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Today’s guest is Sharon Ballantine! With 3 children to parent, she turned to books for help with parenting, but she never had the time to read and process the information in the books. So, with no other options available to her, she decided to rely on her own intuition and her own Internal Guidance System for parenting. She began using this technique and the law of attraction to manifest exactly what she wanted as a parent. In this episode, Sharon shares exactly how she made it all happen! Join us!

Sharon Ballantine is a Parenting and Life Coach and Founder of the Ballantine Parenting Institute. Her book, The Art of Blissful Parenting, guides parents with practical as well as spiritual advice in raising their children. It also guides parents on how to get into alignment, discover and use their own IGS before they can teach their children.

In this episode Sharon also discusses:

• How to find answers within yourself
• You have an internal guidance system that begins with your feelings
• Why leaving the room can help you get “in alignment” to parent
• Physical movement can be a tool to help bring you into a centered place of alignment
• Changing the subject that is causing stress and bad energy can cause a shift in energy
• The teenage years are the years of “personal discovery”
• Parents spend the teen years in fear mode and resort to using control
• Whoever a teenager is today is not their final destination. Be patient; they will change.
• Why we want to avoid making our children feel bad at all costs
• Staying centered will give you the coping skills to deal with any kind of crazy you have to deal with
• “This too shall pass” - it is true especially for teens
• Ways to deal with teen behavior that is harmful
• Focusing on the future and consequences of actions can allow a teen to take responsibility and look at the big picture
• How to support your child’s development of their Internal Guidance System
• Ways her failures as a parent contributed to finding her Internal Guidance System
• What joyful courage means to her and how it contributes to bliss 

Resources Mentioned on the Show:

 The Secret - Rhonda Byrne

The Art of Blissful Parenting - Sharon Ballantine

Connect with Sharon:

Website - sharonballantine.com

 Facebook/sharonballantine

Twitter/LifeCoachSB

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Welcome to an inspiring episode with my friend, Beth Caldwell. Beth is a mom of two, a former civil rights lawyer, and a blogger who lives in Seattle. In 2014, at age 37, Beth found a lump during a breast self-exam, which turned out to be metastatic cancer already in her bones. You’ll appreciate Beth’s genuine honesty about our topic today: as parents of young children, how do we deal with illness, trauma, death, and loss? What do we tell them? How much is TOO MUCH for them to handle? You don’t want to miss this conversation, so join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Beth’s cancer journey from finding the lump until now
• The feedback from Beth’s frank and open blog: 99% positive
• Currently, her cancer is in her brain, right arm, and liver
• New breakthroughs with new drugs
• The worst part of chemo? Fatigue
• How to talk to kids with age appropriate language about cancer
• Don’t hide the truth: share what’s important for them to know
• Her son’s recent speech about advocacy for better research
• How to be open and create a safe space for their questions
• Be mindful: don’t live in fear and trauma
• Why Beth insists on “planning ahead”
• How cancer affects your spouse

What does “joyful courage” mean to Beth? “Courage is not an absence of fear; it’s being afraid and doing it anyway.”

Resources:

www.cultofperfectmotherhood.com

"The Cat is Out of the Bag" Beth's son finds out she will die of her cancer

www.metup.org

The Cancer that Wouldn’t Go Away by Hadassa Field

I Still Just Want to Pee Alone (series by Jen Mann and others, including Beth!)

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Jo Langford is a therapist and sex educator from Seattle, WA. Our conversation today will cover porn, social media ediquette, and sexting (yikes!). In a culture that is becoming ever more sexualized, how do we keep our kids safe and smart about what is out there? Joe and I have a very candid conversation about conversations to have with our children, while still maintaining relationship and family values…

Highlights:

• Jo has two kids, a middle schooler and an almost middle schooler. He is living his work!
• He’s been changing the world and making it better since high school.
• Joe trains parents, teachers and staff of organizations such as the YMCA and the Boys and Girls Club.
• Harder for kids to NOT see porn, than it is to be ABLE to see it.
• Families are getting in touch with Joe because their 10-16 year old is looking at a lot of porn parents talk about it and child continues to engage in it.
• What conversations you can have with your kids when they are noticing all of the opportunities to see/look at porn.
• When you see porn you can never “un-see” it.
• Instead of “how do I keep my child from being exposed to porn?” today, we need to be asking, “how do I handle it when my child sees porn?” – this is the reality based on statistic
• Open conversations are key… Keep them talking, by practicing your neutral face and manage your own stuff when they come to you to have tough conversations. The message becomes “I can handle what you bring me, no matter what.”
• What happens in the brain? Kicks up the pleasure centers, big hit of dopamine… If they continue to watch, the brain gets desensitized and wants to get to the next level.
• Talk to kids about building boundaries around tech. Encourage them to have real relationships, how to unplug, how to manage friends/people who sext. Rules/guidelines around where the phone/screen lives at night… Don’t wait until you NEED the guidelines – put them into place now.
• “Monitoring” software that Joe recommends – builds muscles of restraint and self control when kids have some access while also knowing that parents will see where they go – “we are trying to raise good grown ups”
• Qustidio – controlled through wifi – put the browser on kids devices. Controls, time limits, helpful.
• Disney’s Circle – easy to use, hooks up to wifi, all devices get put into categories (grown ups, teens, kids) and put time limits on use, also over 3G. AWESOME!
• Best strategy is to put most of the ownership and responsibility on the kids.
• “Not about me trusting you, it’s about you showing that you are trustworthy.”
• Joe has amazingly helpful PDFs on his website
• Making agreements together is key to our kids follow through.
• The internet is forever! You leave a trail….
• Grown ups are the models of what is appropriate/inappropriate – be good role models!
• SM challenges Joe sees with parents – Snapchat, no way to monitor because it all disappears… “Deeper end of pool” – super popular. Starting out with Snapchat is a huge mistake – kids need to start with FB or IG, and wade into social networking pool to learn how to interact online. Snapchat is more for later/older teens.
• Roll out the SM access, rather than giving kids full access from the beginning. Let them flex and develop their muscles.
• Get on the apps they want to use with them, let them teach you, normalize communicating with each other through this media.
• How do we help our kids deal with sexting? Statistically 20% - 30% of teens send pics, doubles when it is only “words” Girls sometimes start the behavior because they know the boys will respond. Joe advises the boys to respond with “this isn’t something you need to do… here are three things I like about you besides your boobs” – our girls are getting the wrong message about how to connect/get attention.
• Joe has a PDF about sexting – great prompts for powerful conversation.
• Kids have less hangups about sex and seem to be more comfortable with their bodies, but there is an abyss they can tumble into – we want them to be more discerning and thoughtful about who they share that with.
• Musical.ly – lip synch app. Conversations about song choice and messages they are sending to the world. Others make meaning/assessments of you (kids) based on what you put out there….
• Developing a discerning mind… All about practice.

Where to find Joe:

www.beheroes.net

Facebook l Twitter

Spare Me the Talk – written for teen boys

Spare Me the Talk the Girl Guide

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Taking risks that make you feel good about yourself.”

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Welcome! My guest today is Debbie Reber, the founder of TiLT Parenting, an online destination and podcast. The website was the result of parenting a “differently-wired” child with neurological differences. She found it hard to find information and support for the challenges that parents face when ADHD, autism, and dyslexia are the diagnoses. Her family moved from Seattle to Amsterdam three years ago, where she homeschools Asher today. Debbie’s desire was to create a community and a podcast to give parental support and to help kids feel accepted, understood, and heard. Let’s learn more together!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Preschool experiences: disruptive behavior and meltdowns
• Year-by- year education plan
• Assumptions that others make about ADHD & ODD
• Challenges of living in Amsterdam
• The Tilt Parenting Manifesto, based on true acceptance
• Atypical kids are everywhere—at least 20% of the population
• Why we don’t need the Shroud of Secrecy
• Ten Tilts to Shift the Game
• Amazing response from other parents
• The Vision? Shifting the whole parenting paradigm
• When options are limited for “normal” activities, like camp
• When normal strategies don’t work
• The benchmark mentality—usually by age 6
• Using resources
• Become fluent in your child’s language
• The problem-solving approach, and tweaking and tweaking and tweaking
• Joy in the growth of the child
• Self-care for parents is important!
• Asher joins in on the podcast for special episodes!

What does “joyful courage” mean to you?

“Having peace and joy is something I want parents to have in their experience. It takes a lot of courage to show up and be vulnerable in your relationship with your child and to lean into it. Embrace what is and notice the little things that bring peace and happiness.”

Resources:

www.tiltparenting.com
Connect on Debbie’s Facebook group also!
The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey

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