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Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

Joyful Courage is a Conscious Parenting Podcast. Be inspired, entertained and educated as we navigate the challenges and celebrations of choosing to be a conscious parent. Interviews and solo shows will provide listeners with tools, strategies and inspiration that can be directly applied to their parenting journey.
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Now displaying: January, 2020
Jan 28, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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SOLo SHOW

Interviewed for the positive parenting conference by Sumitha Bhandarkar from afineparent.com and she wanted to interview me about my book – fun to remember that I wrote a book!

Deep dove into the three Bs.

Then last night I had my first of 6 live parenting classes here in Bellingham.

Being vs doing

Theory, belonging and significance

Power of perceptions

Humans are social beings – everything in the context of relationship

Iceberg

  • why is it important to keep in mind?
    • HALT
    • Problem we see is a solution/response to a problem we don’t know about
    • Mistaken beliefs about self/others/world
  • Why is it hard to remember to consider the iceberg?
    • BECAUSE WE ARE USUALLY PISSED ABOUT WHAT IS HAPPENING AT THE TIP!!

WE HAVE OUR OWN ICEBERGS!!

At the tip of our iceberg is our emotional/instinctive response to the behavior we are seeing right?

And what is under the surface?????

  • HALT!!
  • Feelings of defeat and beat up about mistakes we made…
  • Conditioning/baggage from our own experiences

Ahhhhh – so many icebergs!!

So we are wired to connect….  And remember what Dan and Tina shared in EPS 215 --- the four s’s – seen, safe, soothed, secure. THIS IS WHAT OUR KIDS NEED, and isn’t it what we need too?

  • We get to learn to offer this up to ourselves

Back to the three Bs – this is one tool to support us in creating the four S’s for ourselves, so that we can then offer them up for our kids – show up better, attuned, connected, loving.

Lets play with the 3 Bs…. I am going to guide you through them, while also explaining deeper the purpose and power of each B….

Breath

The breath is an tool that directly effects the nervous system – and when we are in fight or flight, you can bet our nervous system is working overtime -rapid heart beat, tension, we are full of adrenaline…

Attending to breath allows for a settling in…. a slowing down… an opening….

Body

Riding the breath into the body in search of any leftover tension….  Allow the breath to soften the body, the small muscles in the face, the neck, the shoulders….

We want to soften the body, open the body so that we can soften and open the mind….

Balcony

Once you feel yourself soften, find your balcony seat, imagine that you can lift up and out of your body and look down at your experience, as if you are watching a show from a balcony seat – you are accessing your outside observer. The part of yourself that is separate from your experience, knowing that you are having an experience…

From this place, this outside observer place, look at yourself through the lens of compassion, through the lens of love….  What is happening under your iceberg? Can you be a nonjudgmental observer? What happens when you get curious about your experience….?

Breath body balcony – the 3 Bs.

This is a practice. One that becomes useful when we choose into it over and over again. It becomes useful when we become familiar with it.

We have to practice.

This is a tool that is useful in the heat of the moment, if we’ve practiced.

So here is your homework – and shout out to any of my BTC parents who are listening in, this is their homework this week too:

Set some alarms/reminders on your phone.

  • 3/day
  • Do the practice when you are prompted
    • Work, grocery store, bedtime…..
  • Do the practice intentionally

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Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

February 3rd – February 7th – 5 interviews over 5 days to deep dive into some of the mental health challenges that are showing up with teens.

There is a lot happening right now for teens, and it can feel scary. When mental health challenges show up in our family, we tend to isolate ourselves, adding to the stress of what we are going through.

I created this mini summit for parents with teens who are having a hard time, AND for their friends, family and supporters. Lifting the understanding of the entire VILLAGE makes a huge impact on the individual. Get yourself registered now!

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

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PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 21, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s guest is Alyssa Blask Campbell. Alyssa has her Master's of Education in Early Childhood. She is a leading expert in emotional development speaking to people around the world. She is a podcast host for Voices of Your Village and the CEO of Seed and Sew. Alyssa has been featured As an emotional development expert and publications such as the Washington Post, Kids VT and Family Education. After co creating the CEP method, which she's going to tell us all about, she researched it across the US and co authored a book on it scheduled for publication next year. Alyssa is deeply passionate about building emotional intelligence in children, stating that it's never too early or too late to start, thank goodness. Alyssa shows up as approachable and welcomes people into her village to get support at all ages and stages shame free.  Join us!

 

"In order to be able to do that social piece, the kindness, the respect the empathy, the social awareness components, we have to know how to navigate the self awareness and self regulation first.”

“Sometimes times it's really just getting down to what is our feeling about what they're feeling or experiencing.”

“I believe that it's our job to find the calm, not their job to get calm for us.”

“It's safe for me to feel this because it's not going to last forever.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The difference between social and emotional development
  • The role of self awareness and self regulation
  • Coping mechanisms versus coping strategies
  • The five phases of emotion processing
  • Coping mechanisms as numbing agents
  • Fine motor activities as processing tools
  • Changing habits one at a time
  • Reflective Practice - what it is and how it works
  • Finding the calm for your kids
  • Mirror Neurons and the neurology of calm
  • Addressing bias as a step in the parenting education journey 
  • Taking care of your physical health so you can self-regulate
  • Allowing yourself to feel
  • Recognizing feelings
  • Empathizing and connecting vs noticing
  • Helping your kids feel felt
  • Finding security in your feeling
  • Yale research on anxiety in kids
  • The relationship between anxiety and fear
  • Problem solving and conflict resolution
  • Identifying when you’re ready for problem solving
  • What makes Voices of Your Village Podcast awesome

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think for me joyful courage is the ability to step in to the fear and the unknown. In that pursuit or desire of getting back to the calm, easy, joy, if you will, like when we have those tools to process the hard stuff, when we're courageous enough to do this work to build our self awareness and to put the mirror up to ourselves and not just to our kiddos. When we are courageous enough to do that, then we get to live with more joy and calm and peace.

 

Resources: 

Free Emotional Coaching Guide

 

Where to find Alyssa:

Facebook

Instagram

Voices of Your Village Podcast

 

 

 

PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

 

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

 

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

 

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GET THE BOOK!

 

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 14, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today is a solo show! I am sharing about what is happening in the Joyful Courage community these next few weeks:

  • Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

  • Podcast Recap LIVES added to the Patreon community

www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

Other topics that I am speaking into:

  • Resentment on the journey
  • Making self care happen
  • Being in choice
  • And making choices that allow us to let go
  • Being a model
  • Transformation starts with us

How are you showing up for your family??

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 7, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

::::

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s guests are Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson. Dan is an internationally acclaimed author, award winning educator and child psychiatrist. He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, where he also serves as a co investigator at the Center For Culture, Brain And Development, and co director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center. Dan co authored some of our favorite parenting books, including The Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain. With the other guest joining us today, he also wrote Brainstorm: The Bible for Parents of Teens, Parenting From The Inside Out and Aware, which came out the summer of 2018 and he came on to discuss that book with me. 

 

Dr. Tina Bryson is the other guest that we get to hear from today. She is the co author with Dan Segal of three New York Times bestsellers soon to be four and is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, California. Tina is also a pediatric and adolescent, psychotherapist, she keynotes conferences, and conducts workshops for parents, educators and clinicians all over the world. There is so much more I could add to the bios of both of these guests I could truly go on and on. They're here today to share about their latest book, The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become, and How Their Brains get Wired.  Join us!

 

"One of the best ways for us to predict how well a kid turns out is by looking at this research from decades and decades and across many cultures that says that the way a parent shows up and whether the degree to which they provide secure attachment relationships, that this is a huge predictor for how well kids turn out on many things that we measure them on.”

“The science of attachment is so powerful.” 

“No matter what happened to you as a parent, how you come to make sense of what happened to allows you to be present.”

“The brain wires based on the kinds of experiences we have.”

“Every child is different. Every parent is different, every situation is different. And the key is really more about being present and attuning.”

“What your child needs most from you is to show up.”

 “The messiness, the disconnection, the inevitable ruptures. That's a part of life. The fact that there are ruptures doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. It means you're human.”

“You can always begin again, knowing the direction you want to take.”

“If we can show up in that moment, and help the other person feel safe and seen and sued. That's always the right answer.”

 “It's about helping the child know, at the end of the day, that if something goes wrong, if they are in distress, if they have a need, we will see it, and we will show up for them flawed, not perfect.” 

“This science is full of hope.”

“It isn't about perfection, it's about presence”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Secure attachment as a predictor of future success 
  • The Power of Showing Up
  • What parents need to understand about attachment
  • Does attachment involve just one attachment figure?
  • The different ways parents can show up
  • What attachment teaches kids
  • The science of attachment and how it applies to everyday life 
  • Mutual belonging and connection
  • How experiences wire the brain
  • Showing up for ourselves
  • The value of a coherent narrative
  • The 4 S’s
  • Repairing ruptures
  • What conflict can teach
  • What the 4 S’s look like in action
  • The difference between fostering attachment and being permissive
  • Predictability as safety
  • Expanding the container of consciousness and the window of tolerance
  • Experiences with attachment across generations
  • The ongoing opportunity for development
  • Paths of Hope and where they lead
  • Why parents need people to show up for us too
  • Aiming for presence, not perfection
  • Self as embodied and relational 
  • Learning to tolerate uncertainty

 

Resources: 

The Whole Brain Child

No Drama Discipline

The Yes Brain

The Baby Book

Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present

The Power of Showing Up

Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting

Eps 126: Tina Bryson is BACK teaching us about nurturing a YES BRAIN

Brainstorm

Parenting From The Inside Out 

 

Where to find Dr. Siegel and Dr. Bryson:

Dr. Tina Bryson

Dr. Dan Siegel

PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::::

GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

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