My guest today is Cindy Muchnick.
Listen in this week as Cindy and I talk about “The Parent Compass” book & movement, a guide for parents on how to pull back & let go through the teen years. Moving from managing everything for your little kids to pulling back & giving your teens the reins can be really hard, but we have to do it. Cindy shares some tips for inviting feedback from your adolescent and why, sometimes, we do want our kids to struggle. I ask Cindy about how to talk to teens and stay solution-focused when they don’t seem to be a good fit or interested in a typical, four-year college path. We end by sharing thoughts on over-tutoring, letter grades, monitoring your teen’s grades, & picking colleges.
Takeaways from the show
“The Parent Compass” book & movement
Moving from manager to consultant during the teen years
Inviting feedback from your teen
Staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached”
Building resiliency by doing hard things
Gap years & options outside of four-year colleges
Conversations when your teen is struggling with academics
What does “do your best” really mean?
Over-tutoring, letter grades, & choosing colleges
For full show notes, including transcriptions, visit our website here.
Today the content comes straight from the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB group. I talk a lot with my clients and here on the pod about "energetic responsibility" and a mama posted a question asking me to go deeper. The result is this podcast!
My guest today is someone who is a friend to the JC pod, DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson.
This episode is all about mutual respect. Casey and DJ start by talking about how the idea of respect has changed from the 1950’s to today, and how kids & teens today are asking to & expecting to be respected. We teach respect by being respectful. They dig into whether or not kids need to earn their dignity, our respect, and our love (spoiler: they don’t). DJ points out that the way we treat our children at home is the basis for what they expect from other adults outside of the home, and Casey explains how kids being disrespected in their home can show up as defiance & disconnection. DJ shares stepping stones you can use when young people are disrespectful, a bit about how teenage brain development plays in, and how to be a leader from a place of service for your teen. Casey finishes up by touching on the power of “and” - teaching & expecting kids to respect themselves AND the person in front of them.
Takeaways from the show:
Showing up respectfully and modeling respect for our teens
The difference between respect and being nice
Cultivating and teaching respect by being respectful, not by demanding it
Kids deserve respect, dignity, & love - they don’t need to earn it
Disrespect in the home showing up as defiance and disconnect
Softening, respecting, and loving your kids regardless of how they’re showing up
Leading from a place of service
Teaching teens to respect themselves AND the person in front of them
For full show notes including transcriptions, visit our website here.
It's you and me, babe! You. And. Me. Another solo show for diving into work of parenting teens and rolling around in it together. Today I am talking about how encouragement can be a tool for relationship, skill building and showing up as our best. I share language and thoughts about how to uplevel the encouragement in YOUR home so that your teens are more likely to step into cooperation and collaboration.
My guest today is Rachel Macy Stafford.
Rachel joins Casey today to share about her new book, “Soul Shift,” and how to find joy and get back to yourself. Rachel shares the painful truth that started her journey. Casey and Rachel connect over the challenges that raising teens can bring, and how we can be present, relationship-focused, and connected with them during the tough times. Rachel shares a beautiful story about how being human and vulnerable with your teens allows them to be authentic with you, too. They touch on the messiness of teens and how we need to deeply know our children so we can best support them. Rachel shares some of her best practices to find self-worth & growth, like speaking to yourself compassionately and taking time for yourself.
Takeaways from the show
Cultivating the practice of presence
Asking yourself and owning why you do what you do
Finding time to nurture yourself
Uncovering and responding to one’s deepest truths
Connecting with your teen through presence
Being real, authentic, & vulnerable with your teen
Presence as a door opener for your teen
Letting go of distractions and prioritizing connection
Finding your self-worth
Being in your experience vs. observing the experience
For more show notes including full transcripts, visit our website here.
Bringing this show back from the vault to remember how we can get clear if we are responding to our kids in a way that is helpful and guiding them towards life skill building. Listen in as I break down the five criteria for Positive Discipline and how it looks in real life with our kids.
See all the show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/TBT-259-SOLO-Is-this-positive-discipline
My guest today is Dr. Chris Willard.
Dr. Willard explains how trying to teach mindfulness to teens ended up being a learning opportunity for himself and why he wrote his new book, “How we Grow Through What We Go Through.” He explains the three types of trauma, then Casey & Chris connect on how much self-work needs to be done to parent teens. Casey asks what the first steps are for moving through triggers, and Dr. Willard shares how children & teens can be the catalyst for us to do that work. They dig into why we don’t punish adolescents and what tools to use when things do go sideways with your teen like pausing, responding vs. reacting, mindfulness, anticipating, co-regulating, building trust, & asking “what are both learning?” Dr. Willard and Casey wrap-up today by sharing some specific breathing strategies for all ages.
Key takeaways from the show
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Join me during this solo show as I talk about "holding the container" for our teens to move through their experiences and practice life skills. Easier said than done. I walk us thought what this looks like in the context of sibling relationships, substance experimenting, school, chores and more - check it out and let me know what you think!
Get more show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-367-solo-holding-container-teens-life-skills
My guest today is Dr. Shefali Tsabary.
Dr. Shefali begins by sharing her journey into motherhood & discovering conscious parenting. She shares a bit about what her new book, “The Parenting Map” covers. Casey and Dr. Shefali talk about how challenging it is to look inward and how we work towards growth, not perfection. They dig into challenging any narratives you may have for your own children and finding your flow. Casey asks how we can get past the “smoke screen” and dig in deeper into what’s going on with misbehavior. They talk about teens practicing regulation and about how individuation & defiance are not only developmentally appropriate but necessary. Dr. Shefali shares her five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, fleer and how to acknowledge and calm your ego. They wrap up talking on being in partnership with your child, how & why negotiating with your kids can actually be a good thing, and why we don’t use punishment.
Takeaways from the show
What is conscious parenting?
Dr. Shefali’s new book: “The Parenting Map”
The challenges of looking inward
Parenting is about growth, not perfection
Challenging & deconstructing your narratives
The “iceberg” and “smoke screen” behind behaviors
Defiance is developmentally healthy
Dr. Shefali’s five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, & fleer
Acknowledging and calming your ego
Why & how negotiating with your kids can be positive
For complete show notes including transcripts, visit our website here.
This week I am exploring unconditional love and how./if this is what our teens experience from us. We may SAY that we love them no matter what, but is that the message they are getting? And what does creating a home where love is unconditional offer to our kids?
Listen in and let me know what you think!
See full show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-365-solo-unconditional-love-teens
My guest today is Olivia Thompson.
Olivia shares her path to Sesh, a mental health platform for online support groups led by licensed therapists. Olivia shares what she loves about Sesh and tells Casey her thoughts on support groups and connecting with other people who are going through the same things you are. Casey & Olivia talk about the benefits of telehealth. Olivia explains how she was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, her own mental health journey, & strategies that work well for her. Casey connects Olivia’s story to how we can support and scaffold for teens & young adults with ADHD. They also touch on addiction, recovery, identifying triggers, and the stigmas & barriers around mental healthcare.
Takeaways from the show
Using online & telehealth resources for mental health
Support groups & connecting with a community
ADHD diagnosis as an adult
Sesh platform & offerings
Stigmas around & barriers to mental healthcare
For full transcripts and more show notesm, visit our website here.
This week I am thrilled to be expanding on a conversation happening in the Living Joyful Courage community around how to support a growth mindset and optimism in our teens. They have a lot going on and are coming of age in a messy world - listen in to this show to hear my take on it all.
My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields.
Back from Abu Dhabi, Casey and Hunter reflect on Parenthood: The Unconference. Hunter shares how she got involved with the conference, and they remember what it was like to visit the UAE (including a trip to a camel festival and being anointed with oils)! They discuss the universality of parenting challenges despite other cultural differences. Casey and Hunter finish by sharing what tools they used to stay confident on a global stage like mindfulness, self-compassion, & preparing beforehand.
Takeaways from the show
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This solo show takes a closer look at how parenting with Positive Discipline does NOT equal avoiding the hard stuff, instead it is about leaning into relationship WHEN the hard stuff shows up. Being brave is something we are invited into over and over again as we parent through the seasons of adolescence. Listen in as I explore what that looks like internally, as well as externally.
My guest today is Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg.
Stephanie starts by explaining what a narcissist is, what they’re driven by, & what that may look like. Stephanie shares what it’s like to be in relationship with a narcissist, how you might feel growing up with a narcissistic parent, and how that ripples out into other relationships. Casey asks for indicators that someone may be a narcissistic parent and what that relationship looks like as an adult. They talk about setting limits & boundaries that work versus cutting a parent out. Stephanie shares her wisdom on radical acceptance & letting go. Casey & Stephanie dig into how people can start dismantling their negative thinking.
Takeaways from the show
A solo show all about how to shift into the "roommate mentality" when inviting our teens to contribute and help out around the house. I know, I know, it can feel really tough to get them up and moving... But I am confident there are some nuggets here in this pod that will help you turn things around.
Enjoy!
My guest today is Olatunde Sobomehin.
Olatunde Sobomehin shares about his life-changing sabbatical and how that led to him co-authoring the book, “Creative Hustle: Blaze Your Own Path and Make Work That Matters.” Olatunde shares how to name and know your and your teen’s gifts & goals and how principles, people, & practice can help you move from gifts to goals. He shares specific questions to reflect on to discover your gifts and what he sees getting in the way for young people. They dig into how to help young adults choose work that matters while still needing to make money. Casey shares some of her story about finding and choosing work that matters to her. Sobomehin wraps up by sharing more about his book, who is profiled inside, and practical tips for encouraging your teen to stretch & find their own ‘creative hustle.’
Takeaways from the show
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Today is a solo show that highlights shifting our thinking about how we are showing up for Gen Z and why this is crucial as we move through the adolescent years with our kids. I share three essential tools for making this shift in a way that strengthens relationship and provides space for our kids to discover who they're meant to be.
My guest today is Titania Jordan.
Casey and Titania share an engaging, relatable conversation about kids, tweens, teens, and their access to technology & apps. Kids & teens having access to screens can be really convenient, and many of us have brought these tools into our lives. At the same time, they also bring a lot of struggles. Titania shares the importance of modeling healthy use with your own phone. They dig into how to talk to your kids about sexting, nudes, & consent. Casey asks how to know which apps are okay and how to keep up with new apps. Titania shares her thoughts on parental controls, screen time limits, & filters. They also talk about resources like Bark & Skyward, and how much parents really need to know.
Takeaways from the show
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My guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart.
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart & Casey dig into ADHD in the adolescent years. Parents of teens with ADHD may see dysregulation looking like compulsiveness, messiness, impulsivity, & a lack of motivation. Parents may think that their kids are lazy or lacking willpower, when in reality, their executive functioning skills are truly off balance. Dr. Lockhart & Casey talk about discussing long-term goals with teens, moving backwards from there, baby steps, as well as figuring out what feels hard so we can best support them. They discuss how to support adolescents with ADHD and how that may differ from what neurotypical teen brains need. Dr. Lockhart explains what rejection sensitive dysphoria is & how to talk to teens about their ADHD. Casey asks how to get buy-in from a teen to work with an ADHD coach or other outside support or services. They finish by talking about what teens with ADHD need most.
Takeaways from the show
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Today I am on solo to talk about moving into a new year and how community supports us in growing through what we are going through. I am here to speak directly to you, the listener, and hopeful that you feel seen and heard in what I share.
My guest today is Casey Davidson.
Casey Davidson shares her path to sobriety and becoming a sober coach. Davidson explains what Dry January is - one of five adults in the US did Dry January last year! Davidson shares which demographics are drinking more & less and how the pandemic ramped up consumption. Casey Davidson shares the effects of alcohol on the body, even for light and moderate drinkers, and some benefits that come with not drinking. They discuss what obstacles can pop up for people who are not drinking. Casey Davidson shares about the “sober curious” movement - experimenting with not drinking without the pressure of giving up alcohol completely. They dig into the highs and lows of the first 30 days of sobriety and the best “quit lit.”
Takeaways from the show