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August 11th Amy's latest book cam out, The Me Me Me Epoidemic: A Step by Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over Entitled World
Amy McCready is a Parent Education MACHINE! She has an amazingly popular Facebook community, and offers so many
Inspired by the work of Alfred Adler…
“The biggest difference comes when we change ourselves.”
Certified in Positive Discipline
Shout out to the recovering yellers!!
“...I love working with parenting and helping them bring out the best in themselves.”
Adlerian theory- strategies are based on respect, respect for the child and respect for the parent… All human being have a hardwired need for belonging and significance. We need to feel connected – to family, classroom, community. I need to make a difference, feel like I matter…
Behavior is goal directed – always take it back to the child’s sense of belonging and/or significance.. Getting to the bottom of this is what lasts long term. Get below the surface!
Connection without Entitlement??
The book begins with Mind, Body, Soul Time… Spending one on one time and attention with your kids, where you are fully present, mind, body and soul. You are fully present. Can be 10 or 15 minutes – this contributes “buckets” to belonging and significance to our kids. Powerful opportunity for connection.
Create an environment that allows kids to learn that their actions and choices have outcomes - some positive, some negative. Entitled kids aren’t connected to outcomes.
Focus on - What went wrong? What can we do different next time?
Natural Vs Logical Consequences…
“Solutions are always consequences, consequences are not always solutions.”
- Jody McVittie
They’re not helpless!! Take a step back – what are you currently doing for your kids that they are perfectly capable about doing for themselves?
There is a balance between helping each other out and when you are consistently doing things for them that they could be doing themselves… Back off, little by little.
Biggest mistake that is feeding into the entitlement epidemic? Smoothing their way --- smoothing out all their potential obstacles to keep out kids from experiencing discomfort. Does not give them the opportunity to develop resiliency.
What is a baby step for creating change for parents who recognize their have been contributing to the entitlement of their kids? Shift responsibility for one or two things….
Thank you Amy!!
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Such a great conversation with Marcille Smith Boyle!! Solving problems with our kids is no joke and such an important way to teach life skills. Marcille breaks down the task in a way that gets parents excited to practice!! She is full of information and real life stories that I know will be inspiring and helpful to you – Enjoy!
Marcille studied the work of Ross Green –
Lost at School
The Explosive Child
He writes and teaches about Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) – involving kids in solving their own behavior challenges
Parents tend to think it’s our job to solve our children’s behavior challenges… Truth is, our kids can be awesome problem solvers – yay!
The brain likes it’s own ideas best!!
David Rock – Neuro Leadership Group
CPS has 3 main steps –
- Empathize gather info from child – from their point of view
- Define the problem
- Brainstorm solutions together with your child.
Most powerful part --- not necessarily the process, but how we shift perspective about how we look and think and feel about behavior challenges….
Recognizing that behavior is a sign of something deeper that is going on.
“Most helpful when we can focus that deeper thing, rather than just the behavior itself.”
Your child’s behavior is not the problem – What’s the problem, THE PROBLEM! (I love that)
The problem is always underneath the surface…
“Kids do well if they can.” – Ross Green
Child won’t turn in his homework.
What’s the problem? Lacking organization skills and some auditory challenges… The solution is brainstormed with child and addresses these problems and the homework situation shifts (solutions arehelpful)
Consequences don't necessarily teach skills…
What are the lacking skills behind the behavior?
P.E.S.O.S. (Marcille's Problem Solving Recipe)
Combines principles of Ross Green’s work, with Positive Discipline and How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk
Prerequisite: You and your child must be level headed - calm, in a good place emotionally
When intensity is high, communication and problem-solving skills are low…
P – Permission… Giving yourself permission to engage and getting child’s permission
E – Empathize… Understanding problem from child’s perspective –stay neutral and specific – “Tell me about…. (the problem)” then validate their concern
S – State your concern… Short and sweet “My concern is…”
O – Options… Brainstorm options for solutions that are a win/win for you both
S – Select and idea to try… Must be realistic and mutually satisfactory
Try it out, make a date to review and see how it’s going…
Seeing our kids as a person who wants to do well, but have something in their way towards that success….
Watch the video below --
Click here for Marcille's handout on the steps of P.E.S.O.S.
Marcille Smith Boyle
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