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Content:

My guest today is Lori Petro.  Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.

• Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced
• Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other
• Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in
• Conscious communication cards
  • Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships
  • Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind
• Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages
• Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there
• SEEING our children in their emotion/experience
• They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness
• Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story)
• Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding
  • Tell me more about that…
  • It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top
  • Opens up conversation
• Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong
• 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity
• Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation
  • Being firm is a piece of it
  • Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary
• Conscious communication cards
  • Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week
  • Developed into a model for her parenting program
  • Stress/skills/support
    • Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress)
    • Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills)
    • Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support)
  • Divided into two section
    • Behaviors/words to avoid
    • Examples of what to say/directions to go in
  • Target cards
    • What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior
    • 5 steps for peaceful resolution
  • Parents use the cards in many different ways
    • Post them in their world
    • Sit with them at the end of the day and review them
  • IT’S A PRACTICE
    • Daily
    • Progress not perfection (even for Lori)
  • Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills
    • We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT
  • Lori shares about her personal practices
    • Finding work/life balance
    • Meditation
    • DAILY mindfulness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Not doing things that my heart doesn’t want to do – to not do anything because I was guilted into it, then I am not doing it because I want to , but because I feel less of myself. And I am trying to move out of any victim thinking, or less than thinking…  Up our self worth as parents then offer that to our kids.

Where to find Lori: 

Website l Facebook

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Context – we all have the power and the skills to be the parent we want to be 

A recent post from the Live and Love with Joyful Courage community:

Can we talk about sharing our big feelings with our kids?

My kids are 2.5 and 4.5yo, and I don't know how to share my big feelings in front of them without freaking them out. I want to be able to be my full and authentic self with them, in an age appropriate way. And I realize, the fact that they are upset when I am upset means that they are afraid of my big feelings and may be afraid of their own big feelings. We try to welcome their big feelings (tantrums, disappointment, etc.) but I think we do a miserable job at it.

Compounding this, I am someone with explosive emotions. I tend to feel things very deeply and it takes me time to calm down. I have worked hard to make sure I don't express those emotions in a negative or scary way. But instead I most often bottle them up, which isn't good either.

Celebrating awareness. Celebrating emotional intelligence. Celebrating authenticity. Celebrating personal responsibility.

Misconceptions (in general):

• not ok for our children to see us upset
• not ok for our children to FEEL upset
  • they’re being naughty
  • they’re manipulating
  • they’re learning “bad behavior”
• welcoming big feelings is the same as condoning hurtful behavior

This is a POWERFUL example of what I think is the PURPOSE of parenting:

• to grow into our best selves

Children are mirrors

• not mimics
• instead, provide a reflection of how we effect the world, what our impact is, what we are inviting

Children/parenting journey is an invitation

• recognizing conditioning
• recognizing what our “driver” is
• recognize commitment vs attachment
  • Committed to being a connected parent vs attachment to what that looks like (slippery, perfectionism, comparison) 

Children/parenting journey is unrelenting

• The lessons come every day, moment to moment
• The growth is like peeling an onion
• There is no where to ARRIVE

Child/parenting journey is an opportunity to grow

• I can’t say this enough
• Where are your hard edges?
• Where is there room for self growth?
• Where can flexibility show up inside of rigidity
  • “I am someone with explosive emotions.”
  • We are ALWAYS evolving
    • What can we learn about ourselves?
    • What can we practice that will be more helpful and less hurtful?
    • How can we deliver our experiences and be heard?
    • How can we create a PRACTICE that honors us and our experience while also models the life skills we want our children to one day embody?
      • Practices are UNIQUE and INDIVIDUAL
      • The myth of “balance”
      • Assumptions about our “roles”

Taking care of ourselves and our own self-regulation, in the end, will do more to teach our children and influence their behavior than any tool you can find in a book or the internet.

You’ve got this!

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Welcome Mercedes Samudio.  For almost a decade, Mercedes has been working with families  to help them develop healthy communication skills, manage severe emotional issues, develop coping skills to manage behaviors, create dynamic parent-child relationships, and navigate social media & technology as a family.

Throughout the course of her career she has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness.

In 2014, Mercedes began to transition into her private practice where she focuses on parent coaching and guiding families to reducing unwanted behaviors, developing effective parenting strategies, creating healthy communication habits, and designing social media/tech plans for their household.

Content:

• Mercedes talks about her background experience with teen parents
• Supporting parents in being confident in their ever evolving parenting identity
• Where #endparentshaming came from
• Others/media offering mixed judgments – no one changes when they feel shame/unsafe
• Movement to get people to see that even when others are doing things you don’t agree with, how to step into empathy to see where they need support
• People doing the best they can with the tools they have
• Shame as a defense to our own discomfort
• “Raising a human while trying to be authentically human yourself”
• You are bigger than your parent role
• Take time to focus on self and partner as a tool for surrendering to what your child’s current challenge is
• When we focus solely on our child’s mistakes, all we see are their mistakes
• Bring the skills/areas of other parts of our life into the parts that feel a bit shakey
• 10,000 feet view
• We have our own shame conversations….
  • Reframe the expectations you have of yourself
  • Example: how do you deal with things when you are angry?
  • What do I need, what can I do for myself?
  • How can I use my support system to help me?
• The misperception that conscious parenting shouldn’t be hard
• Conscious parenting requires us to be conscious parenting
• 18:30 quote
• People are attached to their shame – the stories feel familiar
• Figure out what your stories are that take you to shame
• People grow and change in space that is free from shame and judgement
• Considering FOO – Family Of Origin
  • Write down why these relationships matter to you
  • Still want connection…
  • Let them know WHY you want to stay connected (be specific)
  • Then, share what it is that you are going to be practicing and invite the family member into supporting you
  • Ask for alignment
• CONNECT BEFORE CORRECT (not just for kids J )
• Set you boundaries to keep YOUR bucket full for YOU family
• Shameproof Parenting by Mercedes
• How to build support with other parents and non parents
• A shame proof village!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being able to find joy even in the times when it’s not happening... I’m still showing up.

Where to find Mercedes: 

Website l You Tube

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Intro Sharing:

• Visioning about supporting all of you!!
• E-League
• The conversations I want to be having on the show… Minding the gap, supporting you ALL in being the parenting you want to be when it is hard to do!
  • If you want to show up different you MUST practice doing the work, leaning in, choosing YES

Content:

What it means to be intentional

• Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience
• Present moment is key
• Awareness is grown through practice 

Getting hooked

• Our kids behavior as bids
• The lob
• Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it
• Development

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

• Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc
• Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper
  • What is your current story about yourself and your family?
  • Is it true?
  • Byron Katie – turn it around
  • Is it true
    • Finding evidence
  • Accept that this is where you are at.
    • Noticing urgency/frantic energy
      • Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful
    • BBB
      • Breath
      • Body
      • Balcony
    • Courage to trust
      • Follow your intuition
      • Let it go/surrender
      • Trust the people in your life
      • Trust the process
      • Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too
        • Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation

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On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

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Guest Intro:

Dr. Robin McEvoy is a developmental neuropsychologist practicing in Denver, Colorado.  She evaluates and diagnoses a wide range of learning disabilities and learning needs in children, adolescents and adults. This includes the identification of reading disabilities such as dyslexia. She then works with the family to develop a treatment plan to remediate the weaknesses and accentuate strengths. In addition to her private practice, Dr. McEvoy is an assistant professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center. Dr. McEvoy has authored a children’s book, Buddy: A Story for Dyslexia  (illustrated by her daughter).  She is the co-author/editor of the recently published book, Child Decoded: Unlocking Complex Issues in Your Child’s Learning, Behavior, and Attention.

Content:

• Child Decoded – inspired by the tough expectations and increase in labeling/diagnoses of academic/social development.
• Using a master checklist as a guide for finding what it is they need
• Checklist is a triage
• Looking under the surface – physical/biomedical limitations
• Diet and gut and neurons
• Parents navigating all the services for their children with complex issues – and feeling as though no one else can “see” their child the way that they can
• Gather evidence with video and photo to share information about your child
• Child Decoded fills that gap for parents to go from “I have worries” to restarting when parents feeling stuck in the treatment/not sure what to do or where to go next
• Modify the environment vs supporting our kids in living in the “real world”
• Paradigm shift – we can be seeing every child in a more holistic way, look at every child as an individual… Mind AND body
• Current lens – we tend to treat at the symptom level with the “quickest” approach (lots of times with meds)
• Sometimes the answer is really simple
• Complimentary/Alternative medicine
• Both/and mindset… so many solutions in both western and eastern medicine
• Putting together the team – who is needed?
• How do you support parents with overwhelm and loneliness as they advocate for their kids…? Find support on the internet/social media – be proactive in seeking out support
• Breathe – complex issues or not, you are in this for the long haul

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Know that you have more experience with your child than anyone else…  You know your child the best. Have faith in your child, have faith in yourself.”

Robinmcevoy.com l Childdecoded.com

Blog l FB – Dr. Robin McEvoy

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Dedication to the Conscious Dad who sent in feedback about being excluded.  I am so grateful to know that there are dads out there that are enjoying my content!!  Big thanks to this dad and all dads that are listening to the show.

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Intro Sharing:

• Thank you, listeners!!
• Honored to serve you…
• Mother’s Journey recap – Seattle, Portland, Boise
• Orange County, East Hampton, St. Paul – 2018 Mother’s Journey locations
• Boldly Embody Life – Krista Petty Raimer, Grace, Elevate
• When I am a yes to trusting, surrender and presence is already there
• Visioning for 2018

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Content:

Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences

• Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold
• What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting?
  • Reference to a poll on my personal FB page
  • Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend?
• Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class
• The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well…
• Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions
• There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way
• Parents internal experience takes over
• Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility
• Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way
• This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them
• Kids need to feel the tension
• Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn
• Example – homework
• Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want
• Check your assumptions… and check in with your child
• Humans LONG to be listened to, seen
• Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible
• What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect
• Allow the natural consequence the power that they have
• Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence
• Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings
  • joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse
• We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives
• What already exists when they make mistakes is powerful!

Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.

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 My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. 

A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. 

Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!" 

You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.

Content:

• Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity
• Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned
• Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time
• The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide
• How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article
• Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO
• Opportunity shows up in raising our boys
  • We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual
  • It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate
• Documentary of The Mask You Live In
  • Not giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys
  • Navigating the jockeying for power among boys
• Redefining what it means to be masculine
• What is being modeled in the homes for our boys?
• Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset
• Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions
• Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings
• Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger
• Popular culture isn’t helpful
• Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings
• AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them
• When our boys make mistakes we need to help them
• Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG
• Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children’s sexual development
• Start talking to your boys
• Don’t let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves
• Amy’s short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids
• Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others
• Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what’s right”
• Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit
• Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!!
• Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief
• Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem

Where to find Tosha:

www.toshaschore.com

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE

6 week email course that guides you in setting up the family meeting routine/practice. It is on demand so that as soon as you sign up the emails will begin to show up in your inbox!

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Big thanks to the community!  Thank you for listening and supporting the work of Joyful Courage!

Please pass on this show to AT LEAST one person who you think it will land with! Your sharing helps me grow and expand this work – YOU are helping to create the impact and make the world a better place.

Content:

• I am on the journey with you, I am with you! Highs and lows, you are my peeps!
• The teen saga continues….
• Having a teen is like birth, you think you’re so prepared and then…. Reality hits!
• Teen brain experiences everything so intensely
• Eps 115 was all about trust and surrender
• Celebrate the relationship
• Using and developing breath as a tool
• 4:45 Our children are our teachers – they picked us!
• We don’t know what we don’t know and our children highlight that for us
• Their way of being invites our “stuff” to the surface
• We then choose how to respond
• End of the day – they are operating from their developmental place, limited skills, brain development
• 7:50 Parenting is a never-ending growth and development workshop – we can choose to resist or to grow/evolve
• 9:15 There is a purpose to this journey
• Let’s live a life where we are paying attention
• Our children show us stepping stones to our own growth
• When we choose into growth and learning we can influence the experience we are having
• You can only change yourself, you can’t change others
• Positive Discipline for Teenagers
• Mistakes our kids make can rock our foundation and philosophy around parenting
• Being kind and firm at the same time is one of the pillars
• Peeling back layers of what that ^^ means
• Kindness only = permissive
• Firmness only = authoritarian
• Kind isn’t NICE, it’s connected, firm is respecting ourselves and the situation
• It’s about progress not perfection, and becoming ever more AWARE of what is happening for us
• Making agreements is a kind and firm PD parenting tool
• Get into our child’s world, here what their needs are, share what we need, make a plan together, declare a deadline, follow through (parents)
• “What was our agreement?”
• It’s not about being nice while we deliver a consequence…
• The invitation is to make agreements with YOUR children
• Not necessarily about the problem we solve, instead it is more about the life skills the kids are practicing inside of the agreement-making
• Not about finding a solution that lasts forever – every solution has a shelf life

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE

6 week email course that guides you in setting up the family meeting routine/practice. It is on demand so that as soon as you sign up the emails will begin to show up in your inbox!

Sign up now:

http://www.joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse

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COACHING WITH CASEY

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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My guests today are Shannon Kinney-Duh, creator of A Free Spirit Life, and Ashley Walburn, owner of Home Holistic, and the founders of The Mindful Mama Movement – a podcast, community that empowers mamas, encourages authentic living and celebrates what it means to live an inspired life. 

Shannon and Ashley bring women from around the world, in all stages of motherhood, on a journey of learning how to trust ourselves, how to listen to their intuition, how to let go and forgive, and how to embrace imperfection in the mess of life. They inspire others to practice mothering from a place of presence, creativity, humor and wisdom.

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Content:

• How Ashley and Shannon met
• The birth of the Mindful Mama Movement Podcast
• The power of trusting our gut is the work of parenting
• Popular opinion vs turning inward towards our intuition
• Inspiring women to trust themselves and reconnect to their own intuition
• Moving from survival to space in our life to enjoy it
• We are good at the head stuff by dropping into our heart is a powerful way to shift into being with our family
• HAHA!! Interrupted by the birth of a baby J ((real life people))
• Woohooo – Ashley shares the birth story that interrupted our show
• Creating communities for mamas
• Going to yoga class and staying for connection with other mamas
• Who are you? How are you? Inviting community to be together and real
• Being part of community allows us to discover our own value and wisdom
• Online communities can be places of powerful discovery, allowing for thought time and the possibility of going deeper
• Themes that show up in groups – “Am I doing it right?” “Am I okay?” “Is this normal?” “What am I outside of mom?” “How do I find balance and flow while being a good mom?”
• Exploring our roles
• People are seeking to be real
• We are better mamas when we nurture all parts of us
• Theme that shows up with mamas is desire for simplicity – declutter, let go, surrender
• Jaws theme music is not helpful!!

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What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

Ashley: Joyful courage, I think for me… The biggest part of what I do, whether it is at  a birth or meeting one on one with mothers, is really just finding your power and stepping into your own strength, not giving a shit, anything, a thought about what anyone else thinks – what do I really want? What does my baby really want? And go from my soul… I know this is right, and when I feel grounded and feel like myself, then I make decisions that are mine.  When I feel like myself, then I feel braver to do everything. And it gives my kids permission to do the same.

Shannon: Ditto that, and adding having a playful, just making sure we are really following our heart, our instinct, and looking at taking risks with a sense of adventure – that is how I see my daily life – look at this without the jaws music, stay curios, stay playful and light -  not always that way - we are so dang serious about this parenting stuff! I just want to look at taking risks and being brave with a sense of adventure, that’s joyful courage.

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Where to find Ashley and Shannon:

Mindful Mama Movement podcast

FB Page l FB Group l IG

Ashley:

Home Holistic  

FB Page

Shannon:

A Free Spirit Life

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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For more information, shoot me an email – casey@joyfulcourage.com
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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Dedication: I love you Jessica, Micki, Stephanie and Jennette. Thank you for being my support and my safe harbor through the journey of raising teens.

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Solo show!  I am digging into my own trenches and what is currently alive in my experience of parenting two adolescent kids.  Pulling back the curtain to share what it means to truly pull back the curtain and TRUST the process.

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Content:

• The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting
• Parenting for the long term…
  • Keeping in mind brain development
  • Mistakes are opportunities for learning
  • Everyone should have a voice
  • Relationship matters
  • Kindness, firmness and trust
• Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model
• My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen
• Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together
• All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society
• In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices
• I know I am not alone in this rub
• We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor
• Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound
• GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com
• If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves
• We then can evoke trust in our relationships
• Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes)
• The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back
• Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding
• Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly
• “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer
• Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter
• Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available
• Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!)
• Neutral allows space for relationship with our children
• The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them.
• Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy
• There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up
• Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably
• We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different
• Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life!
• DAILY INTENTION CARDS – 31 cards for setting a daily intention joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards coupon code: PODCAST for 10% off your first order J

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

One more in 2017 – Boise, ID November 4th - This is for every mom
For more information, shoot me an email – casey@joyfulcourage.com
Or register now at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

• Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully
• Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you”
• Navigating fear
• The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard
• Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing
• Our olders have mixed feelings
• The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings  - awareness of what is happening internally for us
• What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression
• What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible
• Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings
• Cure – more connection, more empathy
• “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem”
• Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later”
• Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks
• Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day!
• Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release
• Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig
• Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time
• “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings
• Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them
• Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older
• Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham
• ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out
• Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child
• Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent
• Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

Website l FB Group
Sarah’s FREE Stop Yelling Ecourse
Sarah’s virtual Introducing New Baby Workshop ((STARTS 10/19)

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Welcome to this week’s solo show!  Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in!

What you will hear this episode:

The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America.  Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough.

• Classroom management is slippery
• Teachers are doing the best they can with the tools they have
• Navigating student’s needs with the academic requirements passed on to teachers
• Pendulum swings from social/emo learning to academics
• Pressure to teach kids what they “need to know”
• Teachers ALWAYS name the social/emotional skills as their desire for students
• There is an assumption that children are learning life skills in the home
• Teachers fall back on behavior systems
• “Charting” children’s behavior
• Assumption that students have what they need to be cooperative, contributing members of the classroom
• Temperament matters
• So how do we talk to teachers about our children’s need?
• You, the teacher, counselor, after school people, you are all the child’s support team
• When communication fails amongst adults, child suffers
• Coming from fear, we show up offensive, invites defense from others
• Teachers have a tricky job
• Connect before correct is a powerful tool to take advantage of in all the relationships of our life – teachers/school staff included
• Use curiosity
• How can you educate the teacher about your child in a way that enlightens them about your child and all children
• It is useful when a parent comes to the teacher and says “I see you and the tough job you have, and I want to educate you about my child”
• Pay attention to your physical response/mama bear mode, and PAUSE before emailing/calling the teacher
• Get in touch with your child’s teacher BEFORE there is an issue – build relationship
• Make amends when you need to – repair matters AND you are modeling really important behavior for others
• The person that benefits the most is your child!

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

• College friends turned podcast co-hosts
• Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas
• Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents
• SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like
• Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience
• Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule
• Freedom to travel
• Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing
• Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing
• Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills
• Vastness of homeschooling
• Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism
• Being conscious about what your main goal is
• Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest
• Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready
• Early entry into extra-curricular activities
• Simplicity Parenting John Paine
• Supporting kids through their changes of heart
• It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story
• The process of navigating waning interest is rich
• Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream
• Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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Where to find Angela and Maren:

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week!  Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

A Free Spirit Life

A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh.   Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/

or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast.

Living Joyful Courage Membership Program

• Doors are OPEN through October 1st!
• Join us today!
• Members share their experience of learning and community
• Themes coming up: October – Mindset, November – Respect, December – Gratitude
• Access to all past webinars, as well as content over the next three months
• 3 month commitment for one payment of $159
• joyfulcourage.com/ljc
• Book a short FREE call to ask questions https://ljc.youcanbook.me/

Todays Content

• Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends
• Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD
• Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters
• Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about
• Shopping cart analogy
• My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences
• Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way
• Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do?
• The space between authoritarian and permissive styles
• Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness
• True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust
• Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship
• Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable
• My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world
• You have to be who you are
• So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill
• Children get to DESIGN themselves
• Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear
• My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust
• What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group
• GIVEAWAY!! Win a copy of Love Warrior by writing a review of the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes

Thank You!

Come back next week for a brand new interview! Listen to the podcast through the website OR subscribe!!! Find me on iTunes, Google Play or iHeartRadio! 

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Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher  and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting.  Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully.  As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work.  In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Alison shares Bonnie Harris’ iceberg analogy and how it guides parents to identify the underlying root of a child’s behavior.
• Like a medical issue, we often treat the symptom until the symptoms persist then we are forced to find the root cause.
• Realizing that the child’s behavior that triggers us is the root cause of our reaction and inability to connect and show up best for the child.
• Only when we dig into our roots and what is underneath our icebergs can we better guide our children through their own experiences.
• Triggers can cause us to panic and ‘future trip’ into fear about our child’s behavior, enabling us into unhelpful methods.
• Using our curiosity to dig to the root - is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, cold, hot, uncomfortable, lonely?.
• Once we identify our triggers we can move into the practice of showing up the way our kids need us to.  We chose connection and enforcement that they matter.
• Often we misjudge our kids motivation and intention leading to disconnection and an increase in the child’s mischief.
• Once a parent gets it and truly understands the process begins within the parent first then the practice strengthens and the child, family and parent begin to thrive.
• There is no one perfect general response to situations with your child.  
• Practicing prevention, in-the-moment and then repair strategies alleviate and get to the root of the issue.
• An open conversation on how parenting is shifting from authoritarian to permissive.  Why parents today need something to change and are willing to find the courage to revolutionize how the adult/child relationship evolves.

 Where to find Alison:

Website l Facebook l Instagram l You Tube

 Change the World in A Generation (video)

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PNW FALL TOUR!!

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent.  Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development.

 What you will hear

• The emotional journey of choosing Positive Parenting
• Is your inner voice helping or hindering your practice
• Our old stories can create blocks when we practice PD
• What shows up when our children touch on those old stories (triggers)
• How we talk to ourselves when it seems everyone around us has it together
• Where do we chose to sit when we are in anger, resentment and “stuckness”
• Why are you choosing PD and/or Conscious Parenting?
• What are the themes that drive us to want to parent this way?
• What themes to we use to keep us on a pendulum
• Once we choose into the practice we can create habits that navigate through these themes and stories
• Awareness is the first step to helping us acknowledge the triggers so we can create a connection into this parenting journey
• This is a collective journey
• Mindfulness with ground us into the practice and what we need
• Using mindfulness will bring you into your biggest tool- your body, senses, feelings and emotions
• Listening to your body is accepting the messages and signals you are sending to your conscious
• What do you notice in challenging situations?
• Where do your signals sit? Belly? Shoulders? Chest?
• Follow the wisdom your body is sending.
• Fears cloud our vision and takes us into the “what ifs”
• Getting curious allows us to approach our children without getting stuck in the fog
• How to use the neutrality of your body to shift into a better experience
• Shifting can open us up the possibility that we are the best parent for our kids and we can make repairs

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Podcast Highlight:

In Her Voice, By Kelly Covers

website l itunes l FB l IG

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!!  She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• The parenting struggle is real
• Meredith opens up about the first few years with little ones
• Feeling stuck, alone and eventually facing a difficult life event moved her to speak out
• We are not alone, we all feel lost at some point
• Sharing the hard parts of the journey is the first step in thriving though it
• You deserve more than to survive
• Parents deserve to thrive
• Creating a like-experiencing community can support us through even the most mundane events, potty training anyone?
• Humor is key! Sometimes the truth and humor are all you need to feel connected
• How to handle overnight success and sticking with your purpose
• The importance of modeling purpose
• Why having our own goals outside of our kids is important
• Balance is tough
• Letting go of ‘mom-guilt’

Where to find Meredith:

Website l Facebook I Instagram l Twitter l You Tube

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Skills, skills skills! Mama Tanya shares with our community an incredible example of how meeting your child where they are at can shift the outcome of your experience. It is easy for us as parents to become presumptive about misguided behavior  Remember how curiosity is key? By becoming curious with our kids, we are able to recognize the skills they still need to develop, as well as see the reasons for certain choices, which are not always what they seem.

Mama Tanya shares:

“Sorry for the long post but I need some advice. “ school, and they gave him homework to do over the weekend. He said he didn't think it was fair to have homework on the weekends (which I agree), but on Saturday he set his homework on fire! Took the lighter when no one was watching, went outside like he was going to go play, and set it on fire burning half the page and dunking it in the pool.

When I found the half burned sheet of paper in the pool, I kept my cool but was obviously shocked that he would react that way to homework. I let him know that I thought it was a poor decision to 1. light something on fire (safety!) and 2. refuse to do his homework in such a permanent way. Internally I felt helpless and frantic to solve the problem, externally I let him know that I get it, homework sucks, and I reminded him that he could ask for help.

I asked him what made him set it on fire, was he feeling overwhelmed? Or angry? Or both?  He was visibly upset both about being caught and about homework so I didn't preach or press the issue until later that day. When he was calm I talked to him about how sometimes we have to do things we don't like (like washing dishes) but we can learn to do it anyway, it doesn't have to be perfect, and we can ask for help.

I also explained that between two extremes (setting homework on fire and staying up till midnight doing homework- neither which are healthy) he could find a happy medium. He said he had not done his best and that he would try to do his best this week. - I felt like it was handled positively all in all.

But, when he told his father and co-parent (who lives elsewhere) over the phone, his dad immediately started saying that he wasn't going to send him something previously promised, that he would take his computer and phone away if he ever did it again, and went into punishment mode.

So, what would you do? I thought about saying he couldn't do his electronic time until he completed his homework. Or I would give him extra electronic time every time he completed his homework. But I am super conflicted. I feel like homework issues should be dealt with by the teacher. Natural consequences. Of course I want to help the teacher, but not sure how...”

Bullet Point:

• How to approach the reasoning behind the behavior
• Kids do more in response with how they feel
• Getting off the emotional freight train
• Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence
• Parents assume children make choices rationally, when in fact they have limited skills
• Revisiting Dr. Siegel’s “Palm of the Hand” example
• Assessing what else can be going on inside their body
• How to identify lacking skills and helping kids deal with the discomfort
• Letting go of our perspective as the only perspective
• Letting go of “should” (ex. They should know better)

Quotes:

14:52 “Curiosity really allows us to move past assumptions and get into our child’s world”.

15:07 “Curiosity requires us to let go of the idea that we know all the answers and what it is that our kids need”.

Links mentioned in the show:

Podcast Episode 75 – Marcilie Boyle

Podcast Episode 100 – Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Dan Siegel's Brain Video

Casey's Teaches Kids about the Brain

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road.  Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it.  With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape.

What you will hear in this episode:

• Alex’s journey into and out of chaos
• An experience of transitions from a working professional to working mom to stay at home mom and back to working mom
• Our vision vs. our reality
• Why finding calm is so important as a mother
• The importance of mother’s nurturing a relationship with self
• Identifying patterns and models in current parenting
• Understanding where patterns and models come from
• Understanding the internal work necessary to tackle patterns & models
• How we set ourselves up and why this can ultimately lead to chaos
• Changing how we see the road – going from linear to cyclical
• Understanding the cycles through life
• Awareness of what we model for our kids
• Access to tools 1) manage stress 2) manage anger 3) creating a life for yourself that are aligned with values and self loving
• How our words create expectations for the inner child
• Where courage lies
• Summary of how Alex helps mamas on the road to calm - #1 Internal Work #2 External Work
• Self Care – is about “doing stuff that lights you up”
• Calm responding wisdom & tools

Quotes:

“When you have kids and you're a stay-at-home mom and you have stay-at-home parents, checking those boxes and feeling that sense of achievement doesn’t always happen”. 6:34

“Models and patterns live deep inside of me based on my own childhood and my own experiences”. 11:16

“Create a new best friend voice that is going to support us in the choices we are going to make”. 12:06

“If we can switch from that and seeing these mistakes, those blowups as opportunities to reconnect with your kid, teach your kid, learn yourself”. 20:28

“It’s your job to love yourself and to practice self care and self love because your children are watching you. AND you are a better everything when you do”. 43:04

What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

“I think that you need to be courageous to be a conscious mom, to practice positive parenting, or to take that journey toward calm responding. It’s about opening yourself up to feelings. It’s about treating those moments as learning opportunities when you do ‘make those mistakes’. When you open yourself up, you need to be courageous to be vulnerable. Once you do that it opens up this space for connection, which without there would be no joy”.

Where to find Alex:

Website
Facebook
Linkedin

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Practice, practice, practice. There is no other way to really move into how we want to BE. Practice is the key. The beauty of choosing and moving through practice is we discover new ideas, concepts and understandings that make our practice more enjoyable AND dare I say magical. In this episode we dig a little deeper into the idea of using our lens to take us to where we want to go. When toddling through different lenses we can shift this practice even deeper.  We are joined by Ian O’Roarty, tween extraordinaire, into the lens of his practice through making amends. Listen and see how many fruitful lenses you discover.

What you will hear:

• iTunes reviews – yay!! Thank you!!
• Ian is my guest to talk about what making amends looks and feels like from an 11 year old perspective
• Power of perception
• Moving into the perception of being a new sibling
• What might that look like to a toddler?
• How we collect evidence to support our perception
• What will we choose in the practice of collecting evidence?
• Is our evidence creating our fears? OR is our evidence helping us move through how we want to be?

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Essential Oils

It’s all about the peppermint this week. I played with using this essential oil to increase my focus and concentration when it was time to WORK.

** I am not an expert – I am learning and sharing with you as I go.  DO YOUR RESEARCH TO STAY SAFE!!

If you are interested in finding our more you can email me at casey@joyfulcourage.com OR get your first starter kit at  http://bit.ly/caseyyloils

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Ep. 104 Kristin Hovious

Intro:

Kristin Hovious is a committed teacher with over a decade of experience in vocational, adult education, serving Chicago’s Cortiva Institute as both Education Director (2007-2008) and Adjunct Faculty Member (2006-2017.)  Her training as a massage therapist and yoga teacher provides a foundation and love for anatomy and science of human development.

As a Positive Discipline Certified Trainer, Kristin, combines a career of teaching and serving with her passion for creating mutually respectful environments for families, children, classrooms and schools. In her collaboration with teachers, administrations and families, Kristin’s goal is to help facilitate opportunities for adults and students to become compassionate leaders, with the hope that doing so will help build more peaceful communities. Kristin has served on the Positive Discipline Association Board of Directors as a Consultant since 2016.

What you will hear in this episode:

• Kristin’s journey into Positive Discipline (PD)
• How PD grew in the Hovious’ Home and the challenges that came with learning a new way
• How teaching anatomy in her career paved the way for curiosity in neuroscience
• Understanding how emotions and behaviors influence connection
• Discussion on ‘kind and firm’ rephrasing as ‘connection and accountability’ and why
• Why shifting society’s idea of mistakes and punishments lacks ability to repair
• Understanding mistakes as opportunities to learn
• How repairing is a practice and it has the power to transform our relationships
• Mistakes lead to repairing opportunities
• Kristin walks us through four steps in healthy repair
• Relatable examples from Kristin’s own life help us empathize and feel supported in our own challenges
• Modeling is key
• Sticking to our agendas is a way we move away from connection
• When we repair relationships we have the power to heal connections
• Diving into our parenting pain so we can make amends
• Discomfort is a place to get curious, not a place to get stuck

 “I don’t think repairing relationships comes naturally or easy to us. It is practice”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“What Joyful courage means to me is that there is a consistent opportunity to practice repair.  That is always worth it - it’s so important in the whole trajectory in our lives together as human beings.  If we can be joyful in repair then maybe we can also turn the corner and be joyful about mistakes”.

Where to find Kristin:

Selchicago.com

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Who needs sleep? If you think about your best parenting moments vs. your more challenging ones I think we could venture to say that sleep OR lack of sleep would be a BIG contender.  We have all been there. We move fluidly through that familiar bedtime routine, finish that last Llama Llama page, kisses, lights out….. We are no further from the kitchen when we hear “Mooooooooooom”!!! or Daaaaaaadddddeeeeeeeeeeee”! Sigh.

Mama Christine posted this week about her daughter’s sleep struggles “oh, tribe, apologies for the long post, but I'm in dire need of some help. bedtime. dear lord, my daughter is 5, and it. is. brutal. her bedroom is on the first floor, mine is upstairs. she's often hungry before bedtime, so we usually do a snack like high fat yogurt and fruit. after bedtime jobs are done, i read to her, we sing, and say our goodnights...generally 20ish minutes. nearly every night, she's out of bed for any number of 'reasons': need to say goodnight to the dog, still hungry, thirsty, needs to say something to me, needs to ask me a question, needs another hug, says she can't sleep (within minutes of me leaving her bedroom) and the list goes on”. 

Christine is not alone here, otherwise there would not be a book called Go the F@ck to Sleep . Let’s break this struggle down, so Christine can get some sleep and her little one can feel peaceful slumber.

What you will hear:

·      Iceberg view – top of the iceberg; requests, getting our of bed, one last… Under the surface; belonging and significance, influence, connection

·      Mischief showing up when we have misguided ideas about belonging and significance

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Kate Orson is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children is on the podcast today! Originally from the UK she now lives in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and their four year old daughter Ruby.

You can find her work in parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• An introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting
• Children’s natural healing abilities
• Helping to attune to a child in a calm manner
• The benefits of crying
• Need for cortisol to be released from a stressful event
• It’s crucial children have safe space to release stress
• How to find ways to connect, special time
• Learn to listen to your children’s emotions
• Signs to look for in distressed children
• Getting out of our need to “fix it” or “stop it” response
• Children will release on their own terms
• Be available and take an interest in them

Quotes:

“I think our entire culture has this mental block when it comes to crying”.

“I came across this different way of listening to the emotions. It’s reframing the way we view tears. It’s about listening and allowing the feelings”.

“Children need safety to let go of feelings”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I would say parenting is really really hard work. Sometimes we make mistakes and it may seem really hard to get up the next day and embrace it as a fresh day.  We should have the Joyful Courage to embrace the challenges of parenting”.

Where to find Kate:

website I Facebook I Twitter

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Young Living Essential Oil

You’ve heard me speak a bit about the benefits I am experiencing with Young Living Essential Oils – let me know if you want to chat more by shooting me an email at casey@joyfulcourage.com OR go to http://bit.ly/caseyyloils - I am happy to support you!

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Casey is solo!

One of the most effective and accessible tools in Positive Discipline, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer.  Casey and her very special guest, Melany, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy
·      Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s
·      Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence
·      An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance
·      What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables
·      How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Young Living Essential Oil

Today you heard me talk about how helpful Panaway Essential Oil was in keeping my family healthy.  If you are interested in finding out more about Young Living Essential Oils, feel free to email me at casey@joyfulcourage.com OR go to http://bit.ly/caseyyloils - I am happy to support you!

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers:  The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline.  She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist.  She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world.  Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology.  You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.

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What you will hear in this episode:

• How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD
• How science can help guide parents in really profound ways
• Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught
• The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child
• How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation
• How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request
• Paying attention to a developing nervous system
• If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior
• How to influence the nervous system in both self and child
• Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone
• The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet
• Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating
• Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune
• Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills
• When to seek out professional help
• Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org)
• New techniques require time and PRACTICE
• Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you”
• Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique
• Body shift can help shift emotions
• How discipline is teaching
• We need to give children tools not take them away
• Thoughts on consequences
• Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child
• How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone”

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage to me means having the courage to reflect on our own areas of growth and also having the courage to trust development to unfold. Trusting that we are doing a good enough job.”

Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:

tinabryson.com – infinite resources to put into practice!
Facebook l Twitter

What to watch for:

New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
The YES Brain -  January 2018
Showing Up – TBD 

Info from the Show:

Lantern Camps
Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org
Camp Chippewa  http://campchippewa.com/

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