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Content:

My guest today is Lori Petro.  Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.

• Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced
• Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other
• Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in
• Conscious communication cards
  • Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships
  • Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind
• Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages
• Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there
• SEEING our children in their emotion/experience
• They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness
• Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story)
• Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding
  • Tell me more about that…
  • It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top
  • Opens up conversation
• Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong
• 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity
• Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation
  • Being firm is a piece of it
  • Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary
• Conscious communication cards
  • Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week
  • Developed into a model for her parenting program
  • Stress/skills/support
    • Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress)
    • Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills)
    • Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support)
  • Divided into two section
    • Behaviors/words to avoid
    • Examples of what to say/directions to go in
  • Target cards
    • What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior
    • 5 steps for peaceful resolution
  • Parents use the cards in many different ways
    • Post them in their world
    • Sit with them at the end of the day and review them
  • IT’S A PRACTICE
    • Daily
    • Progress not perfection (even for Lori)
  • Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills
    • We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT
  • Lori shares about her personal practices
    • Finding work/life balance
    • Meditation
    • DAILY mindfulness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Not doing things that my heart doesn’t want to do – to not do anything because I was guilted into it, then I am not doing it because I want to , but because I feel less of myself. And I am trying to move out of any victim thinking, or less than thinking…  Up our self worth as parents then offer that to our kids.

Where to find Lori: 

Website l Facebook

Conscious Communication Cards

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SOLO SHOW

Context – we all have the power and the skills to be the parent we want to be 

A recent post from the Live and Love with Joyful Courage community:

Can we talk about sharing our big feelings with our kids?

My kids are 2.5 and 4.5yo, and I don't know how to share my big feelings in front of them without freaking them out. I want to be able to be my full and authentic self with them, in an age appropriate way. And I realize, the fact that they are upset when I am upset means that they are afraid of my big feelings and may be afraid of their own big feelings. We try to welcome their big feelings (tantrums, disappointment, etc.) but I think we do a miserable job at it.

Compounding this, I am someone with explosive emotions. I tend to feel things very deeply and it takes me time to calm down. I have worked hard to make sure I don't express those emotions in a negative or scary way. But instead I most often bottle them up, which isn't good either.

Celebrating awareness. Celebrating emotional intelligence. Celebrating authenticity. Celebrating personal responsibility.

Misconceptions (in general):

• not ok for our children to see us upset
• not ok for our children to FEEL upset
  • they’re being naughty
  • they’re manipulating
  • they’re learning “bad behavior”
• welcoming big feelings is the same as condoning hurtful behavior

This is a POWERFUL example of what I think is the PURPOSE of parenting:

• to grow into our best selves

Children are mirrors

• not mimics
• instead, provide a reflection of how we effect the world, what our impact is, what we are inviting

Children/parenting journey is an invitation

• recognizing conditioning
• recognizing what our “driver” is
• recognize commitment vs attachment
  • Committed to being a connected parent vs attachment to what that looks like (slippery, perfectionism, comparison) 

Children/parenting journey is unrelenting

• The lessons come every day, moment to moment
• The growth is like peeling an onion
• There is no where to ARRIVE

Child/parenting journey is an opportunity to grow

• I can’t say this enough
• Where are your hard edges?
• Where is there room for self growth?
• Where can flexibility show up inside of rigidity
  • “I am someone with explosive emotions.”
  • We are ALWAYS evolving
    • What can we learn about ourselves?
    • What can we practice that will be more helpful and less hurtful?
    • How can we deliver our experiences and be heard?
    • How can we create a PRACTICE that honors us and our experience while also models the life skills we want our children to one day embody?
      • Practices are UNIQUE and INDIVIDUAL
      • The myth of “balance”
      • Assumptions about our “roles”

Taking care of ourselves and our own self-regulation, in the end, will do more to teach our children and influence their behavior than any tool you can find in a book or the internet.

You’ve got this!

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On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Welcome Mercedes Samudio.  For almost a decade, Mercedes has been working with families  to help them develop healthy communication skills, manage severe emotional issues, develop coping skills to manage behaviors, create dynamic parent-child relationships, and navigate social media & technology as a family.

Throughout the course of her career she has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness.

In 2014, Mercedes began to transition into her private practice where she focuses on parent coaching and guiding families to reducing unwanted behaviors, developing effective parenting strategies, creating healthy communication habits, and designing social media/tech plans for their household.

Content:

• Mercedes talks about her background experience with teen parents
• Supporting parents in being confident in their ever evolving parenting identity
• Where #endparentshaming came from
• Others/media offering mixed judgments – no one changes when they feel shame/unsafe
• Movement to get people to see that even when others are doing things you don’t agree with, how to step into empathy to see where they need support
• People doing the best they can with the tools they have
• Shame as a defense to our own discomfort
• “Raising a human while trying to be authentically human yourself”
• You are bigger than your parent role
• Take time to focus on self and partner as a tool for surrendering to what your child’s current challenge is
• When we focus solely on our child’s mistakes, all we see are their mistakes
• Bring the skills/areas of other parts of our life into the parts that feel a bit shakey
• 10,000 feet view
• We have our own shame conversations….
  • Reframe the expectations you have of yourself
  • Example: how do you deal with things when you are angry?
  • What do I need, what can I do for myself?
  • How can I use my support system to help me?
• The misperception that conscious parenting shouldn’t be hard
• Conscious parenting requires us to be conscious parenting
• 18:30 quote
• People are attached to their shame – the stories feel familiar
• Figure out what your stories are that take you to shame
• People grow and change in space that is free from shame and judgement
• Considering FOO – Family Of Origin
  • Write down why these relationships matter to you
  • Still want connection…
  • Let them know WHY you want to stay connected (be specific)
  • Then, share what it is that you are going to be practicing and invite the family member into supporting you
  • Ask for alignment
• CONNECT BEFORE CORRECT (not just for kids J )
• Set you boundaries to keep YOUR bucket full for YOU family
• Shameproof Parenting by Mercedes
• How to build support with other parents and non parents
• A shame proof village!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being able to find joy even in the times when it’s not happening... I’m still showing up.

Where to find Mercedes: 

Website l You Tube

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?. Find them at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mantra-bracelets/

Joyful Courage SHIRTS!!

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

Get yours now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcshirts

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

Get yours now – http://www.joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards

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LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE MEMBERSHIP 2018

YES!!. Doors are OPEN for 15% off the price if you are READY to be a yes to the 2018 LJC Membership Program.

On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

Sign up now http://www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc/

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Intro Sharing:

• Visioning about supporting all of you!!
• E-League
• The conversations I want to be having on the show… Minding the gap, supporting you ALL in being the parenting you want to be when it is hard to do!
  • If you want to show up different you MUST practice doing the work, leaning in, choosing YES

Content:

What it means to be intentional

• Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience
• Present moment is key
• Awareness is grown through practice 

Getting hooked

• Our kids behavior as bids
• The lob
• Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it
• Development

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

• Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc
• Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper
  • What is your current story about yourself and your family?
  • Is it true?
  • Byron Katie – turn it around
  • Is it true
    • Finding evidence
  • Accept that this is where you are at.
    • Noticing urgency/frantic energy
      • Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful
    • BBB
      • Breath
      • Body
      • Balcony
    • Courage to trust
      • Follow your intuition
      • Let it go/surrender
      • Trust the people in your life
      • Trust the process
      • Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too
        • Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?. Find them at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mantra-bracelets/

Joyful Courage SHIRTS!!

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

Get yours now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcshirts

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

Get yours now – http://www.joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards 

:::::

 LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE MEMBERSHIP 2018

YES!!. Doors are OPEN for 15% off the price if you are READY to be a yes to the 2018 LJC Membership Program.

On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

Sign up now http://www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc/

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!