Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a brilliant voice in parent education and if was so fun to get to know her on the podcast!
From her website:
Dr. Deborah MacNamara is on Faculty at the Neufeld Institute and author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one) She presents, teaches, and writes on all facets of child and adolescent development based on the relational-developmental approach of Gordon Neufeld. She is also in private practice where she offers counselling services to parents and professionals in making sense of learning, behavioural, and developmental issues in kids. Deborah is a dynamic teacher and experienced counsellor who makes developmental science come to life in the everyday context of home and classroom.
She was an amazing guest and I KNOW you will be left is awe of all you have learned while listening to our conversation!!
Show highlights:
Core of her work is making sense of kids, to the adults that are responsible to them
Childhood is the unfolding of human potential – separate social and adapted human beings
Rest, Play Grow is about children ages 2-6 years old.
Play is the leading edge of development
Warm up act in preparation
Most of the growth happens for this age during play – free of consequences, kids are free to be expressive and exploratory…
Children express emotions at play – keeps them balanced and at the surface
Play is the unfolding of our early occupations
Play that leads development when they are playing on their own…
Release a child to play after offering contact and closest first… they know their attachment needs are met an they can move into play.
… Under three they stay pretty close to parent
2.5 – 3 signs of venturing out and spread their wings to try things our. Promote this by using contact and closeness first and set them up to play, then slowly move away and give them space to play
What is the space that your child engages in?
Temperament matters – 1/5 children are more sensitive and stired up by their environment… they take a little bit longer to be satiated with connection
Give each child what they need for play to unfold
Resistance and opposition – counter will instincts – instinct to resist others when we are feeling co-ersed
We have our own agendas and they have theirs
Attachment – if a child is not in active attachment with us (engaged) we have kind of disappeared
Growth occurs within relationship – we want to keep them receptive to our message.
Acknowledging the child has their own interest and move forward anyways. Children do need to realize that at certain times, the resistance is futile.
The more the relationship is in tact, easier it is for kids to roll with it.
Say no and give them permission to have their feelings.
Emotional self control is something we can get to – over time.
Encourage expressing feelings
Help them feeling feelings
Mixing their feelings
Reflecting - that it is about the child’s relationship with own feelings
In the practice – get to a place of deepening and developing relationship with others
The relationship must be with oneself in before one becomes a social being
In order to have a relationship with oneself, an adult must have a relationship with us...
A child must know who they are first, before they become a social being… The adult is responsible for helping the child know who they are.
Help child become civilized relating with emotional expression… Yes please, lets all make this our goal!!
Where to find Deborah MacNamara:
http://macnamara.ca/
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BUY HER BOOK!! - Rest, Play Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one)
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In this bonus episode, I talk with my friend, Victoria Sexton all about how to use aromatherapy for wellness.
She breaks down what essential oils are, how to use a diffuser, and how to handle it when theres loads of snot and a cough (thats when I typically cross over to the over the counter stuff).
I know you will find value in this show and walk away feeling super excited about using aromatherapy in your home. My diffusers been ordered.
From Victoria -
Antibacterial Essential oils:
Orange
Eucalyptus
Rosemary
Frankincense
Lavender
Peppermint
Note: Do not apply essential oils to infants. Use a diffuser instead. For kids years 2 and above use a dilution of 1% of essential oils (6 drops per ounce).
How to follow Victoria:
www.naturalgoodnessskincare.com
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Pinterest
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THANK YOU FOR LISTENING!!! I am so honored to have you out there, appreciating the conversations happening here. Please reach out, check in, let me know what you love about the podcast. Let me know your questions. I am here for you!!
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I am so honored to have Rebecca Eanes on the podcast this week!!
Rebecca Eanes is a best selling author, the founder of positive-parents.org, creator of Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond, and a contributing editor to Creative Child Magazine where she does most of her writing currently.
Her books are The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parenting which has been a #1 best seller in it's category on Amazon, and a co-authored book, Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide to Putting Positive Parenting Principles in Action in Early Childhood, which has also been an Amazon best seller internationally.
Her new book, Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, will be released on June 7, 2016. You can preorder it now at Amazon.
Blog posts and articles by Rebecca mentioned during the podcast:
Parenting the Highly Sensitive Boy
Disciplining the Sensitive Child
Create A Calm Down Area
Does Time-In Reward Children?
Books mentioned on the podcast:
The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron
The Strong Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff
Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffleman
With your preorder you will receive exclusive access to her Facebook Book Club experience where you will get support from Rebecca, complimentary PDF for each chapter, support and accountability for lasting change, AND be entered to win books, ecourse and parent coaching sessions with top parenting coaches!!
Follow Rebecca:
www.positive-parents.org
Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond Facebook Page
Positive Parents on Pinterest
@BeckyEanes on Twitter
@RebeccaEanes on Instagram
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Welcome! My guest today is Jiovann Carrasco, a psychotherapist in Austin, TX. Jiovann is the owner of the Austin Mindfulness Center, a meditator, and the author of an online mindfulness program called Follow your Breath. He is an engaged and connected father to two young kids and worked as a stay-at-home dad for two years! Let’s jump into this topic of mindfulness with Jiovann!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
Connect with Jiovann:
www.austinmindfulness.org (Find information on the course, Follow Your Breath, including meditation audio, downloadables, journals, practice logs, videos, and access to the Facebook group. The normal price is $299, but through the end of 2016, the course is available for 50% off. But wait, it gets better!
FOLLOW YOUR BREATHE MINDFULNESS COURSE:
For JCP listeners, take an additional 35% off, which brings the price UNDER $100!) --- CLICK HERE FOR THE DISCOUNT!
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A question from Maria…
My 6yo loves his ipad and tv, like I'm sure they all do. I don't allow him to play non-stop and he's generally ok with boundaries. My issue is he's always asking. ALWAYS. I'm forever saying no, or later, or ok for half an hour, or after you do this or that. I'm the bad guy when he really wants to and I'd rather he do something more constructive. I'd like to put the power in his hands, instead of mine, but how. I thought about giving him a weekly limit and letting him go free, when his limit is met, no more screens. But how, he's 6 and doesn't really get time management. Plus, school days vs weekends (and now summer) are different. Right now he doesn't have homework, but when he does, screens should be very limited (I'd imagine) and I don't want to break a habit when that starts. On the weekends, in the morning, he gets to play/watch until dad and I get up and make breakfast. Than maybe more later, but it depends on what we're doing. Ugh this is only going to get worse when he gets older.
I'd like to set some limits he can follow on his own, so I'm not the dictator. One that won't allow him to be on it for hours. His attitude is awful if he's been playing a long time, shoot that happens to me too!
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Listeners!!! Chime in with your thoughts!! What are your tips/thoughts/experiences around setting limits for screen time??
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Welcome! My guest today is Sarah Remmer, a registered dietitian and pediatric nutrition expert. She blogs at Stork to Fork, sharing ideas, advice, and easy recipes for real parents who want their kids to grow into healthy relationships with food. Let’s jump right into this topic with Sarah!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
Connect with Sarah:
www.sarahremmer.com
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Follow Sarah on the Yummy Mummy Club site!
Feeding Kids: How Parents and Kids Often Have Their Roles Mixed Up (and how to fix it)
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Megan Barella loves to help parents unlock their parenting powerthrough her classes and coaching programs. As a Certified PositiveDiscipline Parent Educator, she brings a holistic approach to helppeople live and parent in connection with their highest selves."The Getting to Gold Project" is the program Megan is developingfor parents who are trauma survivors. Megan loves to cook, dance,do art projects, and spend time in the woods with her 7 year oldson in the Portland, OR area.
- The stress response systemtakes over
- Through awareness we can bring what ishappening internally into the open
- Parenting is incredible,courageous work
- Dan Siegel, Parenting From the Inside Out
- We want our kids tothrive!
- BeckyBailey of Conscious Discipline – “Awareness is the first agentof positive change”
- Be a gentle observer –awareness + self compassion ((you tubevideo))
- Hand over Heart
- Mistakes are opportunities tolearn
- Power of Repair
- Showing up the best we canwith the tools we have
- Our mistakes are notus!! Our patterns are what we have taken on to survive…
- Narrative therapy
- “I am not defined by mymistakes”
- Our body reads stress ASfear
- The power of our positiveintent
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