN. We will be discussing co-parenting and alignment with our partners. Join us!
"Every step that I take in my personal growth is one less step that they have to take.”
“A lot of parenting is about experimentation.”
“You just get better the more you do it. Just keep trying.”
“We don’t want to be the same parent. We just want to be parenting in the same direction.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-Journaling as a way to maintain perspective
-Examining our principles of parenting
-Deciding what kind of people we want to raise
-Personal growth and parenting - how they relate
-Co-parenting and being in alignment with our parents
-Fatherhood and parental involvement of dads
-Finding balance as co-parents in agreeing on a parenting approach
-The importance of parenting education
-Navigating parenting as a dad when you feel uncertain
-How Dads can model emotional expression for their kids
-Approaching our partners with curiosity about their parenting approach
-Parenting as a practice
-Finding harmony in parenting styles
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Having survived a fairly traumatic childhood, I think about courage a lot. I don’t normally think about it in terms of myself and that’s something that I’ve been working on to give myself credit for how far I’ve come and what I’ve been able to do and the kind of relationships I’ve been able to build within my family.
I think Joyful courage is being able to enjoy, not the success, I’m trying to think of the word, being able to bask in this life I’ve built. It took a lot of work to get where I am and my wife and I have worked very hard to get where we are together. And we’ve worked very hard to survive as long as we have with our kids and get this far and I think, to me, one of the phrases that I play a lot in my head is happy chaos. I think of our life as happy chaos.
Chaos doesn’t have to be bad and that’s kind of the way we think about it. My life is chaos, it’s just straight chaotic, because having teenagers and wanting to be there for them and wanting to be there for my wife and build this business and so and so forth; it’s chaos. But it’s a happy chaos because it all involves things that I love.
And to me Joyful Courage has that same kind of feel, right? It’s the freedom, the sort of joyfulness of doing something that takes an enormous effort and overcoming anxiety and fear to be able to do it but that doesn’t mean that it’s bad. It can still be joyful in that experience of it.
Resources:
Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots
Where to find:
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Solo Show this week!
First – continues thanks for all of the feedback around the last solo show, where I shared about navigating my daughters mental health issues. It means the world to me to know that the content of the show is landing for you, and making a difference in your life.
This week I am talking about our boys.
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Daily Intention Cards
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Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home
-Taking back your power after trauma
-What is EMDR and how can it help you heal?
- How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations
-How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles
- The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations
- Resisting the urge to “fix”
- Understanding generational patterns
- The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior
-How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves through their behavior
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Well, in terms of this process of discovering channeling, it means to go forward with joy and courage, not guilt. Celebrate it, embrace it, as I talked about before, grab your partner, grab someone when your kid is having a fit and say “This is what I’m thinking and I’m thinking this and maybe this and I felt this” and try to go through all the different ideas that might be going on and depending on the relationship with your child, some parents choose to share this dynamic with their child and other parents don’t. It can be very powerful that if your child knows this is going on, they can, Arcata now can come to us after she’s knitting or reading a book on tape in her room and say, “I’m really mad out of nowhere, like I was completely happy, I love the book I’m listening to, something’s not right with dad, and will you call him and ask him what?” She’ll say, “I’m really mad or I really hate this” and she’s like, “and I don’t know why.”
So I would just say, it’s fun, it is fun, it’s a different kind of fun than a lot of people might be used to but it’s fascinating, it’s absolutely fascinating when you start taking this perspective. I mean, it’s hard for me to, I mean, I go out and talk to people, I’ll be at a cocktail party or something and someone’s kid, and I’ll say something and then I’m like, “Hmmmm” and I’ll watch the person’s reaction and I don’t think they’re very happy with something I’ve said and their kid will come up and start tugging at them and be like, “I want to go! I want to go right now! I want to leave!” I was right about that. It’s hard for me not to see once you wake up into this way of viewing the world it’s really quite fascinating. So, meet it with joyful courage.
Resources:
Channeling Questionnaire
Embracing your child’s tantrums as a gift - Elephant Journal article
Where to find:
Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift
Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift
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Joyful Courage Coaching
The time is now! If you are interested in working one on one with me now is the TIME. I am taking new coaching clients and would love to support you! Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/coaching and let me know what you need.
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Daily Intention Cards
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Solo show – sharing from personal experience
Recap what is happening with my teenager
If you listened last year, you heard the struggle
Online school
Clients I’ve worked with
Friends confiding in their experience
What the stats say
My experience of finding information
What my gut tells me
The ways the world has changed
Why it’s so hard
Weight of fear/possible outcomes
Lack of control
Our own stories
PD is belonging and significance
Power of perception
What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed
The challenge of meeting them where they’re at
My experience with this….
Not knowing what this means
The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being
The iceberg
Tip of the iceberg
They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out
Grades/friends/activities
Bad after school special
Under the surface
Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling
Feelings of disconnection
Out of control
Anxiety/depression
The range….
Not all or nothing
Grey areas
Our own beliefs about mental health
My experience, looking back I was afraid to call it what it was because it made it true
My upbringing of not using things (family drama) as a “crutch” messaging
Enmeshment/codependency
I am going to get really vulnerable and highlight something that I see showing up because of the dynamics that are currently alive in my family
My experience with needing approval – give me the gold star, tell me how great I am
Wanting it from my family, especially my dad and step mom
Now noticing that I am searching for it from my daughter
NO BUENO
Getting spiritual
My experience of energy work in the context of my relationship with Rowan
Life happens for us, so…. This is an experience that is happening for me? For Rowie?
Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends
Letting go/backing off
Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request
Treatment
Counseling, naturopath, energy work – this is what WE are doing
You do you. Make choices for your kids.
Listen to your kids. Listen deeply. Hear without fixing
Ask permission
Give them space and trust they will come to you
Don’t be afraid to go big if things feel really off
Ask hard questions
GET SUPPORT
TALK TO EACH OTHER
Quit dismissing teens by saying “everyone feels that way” because even if it’s true this is not what they need to hear – they NEED to feel seen and heard
Check your expectations at the door, accept that this is a part of your parenting story
Take care of yourself
Check your codependency
GET HELP – if your gut tells you that what is happening with your child is extreme, seek help.
I say this to you and to myself. We will get to the other side of this, my friends. And only we get to decide if we get to GO through this time of our lives, or if we GROW through it.
Thank you to all of you parents of teens, those of you who are personal friends who have been brave enough to be in conversation with me, clients, listeners – you are not alone.
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Daily Intention Cards
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
Joyful Courage Tanks
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Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-Pampering the mind, body and the spirit
-The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters
-Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs
-Getting past our own default mode
-The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom
-When you feel bad about being good to self
-The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default
-Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it
-Finding a new default for sacred self-care
-The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing
-Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility
-How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting
-Being the architect of our own lives
-When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life
-Baby steps to getting back into alignment
-Debugging our programming
-How beliefs impact attraction
-The path to transformation
-Getting curious about beliefs to make changes
-Morning rituals for prayer and meditation
-Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk
-The importance of asking in prayer
-Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
“It means living a life based in truth, and unfortunately, to live truthfully and to speak truthfully in this American culture is seen as something as so courageous and it really shouldn’t have to be lauded as a courageous act to be living as a real person. And unfortunately it gets so many applause, “Oh you’re so courageous to say that, oh you’re so courageous to do that, oh you’re so courageous to speak that” and it’s really just called being truthful. And so joyful courage is really just living in our naturally truthful selves and because we’re short on truth right about now, even more so in our country then it lets us know we are living away from and in contradiction to our natural selves which our natural selves are truthful.
So if we’re just our natural selves, truthful is the way we operate. So, a joyfully courageous woman has just remembered who she is and shed the false, poisonous, faulty beliefs about who she is, which are really lies, and she’s just living in the natural beauty, power and influence that is consistent with her divine design.”
Resources:
Free Gifts from Debrena’s website
Debrena’s books, courses and more
Where to find:
Website | Facebook | Twitter | Youtube
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