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Gratitude to the community, specifically my one on one clients and the membership.

• Themes
• Collective experience
• My own filter
• Always in the learning, growing, developing
• Humaning is simple, not easy

Knowing what we want, not taking action to get there

• Identifying what we want
• Reading/learning tools/strategies
• Sitting on the outside of it
  • Procrastination
  • Self talk
  • Sneak messages
    • Fear/worthiness/perfectionism

Finding Nemo

• Working so hard to get to his goal
• Dealing with the monkey mind of dory (is there a metaphor here?)
• Perseverance despite fear
• Turtle
  • Come into the current, dude
    • Less effort
    • Less resistance
    • More results
    • Bigger possibilities

The Secret/ Law of Attraction / FLOW

• What is this all about?
• The Law of attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from "pure energy", and that through the process of "like energy attracting like energy" a person can improve their own health, wealth and personal relationships.
  • What you think about you bring about
    • Yes thought AND actively taking steps that move you in that direction
    • NEMO HAD TO SAY YES AND ENTER THE FLOW TO BE A PART OF THE FLOW

What the heck does this have to do with parenting?

• Paying attention to the flow
  • What makes it easy to be easy going, even when things are challenging?
  • What do you notice about when your family is more easy going?
• Under the surface/foundation
  • Routines
  • Common language
  • Needs are met
  • Connected
  • Belonging and significance
• Have you defined where you want to flow to take you?
  • More of a way of being than a destination, unless you are setting specific goals
  • It is an ACTIVE process – we must be in action
  • FLOW state shows up because it all becomes easier the more we choose in

Choosing in

• I say this a lot
• Being a yes
• Seizing the opportunities to “practice” the tools
• TAKING ACTION

If you want things to BE different then you need to BE different

• Interrupting the patters
  • Discover what your patterns are
  • Pay attention/mindfulness
    • Ex – phone use
      • When do you use it
      • What do you notice about right before you pick it up?
      • Where do you use it
      • What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern
        • DECIDING to do something different/interrupting
        • Leaving it upstairs in the morning
      • Ex – getting mad at my teenager/taking her angst personally
        • When do you do it
        • What do you notice about right before you yell
        • Where are you typically when you yell
        • What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern
          • DECIDING to practice something different
          • Internal work of allowing HER to be responsible for her feelings and allowing ME to be responsible for mine
          • Creating a “one liner” that supports me in knowing/sharing where I am at
          • Taking care of myself
          • Offering my daughter opportunities to develop tools for taking care of herself – LIFE SKILL
        • Ex – being resentful that no one “helps”
          • When do you do it
          • What do you notice about right before resentment shows up
          • Where are you typically when you are feeling
          • What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern
            • DECIDING to practice something different
            • Creating routines around that particular time of the day
            • Getting face to face and asking for help
            • Smiling
            • Putting on music
            • Being an invitation instead of a nag

All starts with out DECISION to be different

• The voices in our head
  • “talking to ourselves”
  • true self talking with ego
    • true self has our back – ego THINKS it has our back but is really about what is easy, safe and /or familiar
  • Simple, but maybe not easy
  • The quicker we decide to act on an idea, the more likely we will follow through
    • Getting out of bed
    • 5 second rule
    • Melanie Robbins (hopefully a guest)
      • Example:
        • Snooze button
        • Exercise
        • Making a smoothie
        • Finishing this outline
        • Putting down my phone
        • Staying off social media

Challenge for you today:

• Be clear on the direction you WANT to be going, and WHY you want to go there
• Notice your patterns that are getting in your way
• Interrupt the patterns by doing something different
• Repeat all day long

Listen, we all thrive in community. We thrive when we are being supported and joined by a bunch of other people who are diving into the practices and the work that we are engaging in. Do yourself a favor and JOIN THE #JOYFULCOURAGE10 – this is EXACTLY what you need to step into your OWN flow of parenting. This is the jumpstart you need to manifest the family vibe that you desire. We are on a collective journey, and the #JC10 is the party bus you didn’t know that you wanted on – disco ball and all!!  Sign up RIGHT NOW, we start April 1st – www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10

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#Joyfulcourage10

Get ready to commit to ACTION that will change everything!

#Joyfulcourage10 is a 10 day program to kick-start your work in growing awareness and bringing more intention to your parenting. Find out more at www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10

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Mother’s Journey

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility. 

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Today’s guest is Kelly Flannigan Bos, MSW. Kelly is a clinical therapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others. As a well-known relationship expert, she has appeared in a professional capacity in countless media markets as a guest and writer. Today we are discussing an article she wrote in November called, “I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic.” Join us!

“We’re not always going to have the perfect reactions and we can certainly apologize when we haven’t kept our cool or done the right thing. There’s ways to model other things like resolution or forgiveness.” 

“Does a good brow beating make us feel better, more able to face the challenges ahead of us? Usually not. We often shame ourselves into inertia. Would we ever say these words to a friend? There is a better way. We can be kind to ourselves and get better results and I definitely want kind self talk for my kids." 

“It’s a constant journey but it’s one I know I want to be on so I just keep starting again and if I can be self-compassionate to myself, then I have something to give outside as well.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• The role of self-compassion in parenting
• The three tenets of self-compassion
• Moving past the isolation of the shame of not meeting our own expectations
• Over-identification with our problems and how mindfulness can make a difference
• Worry and the reality of the lack of accuracy of our future prediction
• Phases of parenting and worry
• Brain development and parenting – developmental challenges
• Getting out of the emotional whirlwind
• The role of self-comfort, recognizing and acknowledging our own suffering
• Self-compassion as a way to build capacity for parenting challenges
• Self-compassion and it’s relationship to compassion we can extend to others
• Self-compassion for avoiding depletion
• Making self-compassion part of common language in the family
• Family meetings as a vehicle for communicating self-compassion
• Separating the child from the behavior
• Problem solving to avoid over identification with problems
• Fear as a barrier to positive parenting
• Self care as self-compassion
• What to do when you have no room for self-care

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think this question is such a great one and it changes often a little bit depending on what we are talking about but I wanted to bring it back to a self-compassion idea. So, joyful courage, when we talk about it today, I’m thinking it really means being able to be loving to myself, even when I don’t feel very lovable, be loving to myself and find that sense of happiness and peace and joy. So being able to push on through things, to hold myself, and know that I’m going to get through this, and I can do something different tomorrow, or I can continue to do it this way, whatever it is, whatever the message needs to be, courageously give yourself that message and you push forward and you’re loving and kind, not judge yourself and finding that you’re a part of many, many people struggling today and you’re not the problem. You’re okay in this moment.

Resources:

I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic

Where to find Kelly:

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

Website

Youtube

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#Joyfulcourage10

Get ready to commit to ACTION that will change everything!

#Joyfulcourage10 is a 10 day program to kick-start your work in growing awareness and bringing more intention to your parenting. Find out more at www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10

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Mother’s Journey

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

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Not a lot of show notes today…  I am sharing the feedback and follow through of the Parents and Politics show and talking about letting go of attachment and fear.

Enjoy!!

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 #Joyfulcourage10

Get ready to commit to ACTION that will change everything!

#Joyfulcourage10 is a 10 day program to kick-start your work in growing awareness and bringing more intention to your parenting. Find out more at www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10

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Mother’s Journey

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

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Today’s guest is Rebecca Eanes, the author of two books for parents: Positive Parenting The Essential Guide and The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting. She is back to talk to us about her newest resource for parents: The Positive Parenting Workbook. Rebecca leads a community of over a million on her Facebook page, Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond.  Join us!

 “I see and speak about parenting as a journey… and the journey is a continuous invitation to continue to practice being the parent we want to be as often as possible.”

“Parenting is one long personal development workshop.”   

“My kids are the best mirrors because in them I have seen my own negative attitudes and bad moods and emotional reactions in really every area that I needed to improve upon.”

“I think we definitely grow ourselves up in the process of helping our kids grow up.”

“Our kids are going to make mistakes every day. If they had perfect parents, they would not know how to get through this world.” 

“Be as gentle and respectful with yourself as you are trying to be with your kids. You are not perfect either and you don’t have to be. We are all growing, we are all learning, we are all flawed, and we all need grace. This is a journey and there’s not a destination yet that I’ve seen. It’s an ever going thing so be good to yourself along the way.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Dealing with swearing and supporting kids in navigating different rules in different situations
• Positive parenting and what it really means
• The role of mutual respect in positive parenting
• Identifying underlying issues under disrespect
• Shifting focus: from disrespectful behavior itself to supporting learning that leads to respectful behavior.
• Leadership in positive parenting
• Non-negotiables and positive parenting
• The value in personal development and parenting
• Moving from behavior patrol to positive parenting
• The origins of the Positive Parenting Workbook
• Discipline as part of the parenting pie
• 7 Pillars of family culture as part of positive parenting
• Words of wisdom for parents working towards positive parenting

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think Joyful Courage means being brave enough to go against the grain to live true to you and confident enough to believe in yourself and to do so with joy.

Resources:

Positive Parents website
The Positive Parenting Workbook
The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting
Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide
Positive Parenting In Action 

Where to find Rebecca:

Facebook
Twitter
Instagram
Positive Parents website
Pinterest
Creative Child Magazine 
Mother.ly

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#Joyfulcourage10

Get ready to commit to ACTION that will change everything!

#Joyfulcourage10 is a 10 day program to kickstart your work in growing awareness and bringing more intention to your parenting. Find out more at www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10

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Mother’s Journey 

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

:::::

 All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS 

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!