Today’s guest is Luna Leverett, a mom to 12 and 11 year old, and a public speaker who helps overwhelmed women find peace in life by simplifying things. We are going to talk about getting real with the holidays. Join us!
“Your job as a mom is to build a protective hedge around your family and not let them get stressed out and over-stimulated by all the ten thousand things”
• Being the magic makers: doing all the things
• Creating happy memories not just of the holidays and of parents for your kids
• Christmas cards – do you really need to send them?
• Managing expectations – fantasy vs reality
• Avoiding resentment
• How to design the holiday you want to have – focus on the 3 Ms
• What is YOUR mission? Separating that from expectations of others
• Minutae –picking activities and details that support your mission
• Move it – assess which activities that you can enjoy at another time of the year to focus on your mission
• Elf on a Shelf – effectiveness as a behavior modification tool, another thing on your to do list
• Giving yourself permission not to do the same things as everyone else – peer pressure
• Focusing on the things that bring you joy
• Taking the “shoulds” out of the season
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
“Courage to me is head down, get it done, life is going to be hard at times and you might doubt yourself or feel other people doubting you and you’re just going to have to go out and do it regardless. But joyful courage to me is a picture of having chin up, smile on your face, and for me, parenting. It takes a lot of courage to take on the responsibility of raising what needs to grow up to be responsible adults and those little lives are in your hands for such a young age. But you can do it scared, or you can do it with joy even in the arguments and even in the hard times, that there’s always joy to be found. If it’s just the sweet relationship you have with each of these people in your family that gives you what you need to go out and do the courageous job of parenting with your chin up, with a smile on your face.”
Where to find Luna:
Podcast: Confessions Behind the Minivan
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Today’s guest is Laurie Hatch, a “radical grandma” with strong ideas and opinions about how children who can be raised. She has eleven kids, 44 grandkids and has worked in education, now consulting and training. We are going to talk about kids under 5 and how to handle aggressive behavior. Join us!
“If I could teach parents one thing it would be: never expect kids to share. Kids do not share until the ages of 4 and 5 when it becomes important to them to have a playmate who stays with them and collaborates”
“Sharing is one of the most inappropriate expectations we have in childhood and a huge trigger. We were taught to be nice and share and that if you don’t share you aren’t nice.”
“About the time we start to figure out parenting, we are done”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
• Exploring the language we use to describe behaviors our kids engage in
• How separating ourselves from our children’s behavior changes how we describe and perceive it
• Sibling rivalry and how we help create it
• The role of supervision in mitigating sibling conflict
• What is scaffolding and how does it relate to correcting behavior?
• Setting reasonable expectations around kid’s ability to self-regulate: improvement vs. mastery
• Child development and how that impacts how sibling conflict plays out
• Resolving conflict through curiosity
• Naturalist observational report: talking to kids about what happened absent of judgment and assumption
• Sharing expectations: why and when developmentally kids share and how expecting it can create challenges
• Biting and tantrums in context: how language and maturity impact these phases
• Backtalk versus advocacy: reframing sassy behavior
• Repetitive behaviors: chances to try different approaches to resolve conflict
• Nurturing in the heat of conflict: why it helps and how to do it even when it’s hard.
• Solutions vs punishments. Focusing on the goal and expected behavior and being permissive aren’t the same thing, resolution doesn’t need to be punitive
• Relationship repair and how to recover fromparenting missteps
• Spanking – where does it come from and what else can you do in the moment
• Post-conflict recaps: encouraging perspective taking and problem solving
• The role of family meetings: connecting rather than blaming
• Parenting education helps learn about parenting process
• Triggers: why do we have them and what they can teach us about ourselves?
• Self-care and parenting – how journaling can help
• Problem solving without fault
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
“Joy is the essence of being centered in truth. Courage is heart. I try to live so my life and heart are centered on the things I know are true. I have limited knowledge so I’m continually looking for that. I draw on my courage so that I can speak out in active ways that are in harmony with what I believe. Joy is not fleeting, it’s not like happiness. Joy is a constant and a choice in life. If you have joy in your heart, you’re able to endure challenges and adversity because you have this constant centered on truth."
Where to find Laurie:
Website
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Today’s guest is Sara Yao, a leadership coach who transitioned to self-employment on the birth of her child. While her book doesn’t focus on parenting specifically, the principles are incredibly relevant to parenting. Join us!
“It’s about how often you can be present, not how often you can be perfect.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
“I have such deep respect for myself and for others when they are just willing to examine and question – when they do, the liberation that comes from moving out of a pattern or coming to and waking up, that to me is the epitome of joyful courage. Have the courage to look, feel free and at choice again.”
Resources:
Her book, “Drop in: Leading with deeper presence and courage”
Her book, Get Present
Where to find Sara:
Facebook l Twitter l Her website
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This month's Ask Casey episode digs into how to engage our children in conversations about behavior and emotions when they are reluctant to meet us in the conversation...
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Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, from Imperfect Families. She’s a mom of 3 girls, a parenting coach and child and family therapist who focuses on helping parents use positive, respectful strategies with their kids. Today we are talking about sibling conflict. The questions we are discussing come straight from the community - join us!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
• How to keep sibling conflict to a dull roar with a relationship focus in your parenting
• Balancing the desire to step in with giving space for them to work it out for themselves
• “Say what you see” approach to conflict resolution by describing it
• Role of modeling and coaching for creative solutions
• Deescalating techniques to resolve conflict
• Understanding the role of neurological development on decision making in conflict
• Having empathy for a sense of injustice and encouraging empathy in your kids
• Teaching kids that “people get what they need” and how that might be different and lead to perceived inequity
• Understanding impulse control limitations and flooding and how it leads to physical acting out
• Using proactive practice and play based knowledge to avoid future conflict
• How to focus on what led to acting out to avoid shaming while encouraging learning
• Exercising compassion around evolving nature of self-regulation
• Understanding jealous and resentment around new babies and the needs of other siblings
• Introducing the concept of mixed feelings to kids who are too young to have that insight for themselves
• Coaching around sharing toys and how to place limits on it – sharing power, soliciting and implementing solutions from your kids
• Improving connection to reduce rivalry – using one-on-one time to address your child’s jealousy
• The value of shifting focus from our kid’s behavior to our own behavior – recognizing it’s the only thing we can control
• Contextualizing power struggles as kids trying to navigate their world
• Reframing “bossy” behavior in a positive way and channeling it for good
• Changing how we see tattling
• The value of redo’s and self care
Resources:
Brain in the Palm for Kids video
Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber
Peaceful Parents Happy Siblings: How To Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends For Life by Dr. Laura Markham
Where to find Nicole:
Facebook l Twitter I Her website
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Today’s guest is Sheri Gazitt, founder of a company called “Teen Wise” which focuses on teen issues like bullying, perfectionism, stress and friendship issues. She’s a mom of 3 girls in their teens. Join us!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
“It gives me very positive vibes. It means we are happy with ourselves about what challenges we take on and parenting is definitely one of those challenges. It means to be happy and joyful even if we make mistakes, if we fail at something horribly, just to be joyful about the fact that we have that challenge in front of us and we are willing to take it on and give it our all."
Resources:
Reviving Ophelia
Where to find Sheri:
Her website l Facebook l Twitter
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