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Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

Joyful Courage is a Conscious Parenting Podcast. Be inspired, entertained and educated as we navigate the challenges and celebrations of choosing to be a conscious parent. Interviews and solo shows will provide listeners with tools, strategies and inspiration that can be directly applied to their parenting journey.
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Mar 31, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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My guest today is Cynthia Klein.

Cynthia is an Educator, Coach, Speaker, and Author. Through her work, Cynthia helped parents of children from age five to 30.

Through a strong desire to create a great relationship with her own child, Cynthia’s journey to developing herself as a parent began early on. By building Bridges 2 Understanding and cooperation rooted in mutual respect, she was able to achieve the connection she longed for with her teenage daughter.

Cynthia understands the challenges of parenting and provides solutions that are unique, effective, individualized, and enduring. You can achieve results that will change the course of your relationship with your children and your family’s dynamic now and for generations to come.

Cynthia’s education includes a B.A. in Psychology, Training and Human Resource Development Certificate, California and New Mexico teaching credentials, numerous parent education certificates, and life lessons gained from raising a successful daughter who values her mom’s opinion.

Her book is titled, Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation.

"It's all about still having your authority in your power, doing it in a way that is respectful.”

“What do I feel, think or do differently to get a different response?”

“You can’t control your children. You can only influence.” 

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The difference between hard and soft power and leadership and control
  • Building a foundation to prepare for challenges ahead.
  • When kids complain about limits
  • Why it starts with changing yourself first
  • Why you need to ask yourself who owns the problem
  • Problem solving roles: director, collaborator, or supporter
  • Building emotional connection first 
  • Some of the ways that parents show up as adversaries in their relationship with their kids
  • The think/feel/do cycle
  • Moving past the victim mindset 
  • What being a collaborator means 
  • Timing your conversations 
  • How to stop blocking communication
  • The power of writing things down 
  • What happens when we make assumptions vs approach with curiosity
  • Helping your kids feel heard 
  • Soliciting ideas in problem solving 
  • Making a plan together and instituting a trial phase 
  • What to do when your plan doesn’t roll out the way you expected 
  • Using empathy to redirect 

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It was interesting with this question, what came up for me is I find parenting especially teens and young adults scary, because my daughter was bullied and because of that she had all these girls turned against her and she was traumatized for many, many, many years, many years. And so she did a lot of challenging risky behavior and so I had to feel a lot of fear. And for me to feel that fear, and to realize that that's fear for now. And then for me to put that fear aside, because to be able to look through my child's current scary behavior, to look at her potential, instead of instead of the actions at that moment what she was doing, because to believe in her that right now she's doing these things because of her lack of belief in herself. And I think having that feeling about her made her always be able to call me when things were really rough and they got pretty darn scary. But because of that, that I see as my courage, to have that courage and still find joy amongst the fear to not make that everything what I was feeling, to still find the joy and love with her, which made it so she could talk to me and connect with me. And at last, starting probably her late 20s, she kind of got it all together.

 

Resources: 

Ally Parenting: A Non Adversarial Approach To Transform Conflict Into Cooperation

 

Where to find Cynthia: 

Bridges2understanding.com

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SEX ED FOR PARENTS OF TEENS!

Enrollment is OPEN NOW – learn more about this offer and register now:
www.joyfulcourage.com/sems

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Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Mar 24, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful CourageJoyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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SEX ED FOR PARENTS OF TEENS!

Enrollment is OPEN NOW – learn more about this offer and register now:
www.joyfulcourage.com/sems

::::

Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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Hey listeners!!

I am recording this Sunday, it will go live on Tuesday – and I can’t not talk about Covid 19, the coronavirus – because it is absolutely right here, right now, and the reality for the world right now.

I want to start with whoa. I mean, whoa right? This is a weird and wild time. We are facing something that few of us have ever experienced before – the news, the leadership, the unknown – it is all right there.

Dr. Shefali, author and conscious parenting guru called this time a chiropractic spiritual realignment. I have been listening a lot to Dr. Shefali, she has been live streaming so much goodness through her FB page and her group, “Superpowered: Transform Anxiety into Resilience.”

I love her take on the world because she speaks so much into being with impermanence, being with uncertainty.

Because ---- impermanence and uncertainty aren’t new – you all have been listening to me talk about this for the last six months and beyond as I navigate all the fun with my teens. I know you are in your own practices, because you let me know! I get emails nearly every day from listeners that reach out to let me k now that my story is their story, that they are in the muck with their kids and they feel so good to know they are not alone….

You aren’t alone. ALL OF US live in daily uncertainty. We never know how things are going to turn out, although MANY of us live under the illusion that we do,  under the illusion that we can control the events of our lives…. Now, we have influence, of course, but control? Yeah, no. We ALL have the unexpected show up in our lives – good, bad and ugly – we make plans, we cross our finders, we do our do, and what happens happens, right?

I have been fascinated by listening to people share about how there isn’t any MORE uncertainty because of the corona virus – it just feels that way because we have been under the impression that we know what is going to happen, we had our routines, we had our rhythm, we knew what to expect each day. But this pandemic has yanked that comfy security blanket away and we have no choice but to stare down uncertainty – and oh man, ITS SO FLIPPING UNCOMFORTABLE!!!!

Sigh.

Ok, so I am here to help.

Yes, it’s uncertain, and yes, we have kids to raise and jobs to try and do fro home and bills to pay and oh man they all eat so much!!!

I reached out to the members of my patreon group and asked them what their biggest challenges are in this new normal.

Here is some of what they shared:

Audrey, mama to 4 year old shared:

Challenges: keeping my fear and anxiety under wraps. They can show up as irritability and impatience. Also, never having a break because there’s no adult to relieve me. My 4 year old complaining anytime I take time for myself or the meals I’m making (they’re lacking creativity).

Gratitude: extra time to do art with her. All the outside time with her when the weather allows. The fact that my mom is taking us seriously and being very careful. That I have really awesome neighbors in case I need some thing. That I saved all the old cloth wipes and the wet bag from when I cloth diapered, in case I really can’t get TP.

I love that Audrey mentions how HER fear and anxiety can show up as irritability and impatience, I am ABSOLUTELY noticing this with myself as well. And it’s funny, I am not in a panic and tell myself I’m not anxious, and yet, the anxious energy is still manifesting in my short (ish) temper with my son, sorry Ian.

This is super key:

  • How are we taking care of ourselves?

  • What are we doing to release our fears/worries?

    • Meditation – some of your fave people are offering live streams every day

    • Journaling

  • Yoga – Fightmaster yoga 90 day fix

    • Be in nature – LISTEN TO NATURE

We have no choice – we have to get creative and take care of ourselves. Slow down. Well, we have no choice but to slow down do we, now is the time to create some new habits in taking care of ourselves.

Kristin, mama to 3 boys, 9, 11, 13 shared:

Challenges: school is like medicine for my kid with ADHD and my other child with anxiety.. without it they are really struggling and I'm struggling to stay afloat and healthy in my responses. I'm finding gratitude in that I know this is going to teach us to get back to the basics and to find joy in simple pleasures.

Yes! Love that Kristin brings up “School is like medicine” for her kids – all the more useful to create a rhythm/routine to your days. I am not talking about the color coded routines that have been floating around FB and IG – although if that is working for you great! I am talking about working with your child to CO-CREATE routines for this time together. When are they getting up? What time if breakfast and are they helping to cook it? (yes! They should!) what are you all focused on during the morning between breakfast and lunch? What is happening at lunch, another great time for the kids to contribute!! What is happening between lunch and dinner? Where is there learning time? What is learning time for you? What does that mean? Do your kids have teachers that have sent home work? Online? IF yours are little – how are you PLAYING? Because this is where they learn – through play.  Create a rhythm, try it for a week, tweak it as needed after that first week.

Symone, mama to a 15 and 17 year old wrote:

Challenges: trying to not over analyze ever move my youngest is making - is her lack of interest in most things including doing online school, going to slide into the big depression she was in at the end of last year? Not being able to look forward to going back to Australia in August if flights are still cancelled- will it push her over the edge?

Gratitude- so thankful we still have FaceTime and internet to feel connected with friends and family. Also grateful for every glimmer of interest in doing something with us outside of their rooms!

Yes! I Love the gratitude here. It IS so easy to slide into the what ifs – what if we trust that our kids are going to be just fine, even if they aren’t super motivated to do their online school? What if we remember that one day will will look back at “that one time when there was a global pandemic” and see that while it made an impact in our lives, the disruption to academics was the least of our worries.

This is an amazing time to take some lessons from our homeschooling and unschooling friends…. What do your kids want to learn about? What are they curious about? What can you study – you don’t need to go anywhere when you have the internet. AND acknowledging my privilege in having the internet. But really – let them lead!!

Heidi, mama to an 11 year old and an 8 year old, and long time client and friend wrote:

Some of the things I think about can be viewed as both/and. Grateful to be working from home And it can be a challenge as this is new for many to navigate And I recognize that some people do not even get this as an option. Grateful for time & space for things to slow down, enjoy little things, recognize when kids ask for my attention and when sometimes I have not been as present as I could be. And it can be challenging to try and figure out how one day we were with other people and now we are not.

We do not live in an area/neighborhood so we do not organically see others outside unless we go to people. So far we haven’t even gone to visit grandma & grandpa across the lake and so far the kids haven’t wondered too much about this.. though I know that other little cousins are visiting them today. I try to reframe social distancing with physical distancing.. and still, this is so hard to wrap my heard around for a long period of time. can we eventually go hang out and be firm on that when we do so we will respect each other and stay 6 ft away from each other. This is all new. I am a hugger! :)

For home school, I am grateful that my kids will be able to help navigate this for themselves once they have information from their teachers next week- AND I am not a teacher. My son has had a great year, will this impact him? My daughter struggles in math and this has been a big year with a new math curriculum. How will this impact her? For me, I am grateful for having been practicing Positive Discipline, and my work with you, Casey to have that as a foundation for me & my family- we actively have family meetings, routines.. that this is all practice not perfection. My kids each have a white board and are in creation of helping to make their own routine. - which I thought was cool to see. as often when I make a routine it is like, ugh and an eye roll. The word of encouragement I try to lean into is to allow space for Flexibility.

Yes, yes, yes to FLEXIBILITY!!! And I love how Heidi speaks into the things she already has in place that are supporting the whole family during this time – routines and family meetings.

And speaking of family meetings….  I have recently revamped my Family Meeting Ecourse, which is 6 emails over 6 weeks that support families in creating this new, and super powerful routine. I am making it available FOR FREE for families that are ready to go next level with it. I have also added some other resources to a webpage to support you due to the context we currently find ourselves in.

If you are interested, go to www.joyfulcourage.com/corona

Family meetings, routines, self care. THIS is the foundation we NEED to be present and flexible during this time – to be WITH the uncertainty that we are staring down.

Finally, Melissa, mama of three wrote:

Challenges: similar to others, I have struggled with not having space/time away from my kids! I'm trying to juggling homeschooling all 3 because they thrive when learning in a structured way.

Gratitudes: my neighborhood that has really risen to the occasion by offering each other support. Also I am taking this as an opportunity to reassess our priorities. For instance, if none of us miss swimming lessons, why were we ever doing them?! Why don't we always go for walks / play games etc ?

YES – love this message of simplifying our lives!!! Reassessing what is important. You know who is loving this pandemic – MOTHER EARTH. She can breathe again. Her waters in many places are running clear. We humans have been on this crazy consumer roller coaster and this whole thing is forcing us to STOP.

And the opportunities that exist when we are forced to stop and slow down? Time together. Time to soothe, to tend, to BE. Slow down.

Big thanks for my patrons for all their contributions to this particular show – I made the ask this morning and so many jumped in to share about their experiences….

If you are interested in becoming a patron, it’s super easy! Just go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and sign up to be a part of the Super Fam. You’ll get to join our FB group where I do weekly lives on Mondays and Podcast recaps on Fridays. And starting this month (tomorrow, yesterday J ) I am going to do a monthly “office hours” on zoom where parents can show up and get some coaching from me. Check it out – www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

AND, to get your hands on the FREE resources I have available for you all right now – go to www.joyfulcourage.com/corona -

Don’t forget – the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens is happening April 6th – 10th. Cost is $29 until the day we start, then it will jump to $49 – enroll now – you don’t want to miss it. The guests are fantastic, the conversations are relevant and useful, you’ll get a gorgeous ezine with all of the content from the interviews inside…. So good. Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/sems -

All the links I’ve mentioned are in the show notes.

I love you all – stay healthy! Stay home! Wash your hands!!!

I will be back next week with an interview for you all <3

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SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Mar 17, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

::::

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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"Don't be passive Don't be apathetic, don't hold still, keep moving forward and get feisty and proactive.”

“Even on bad days there are good things. But don't hold still, don't wait for this or that to happen before you start living your life.”

“You're just gonna die waiting. Stop waiting and just do what you can now.”

“It's amazing how life can change when you do get proactive.”

“What's familiar to us is criticizing ourselves and not giving ourselves enough credit and focusing on the things we did wrong or didn't accomplish.”

“One thing that's helped me is just realizing in the moment when they're really struggling, is that the only thing harder than raising a teenager is being a teenager.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Why you shouldn’t wait
  • How Oprah discovered Kristina
  • Why we need to get uncomfortable with self-criticism
  • Why you need to write Ta-da lists instead of To Do lists
  • Maintaining perspective about things that didn’t get done
  • Making a habit of personal growth
  • Empowering our kids to do things for themselves without taking over
  • Having compassion for our kids
  • Creating space for sharing and connection in your relationship with your kids
  • Searching for love in your marriage
  • Love as a daily choice
  • Why asking for help is important

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It means being willing to be uncomfortable. We kind of touched on it earlier and just dipping your toe and maybe even jumping in to something that seems so scary but you're doing it because you know it will lead to something better so often you know where we're waiting for somebody to send us joy, waiting for someone to knock on our door and give us joy and really to reach joy. I think it does take courage. So I love the name of your podcast because to me, courage leads to joy. 

 

Resources: 

“Hold On, But Don't Hold Still: Hope And Humor From My Seriously Flawed Life.”

 

Where to find Kristina: 

KristinaKuzmic.com

Kristina Kuzmic on Facebook

Kristina Kuzmic on Instagram

Kristina Kuzmic on Twitter

Kristina Kuzmic on Youtube

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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My guest today is Kristina Kuzmic.

Thirteen years ago, Kristina was a broke and defeated mother of two; recently divorced; juggling jobs and sleeping on the floor next to her kids. She never imagined that a lo-fi cooking show she pieced together to reach other moms in the trenches would get Oprah’s attention.

Today, she speaks directly to her 2.8 million Facebook followers in honest, funny parenting videos on topics from “Mind your own Motherhood” to a satirical PSA “4 Reasons women should NEVER breastfeed in public.” Her star is rapidly rising, and she recently took her message of acceptance and resilience on the road to 22 sold-out cities.

Her witty, knowing, and sympathetic voice is captured on the page in her first book HOLD ON, BUT DON’T HOLD STILL: Hope and Humor from My Seriously Flawed Life.

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SEX ED FOR PARENTS OF TEENS!

Enrollment is OPEN NOW – learn more about this offer and register now:
www.joyfulcourage.com/sems

:::

Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Mar 10, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

::::

SEX ED FOR PARENTS OF TEENS!

Enrollment is OPEN NOW – learn more about this offer and register now:
www.joyfulcourage.com/sems

::::

Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

::::

Today is a solo show – woop woop!

Being in a mindful relationship…

  • What is mindfulness?
  • Why is it important on the parenting journey?
  • Why is this important in life?

I went to a mindful couples workshop with my husband this weekend

  • Why did we go?

Morning of…

  • How I did my work when it was hard to do

Modeling setting intention

Letting go of being attached to the experience of my husband

  • Why this is relevant to our kids and parenting and life

Setting the context with how I showed up and what I was willing to own

Offering lots of loving support, acknowledgement, options

  • While also leaning in and inviting vulnerability – speaking into the elephants in the room, making things explicit

Learning processes for deeper listening and communication

  • SO MUCH like PD
    • Connect before correct/redirect
    • Positive Intent
    • Looking for solutions not blame
    • The iceberg
    • Process over product –
      • Relationship is everything!!!
      • Took the trainer aside to share….

One of the processes reminded me so much of the Family Meeting, but instead of using the model for the family, you use it as a couple.

  • Safe space for venting about a few things that rubbed you wrong
  • A useful place for problem solving
    • I would add time to celebrate each other before getting into it….
  • One of our “issues” is talking about money – ben makes most of it, I budget and try to save it. This is a hard one for us to discuss without having clear goals that are the boss.
  • Come together to have a vision
  • What is this going to take
  • Weekly check ins on how we are doing

I also have some amazing clients that are such an inspiration to me.

  • Super intentional with checking in on relationship
  • Super articulate in how they are celebrating each other

20 years later…. It takes work

  • Awareness that we are in an ebb
  • Willingness to do something about it

Kristen Bell – “I will be with Dax on the porch at 80” – we can get through anything

So yeah, tend to your relationships – we talk so much about our relationship with our teens and younger kids here – equally if not more important is our relationship with our partners.

Hope you are feeling inspired!!

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SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::

The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Mar 3, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

::::

Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

::::

Today’s guest is Yolanda Williams. Conscious parenting is really close to her heart, and she knows what it feels like to grow up without a voice and with violence as a consequence. Raising a black child in a world filled with white supremacy can seem insurmountable at times but she firmly believes that conscious parenting is activism against racism. Yolanda is raising a carefree child to be her authentic self, unafraid to use her voice to stand up to oppression with unshakable confidence and self love. Yolanda wants to help teach other parents to do the same. She's the co founder of Conscious Parenting Time, whose mission it is to decolonize minds by teaching the art of conscious parenting to raise intellectually spiritually and socially free black children. She's also the host of Parenting Decolonized, a podcast on a mission to shine the light on how colonization has impacted the black family structure and what to do about it. Join us!

 

"I'm not here to make anybody else feel comfortable with the truth of racism, but it's supposed to make you uncomfortable.”

“If I feel like you are genuinely asking a question and I don't feel like you're trying to center yourself when you ask this question, I will politely answer it. But my job is not to educate white people on racism. That's not the job of any person of color.“

“Being White and Whiteness are two separate things. I don't think people really realize that because whiteness is a construct, just like race is.”

“Our culture does judge black parents more harshly. Period.”

“Our kids may already be targeted just because of their race, nothing that you can do is going to stop a bad police officer or a bad teacher or someone who is just a racist from being that person.”

“I'm not going to change who I am to make white people comfortable.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The difference between being White and Whiteness
  • How the Black parenting experience is different
  • The subtle and not so subtle ways that parenting has been colonized
  • Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome
  • The risks and challenges that come with parenting from a place of fear
  • Parenting a Black child as a Black person vs as a White person
  • Authoritarian parenting attitudes and dignity double-binds
  • Belonging and significance in the face of racism
  • Internalized racism - what it is and what it looks like
  • How early unconscious biases show up in education
  • Cultural pride as a way to insulate against racism 
  • Curating an environment that centres cultural pride
  • The importance of Black history
  • Being intentional about decolonization
  • The Black Panther and their policy 

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

You know, when I think of joyful courage it makes me think of this quote by Audrey Lord and it's like the basis for everything I do. She said, "Raising black children, female and male in the mouth of a racist, sexist suicidal dragon is perilous and chancy. If they cannot love and resist at the same time, they will probably not survive." So that's like love and resistance. Yes, what joyful courage is for me. I mean, I have to have courage to change the status quo. And I have to model what joy and unconditional love looks like inside my home. Because home is where security and safety is and love. And as scary as being a black parent is sometimes I can't tell you how much joy it gives me to be raising my daughter in this revolutionary way and to watch her grow into an amazing black woman. Like, it gives me a lot of joy. I love that.

 

Resources: 

Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome 

Amazon Prime documentaries by Henry Louis Gates, Jr.

 

Where to find Yolanda: 

Parenting Decolonized Podcast 

Parenting Decolonized Facebook Page

Conscious Parenting Time Facebook Page

@cptime Instagram

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Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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The Book, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Feb 25, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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Hey all!

Today is a solo show… I am so honored to be here with you.

Today is all about connection and relationship (again, I know, but really, it’s what’s up).

  • Broken record in the conversations I am having in the teen group as well as the super fam
  • Relationship relationship relationship
  • Not as a “strategy”
  • When relationship is offer, disconnection si present, its like we are on unstable ground
  • Belonging and significance
  • Being seen and heard
  • Feeling valued/ Feeling safe– routines/agreements/family meetings
    • At their heart they are a connection activity

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SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

:::

The Book, The Academy, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey.

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CHECK OUT THE ACADEMY - The Joyful Courage Academy is a five week online program for parents of teens who are ready to nurture a deeper, stronger relationship with their child. Emphasis is on developing/strengthening your parenting foundation, increasing connection,  communication and boundaries, and creating sustainability along the way. Registration for the Winter Academy is open from February 12 - March 1st. Space is limited. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Feb 18, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

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My guest today is Sarah Rosensweet.

Sarah is a Peaceful Parenting leader and coach. Peaceful parenting is an approach that uses kind, firm limits with lots of empathy. Parents are in charge but give their kids the support they need to meet their expectations. She emphasizes connection and supports parents in prioritizing relationship with our kids.

Sarah knows that our relationship is the most effective way we can influence our kids.

Sarah and I spend time today discussing some of the biggest take-aways from The Self Driven Child – a powerful resource written by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson.

What you’ll here on this episode:

  • What has changed for Sarah as a coach as her kids have entered the teen years
  • The Self Driven Child
    • There can only be one driver on the train – that is your child
    • We need to manage our own parental anxiety
    • We get to trust that our children know what they need
    • Sarah shares a personal story about her son and his report card and how she used what she learned from the Self Driven Child
  • Our response matters
  • Allowing our kids to make decisions about their own life
  • Letting our own limited yet intense beliefs about all the possibilities get in the way
  • “We care so much that they don’t have to.”
  • We have to trust our kids to learn from all of their choices
  • It’s hard to give up the drivers seat
  • Resiliency comes from surviving difficult things
  • Our teens are moving with a limited bank of experiences
  • Using curiosity is powerful and ask our teens if they want to hear our opinion
  • We can be involved, without controlling their every move
  • The sweet spot
  • Middle ground for encouraging teens to nurture relationship
  • Stay Connected to Your Teenager by Michael Riera
  • Loosening up the limits
  • “It’s your call…”
  • Casey shares her story about her teen daughter dropping out of school
  • The number one thing teens need from their parents….

Where to find Sarah:

Website | Facebook | Peaceful Parenting with Teenagers

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Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

:::

The Book, The Academy, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey:

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CHECK OUT THE ACADEMY - The Joyful Courage Academy is a five week online program for parents of teens who are ready to nurture a deeper, stronger relationship with their child. Emphasis is on developing/strengthening your parenting foundation, increasing connection,  communication and boundaries, and creating sustainability along the way. REgistration for the Winter Acadmy is open from February 12 - March 1st. Space is limited. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

 

 

Feb 11, 2020

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:

Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

SUPER FAM

Take that community vibe next level by joining the Joyful Courage Patreon community! For as little as $5/month you can support the podcast, and enjoy weekly FB lives from me every Monday - answering questions from the community and offering direct support and coaching, and every other week there is also a Podcast Recap discussion. --> www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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Thank you BETTER HELP!

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help - online counseling anytime, anywhere. → www.betterhelp.com/joyfulcourage

:::

Today is a solos show - YAY!

Coming off of the mental health mini summit… I am reminded time and time again about the importance of creating an environment that support our kids-teens in being who they are. A space that feels emotionally safe.

We hold the container, we set the tone, right?

Before we can do that we really need to decide what it is that we want to create? 

Speaking with clients about this, before a big conversation or event, I will aks them, well, what is it you want to create? What is most important for you that your child receives?

Strategies for creating a home environment that nurtures safety

  • Routines/Consistency/dependable structure 
  • Asking permission/Being curious
  • Being available/Non judgmental
  • Validate their experience
  • Own your stuff
  • Trust that your kids ARE thinking about what is best for them
  • Power of perspective - 3 bs and the outside observer, remembering the iceberg

Therapy - 

One of the things that has been really useful for me lately that I am digging into through therapy is identifying key times in my life where I felt lost, isolated, and really pulled away from my parents…. And if I could go back that that girl to tell her what she needs to hear….  Some of what has come up has been:

This must be really hard, it must feel really confusing
You are ok just as you are, you are enough and worthy of love
I am here for you

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Mental Health Mini Summit Forever Access

If you missed the mini summit OR are just looking to be able to go back to the powerful interviews that happened there, YOU CAN! The mini summit is available for purchase!

Simply go to www.joyfulcourage.com/mhms4evr

:::

The Book, The Academy, The Coaching

Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in you parenting journey:

READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book

CHECK OUT THE ACADEMY - The Joyful Courage Academy is a five week online program for parents of teens who are ready to nurture a deeper, stronger relationship with their child. Emphasis is on developing/strengthening your parenting foundation, increasing connection,  communication and boundaries, and creating sustainability along the way. REgistration for the Winter Acadmy is open from February 12 - March 1st. Space is limited. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

 

Feb 4, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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I am so excited to welcome Sara Dean to the Joyful Courage Podcast. Sara is the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast, a top rated podcast with over 2 million downloads. Her biggest passion is helping women own their space.  After enduring a long infertility journey, and then a full blown identity crises following the birth of her son, Sara took her background in psychology/health/ wellness and rebuilt her identity – one step at a time. Today, Sara motivates and inspires women to stop shrinking and start growing in every aspect of their lives.  She is on a mission to inspire women and moms, in particular, to live bigger, bolder, braver #everydamnday.

"I realized over time that I wanted to be having conversations about helping women take up space, rather than always trying to shrink in the space they existed in.”

“Perfect is paralyzing.”

“If you're in perfectionism, there's no momentum.”

“We need to give ourselves permission to feel in big ways and to be vulnerable with those feelings.”

“It's okay to cry, but suffering in silence is the most surefire way to destroy yourself.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The role of mindset 
  • Outcome versus process goals 
  • Moms and worthiness
  • Why perfect sucks
  • Perfectionism, procrastination and high achieving women
  • How perfectionism robs you of momentum
  • Doing B- work
  • The role of routine and structure
  • Creating mental freedom
  • Giving ourselves permission to feel
  • Intuition and finding the lessons in the chaos
  • Learning to sit in discomfort
  • Finding gratitude in hard moments and hard phases
  • The universality of challenges and trauma 
  • Why women suffer in silence

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So for me, joyful courage means finding joy in being uncomfortable. So I think about courage around, like, embracing discomfort and intentionally doing uncomfortable things. That, for me, is how I frame courage for myself. And last year, I made myself pickup skiing even though I'm terrified of heights and chairlifts, and speed and I think that chair lifts are like death traps. But I made myself take up skiing because we wanted my son to ski. And so I learned how to ski. And it took a ton of courage, pretty much didn't want to do it at all, ever, every time I went up to the mountain, but I also got up there every week and was like, “Oh my gosh, look how beautiful it is up here.” There were so many rewards from it. And I also had not pushed my body, as someone who's been in fitness for many years, I hadn't pushed my body in a new physical endeavor in a really long time. And I forgot how rewarding that was to find strength in something physical, something new that was physical. And so there was just all of these rewards that came out of it that I did not expect that had nothing to do with like, actually skiing down the mountain that became kind of like “Oh, cool. And I also get to ski down the mountain on top of all these other things.” So yeah, so I would say, finding the rewards in discomfort and then seeking that and then moving forward seeking more discomfort, which I'm, like, stubbornly seeking discomfort.

Resources: 

Tenacious Mamas Mastermind

The Life Coach School Podcast

The Miracle Morning

Where to find Sarah: 

Shameless Mom Academy Podcast

Shameless Mom Academy

Shameless Mom Conference

Shameless Mom Facebook Group

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Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

 February 3rd – February 7th – 5 interviews over 5 days to deep dive into some of the mental health challenges that are showing up with teens.

There is a lot happening right now for teens, and it can feel scary. When mental health challenges show up in our family, we tend to isolate ourselves, adding to the stress of what we are going through.

I created this mini summit for parents with teens who are having a hard time, AND for their friends, family and supporters. Lifting the understanding of the entire VILLAGE makes a huge impact on the individual. Get yourself registered now!

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

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PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 28, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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SOLo SHOW

Interviewed for the positive parenting conference by Sumitha Bhandarkar from afineparent.com and she wanted to interview me about my book – fun to remember that I wrote a book!

Deep dove into the three Bs.

Then last night I had my first of 6 live parenting classes here in Bellingham.

Being vs doing

Theory, belonging and significance

Power of perceptions

Humans are social beings – everything in the context of relationship

Iceberg

  • why is it important to keep in mind?
    • HALT
    • Problem we see is a solution/response to a problem we don’t know about
    • Mistaken beliefs about self/others/world
  • Why is it hard to remember to consider the iceberg?
    • BECAUSE WE ARE USUALLY PISSED ABOUT WHAT IS HAPPENING AT THE TIP!!

WE HAVE OUR OWN ICEBERGS!!

At the tip of our iceberg is our emotional/instinctive response to the behavior we are seeing right?

And what is under the surface?????

  • HALT!!
  • Feelings of defeat and beat up about mistakes we made…
  • Conditioning/baggage from our own experiences

Ahhhhh – so many icebergs!!

So we are wired to connect….  And remember what Dan and Tina shared in EPS 215 --- the four s’s – seen, safe, soothed, secure. THIS IS WHAT OUR KIDS NEED, and isn’t it what we need too?

  • We get to learn to offer this up to ourselves

Back to the three Bs – this is one tool to support us in creating the four S’s for ourselves, so that we can then offer them up for our kids – show up better, attuned, connected, loving.

Lets play with the 3 Bs…. I am going to guide you through them, while also explaining deeper the purpose and power of each B….

Breath

The breath is an tool that directly effects the nervous system – and when we are in fight or flight, you can bet our nervous system is working overtime -rapid heart beat, tension, we are full of adrenaline…

Attending to breath allows for a settling in…. a slowing down… an opening….

Body

Riding the breath into the body in search of any leftover tension….  Allow the breath to soften the body, the small muscles in the face, the neck, the shoulders….

We want to soften the body, open the body so that we can soften and open the mind….

Balcony

Once you feel yourself soften, find your balcony seat, imagine that you can lift up and out of your body and look down at your experience, as if you are watching a show from a balcony seat – you are accessing your outside observer. The part of yourself that is separate from your experience, knowing that you are having an experience…

From this place, this outside observer place, look at yourself through the lens of compassion, through the lens of love….  What is happening under your iceberg? Can you be a nonjudgmental observer? What happens when you get curious about your experience….?

Breath body balcony – the 3 Bs.

This is a practice. One that becomes useful when we choose into it over and over again. It becomes useful when we become familiar with it.

We have to practice.

This is a tool that is useful in the heat of the moment, if we’ve practiced.

So here is your homework – and shout out to any of my BTC parents who are listening in, this is their homework this week too:

Set some alarms/reminders on your phone.

  • 3/day
  • Do the practice when you are prompted
    • Work, grocery store, bedtime…..
  • Do the practice intentionally

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Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

February 3rd – February 7th – 5 interviews over 5 days to deep dive into some of the mental health challenges that are showing up with teens.

There is a lot happening right now for teens, and it can feel scary. When mental health challenges show up in our family, we tend to isolate ourselves, adding to the stress of what we are going through.

I created this mini summit for parents with teens who are having a hard time, AND for their friends, family and supporters. Lifting the understanding of the entire VILLAGE makes a huge impact on the individual. Get yourself registered now!

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

:::

PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

:::::

GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 21, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s guest is Alyssa Blask Campbell. Alyssa has her Master's of Education in Early Childhood. She is a leading expert in emotional development speaking to people around the world. She is a podcast host for Voices of Your Village and the CEO of Seed and Sew. Alyssa has been featured As an emotional development expert and publications such as the Washington Post, Kids VT and Family Education. After co creating the CEP method, which she's going to tell us all about, she researched it across the US and co authored a book on it scheduled for publication next year. Alyssa is deeply passionate about building emotional intelligence in children, stating that it's never too early or too late to start, thank goodness. Alyssa shows up as approachable and welcomes people into her village to get support at all ages and stages shame free.  Join us!

 

"In order to be able to do that social piece, the kindness, the respect the empathy, the social awareness components, we have to know how to navigate the self awareness and self regulation first.”

“Sometimes times it's really just getting down to what is our feeling about what they're feeling or experiencing.”

“I believe that it's our job to find the calm, not their job to get calm for us.”

“It's safe for me to feel this because it's not going to last forever.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The difference between social and emotional development
  • The role of self awareness and self regulation
  • Coping mechanisms versus coping strategies
  • The five phases of emotion processing
  • Coping mechanisms as numbing agents
  • Fine motor activities as processing tools
  • Changing habits one at a time
  • Reflective Practice - what it is and how it works
  • Finding the calm for your kids
  • Mirror Neurons and the neurology of calm
  • Addressing bias as a step in the parenting education journey 
  • Taking care of your physical health so you can self-regulate
  • Allowing yourself to feel
  • Recognizing feelings
  • Empathizing and connecting vs noticing
  • Helping your kids feel felt
  • Finding security in your feeling
  • Yale research on anxiety in kids
  • The relationship between anxiety and fear
  • Problem solving and conflict resolution
  • Identifying when you’re ready for problem solving
  • What makes Voices of Your Village Podcast awesome

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think for me joyful courage is the ability to step in to the fear and the unknown. In that pursuit or desire of getting back to the calm, easy, joy, if you will, like when we have those tools to process the hard stuff, when we're courageous enough to do this work to build our self awareness and to put the mirror up to ourselves and not just to our kiddos. When we are courageous enough to do that, then we get to live with more joy and calm and peace.

 

Resources: 

Free Emotional Coaching Guide

 

Where to find Alyssa:

Facebook

Instagram

Voices of Your Village Podcast

 

 

 

PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

 

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

 

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

 

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GET THE BOOK!

 

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

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CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 14, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today is a solo show! I am sharing about what is happening in the Joyful Courage community these next few weeks:

  • Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit

www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

  • Podcast Recap LIVES added to the Patreon community

www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

Other topics that I am speaking into:

  • Resentment on the journey
  • Making self care happen
  • Being in choice
  • And making choices that allow us to let go
  • Being a model
  • Transformation starts with us

How are you showing up for your family??

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 7, 2020

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s guests are Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson. Dan is an internationally acclaimed author, award winning educator and child psychiatrist. He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, where he also serves as a co investigator at the Center For Culture, Brain And Development, and co director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center. Dan co authored some of our favorite parenting books, including The Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain. With the other guest joining us today, he also wrote Brainstorm: The Bible for Parents of Teens, Parenting From The Inside Out and Aware, which came out the summer of 2018 and he came on to discuss that book with me. 

 

Dr. Tina Bryson is the other guest that we get to hear from today. She is the co author with Dan Segal of three New York Times bestsellers soon to be four and is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, California. Tina is also a pediatric and adolescent, psychotherapist, she keynotes conferences, and conducts workshops for parents, educators and clinicians all over the world. There is so much more I could add to the bios of both of these guests I could truly go on and on. They're here today to share about their latest book, The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become, and How Their Brains get Wired.  Join us!

 

"One of the best ways for us to predict how well a kid turns out is by looking at this research from decades and decades and across many cultures that says that the way a parent shows up and whether the degree to which they provide secure attachment relationships, that this is a huge predictor for how well kids turn out on many things that we measure them on.”

“The science of attachment is so powerful.” 

“No matter what happened to you as a parent, how you come to make sense of what happened to allows you to be present.”

“The brain wires based on the kinds of experiences we have.”

“Every child is different. Every parent is different, every situation is different. And the key is really more about being present and attuning.”

“What your child needs most from you is to show up.”

 “The messiness, the disconnection, the inevitable ruptures. That's a part of life. The fact that there are ruptures doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. It means you're human.”

“You can always begin again, knowing the direction you want to take.”

“If we can show up in that moment, and help the other person feel safe and seen and sued. That's always the right answer.”

 “It's about helping the child know, at the end of the day, that if something goes wrong, if they are in distress, if they have a need, we will see it, and we will show up for them flawed, not perfect.” 

“This science is full of hope.”

“It isn't about perfection, it's about presence”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Secure attachment as a predictor of future success 
  • The Power of Showing Up
  • What parents need to understand about attachment
  • Does attachment involve just one attachment figure?
  • The different ways parents can show up
  • What attachment teaches kids
  • The science of attachment and how it applies to everyday life 
  • Mutual belonging and connection
  • How experiences wire the brain
  • Showing up for ourselves
  • The value of a coherent narrative
  • The 4 S’s
  • Repairing ruptures
  • What conflict can teach
  • What the 4 S’s look like in action
  • The difference between fostering attachment and being permissive
  • Predictability as safety
  • Expanding the container of consciousness and the window of tolerance
  • Experiences with attachment across generations
  • The ongoing opportunity for development
  • Paths of Hope and where they lead
  • Why parents need people to show up for us too
  • Aiming for presence, not perfection
  • Self as embodied and relational 
  • Learning to tolerate uncertainty

 

Resources: 

The Whole Brain Child

No Drama Discipline

The Yes Brain

The Baby Book

Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present

The Power of Showing Up

Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting

Eps 126: Tina Bryson is BACK teaching us about nurturing a YES BRAIN

Brainstorm

Parenting From The Inside Out 

 

Where to find Dr. Siegel and Dr. Bryson:

Dr. Tina Bryson

Dr. Dan Siegel

PATREON – Joyful Courage Super FAM

For $5/month Joyful Courage Super FAM patrons get to be a part of a sweet little private FB community where I show up every Monday for a Q and A, and beginning in January 2020, I will be showing up every FRIDAY to tease apart the weekly podcast episode. You want to be a part of this – it is a fabulous way to give back.

Go to www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Dec 31, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today is a solo show, reflecting on 2019 – the celebrations, the lessons, all of it. I am so grateful for the community and the love you send me and each other on the daily!!

Adolescent Mental Health Mini summit registration: www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit

See you in the new year!

 

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Dec 17, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today’s guest is Aparna Venkataraman. Aparna is a parent coach, meditation teacher, motivational speaker and global wellness advocate for doTERRA essential oils. Her approachable nature, strong intuition and problem solving skills guide her in supporting parents of babies, toddlers and teens to empower themselves and build healthy relationships with one another through effective communication, confidence building and light hearted mindfulness techniques.

She values authenticity, which you all know is one of my favorites, a kind nature, motivation, love, compassion, gratitude and humor as key components of a beautiful life. She’s here to share ways that families can relieve stress through self care, mindfulness and effective communication. Join us!

"Self care means to me to find ways to connect back to what is lighting me up, what is helping me to find peace and stay connected to my authentic self.”

“There are simple things you can do each day that can help you to create a routine where you're feeling connected to yourself and not just waiting until the weekend until you have much more time”

“We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be a certain way and to show up in the world as somebody who has it all together. When we're really actually stressed, really, really stressed on the inside.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Self-care beyond manicures and exercise 
  • Why self care doesn’t have to wait for the weekend 
  • The pressure to keep up appearances
  • How to tell when you’re connecting to your authentic self
  • What is intrinsic self care
  • The power behind finding our why 
  • How spirituality can be helpful 
  • The role of breath in self care
  • Stress, parenting and mindfulness 
  • Tips for learning mindfulness 
  • Ways to start small in your mindfulness 
  • Laughter as stress relief

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So joyful courage in the context of an intrinsic self care practice, that's the courage to show up. vulnerably, really, and to do what I really want to do, and even if it doesn't make sense to anyone, or even to myself, but to do what feels good and what I want to do, and to not be afraid of sharing that if I feel like sharing that with somebody, but to not be afraid to find the joy in things as we just talked about when things don't feel great, not being afraid to do that and knowing that when I'm doing that I'm taking care of myself and I'm helping myself to really make the day feel a little easier so I can move through my day too. That, I think, is joyful courage when I'm taking care of myself and doing something that feels great especially on those days that don't feel great.

 

Resources: 

Essential Oils

 

Where to find  Aparna:

Website InstagramFacebook

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GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Dec 10, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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SOLO SHOW!

I have shared about going to therapy – and quite a few of you have reached out and shared that this has prompted YOU to find this kind of support in your community – SO HAPPY!

I told you how I shopped around and chose on that I thought was the right fit. I had actually had some one I trust and worked with suggest that somatic therapy was really the fit I wanted, so that is what I looked for.

Even after shopping around, after a few sessions, I felt unsatisfied with the experience. IT felt slow and directionless. Now, this could ABSOLUTELY say something about me, right? Have I spoken before about my need to get things moving and FIX problems???

I have another friend that told me that I would LOVE who she was seeing – it’s a man, interestingly enough I thought I wanted to work with women but I LOVE THIS GUY. And while he isn’t solving my problems and going into “fix it” mode – the masculine energy is what I am noticing is supporting the work. But it also feels balanced because there does seem to be spaciousness, but my experience of the time spent with him feel directional.

So, all that to say that you all have permission to change up your mental health team if something feels off. Unapologetically.

Today I want to talk about something that has been coming up for me, AND with some of my clients. I have a feeling you are all going to relate with this as well.

So let me set this up and you can decide if you can relate….

You are looking ahead to the weekend. Everyone is going to be home on Sunday and you would really like to have a family day, time together doing something…. Maybe you’ll all decide to go to a movie or do a project, but you know that time together is something you all need and Sunday is the perfect time….

Sunday rolls around and your partner gets busy with a home improvement project that looks like it is going to last all day, one of you kids has made plans with friends and gets irritated when you tell him nope, you have to be home. And maybe the other child is looking for “alone time” rather than “together time.”

Literally no one is on board with a family day.

Maybe you use language like:

“I was kinda hoping we could do something with the kids today” or “It’s important to me that we spend time together as a family” or “I really wish you wanted to hang out with us”

And then our people carry one with the home improvement, making plans with friends, or retreating into their bedroom.

And what happens to us? Well, what happens to me is I start to feel really angry and resentful. I feel slighted, disrespected, dismissed. I then continue to interact with my family from this place. The energy of the house shifts and everyone is now MOTIVATED to be busy with their own thing, away from mom, who has now moved into bitch/blamer mode.

From the outside looking in, this is ridiculous, right?

Did I even explicitly SAY to my family, “lets spend Sunday afternoon together?” and make it a plan? No.

Were my family rejecting me when they carried on with what they needed/planned for that day? No.

Did I actually FUEL disconnection in my response to them? Yes.

Right, get it together, Casey.

But in the moment…..  In the moment it feels like rejection. IT feels like no one cares. Thoughts of failure show up, catastrophizing…. Comparison to other families that are FOR SURE joyfully doing something wonderful with THEIR families. What is wrong with us?

And all of this comes also with tightness in my chest and belly, a clenched jaw, furrowed brow – an overall experience of tension. And that is the physical sensation that typically leads me into a mindset of poor me, gosh darn it, I am hurting and they need to know it.

Its funny too, when I am feeling this way, I get really uptight if the kids are on their screens, or their rooms are a mess – all of a sudden I can see a million things that bother me and I am throwing it at them.

And it isn’t about the screens or the rooms, it’s about the hurt I am experience, that I actually set myself up for!!

And this can really sneak up on you too, right? When you expect one response and get something else? This is something I am working out with my therapist, because when my expectations are challenged, I go into fight or flight – typically fight mode. My thinking gets rigid, and I am grasping for control….  Yeah, it’s a control thing I think. And I am sure this can be traced back to my interpretation of stability or instability growing up.

So what do we do???  IF you have read my book, you know that I highlight that experience of awareness “I know I am pissed and should calm down” coupled with the justification of  “but god damn it they need to KNOW”

Yeah……. Raise your hand if you know the struggle. It’s like the emotional experience has tentacles and it’s holding us captive. Because if we move through it, move through or anger and resentment in a positive way, and then show up from a place of connection and love, what?

There is this idea that if others don’t feel our pain, they are somehow getting away with something. The reality is, when what we are being triggered by is an internal experience that we are having, and then responding to others from that place of pain, all they really are is confused, or perhaps scared.

So, how about we choose to do something different when this resentment shows up? Lets start with getting some space.

Meme:

I am unworthy.

I am noticing, that I am having the thought, that I am unworthy.

I am being rejected/dismissed/ignored

I am noticing, that I am having the thought, that I am being rejected/dismissed/ignored

Is it true?

Yes or no – what can I do about it?

If the answer is yes, have a meaning full conversation with the people that you feel are involved (I love the conversation I had on Eps 174: Learning to be a more mindful communicator with Oren Jay Sofer, check it out)

If the answer is no, take care of yourself. Feel your feelings and give yourself a chance to process them. Journal. Talk to a friend. Talk to your therapist. Be with your experience and move through it, rather than avoid it or distract yourself from feeling it.

Ok, so what can we do to be proactive? 

If you want something, be explicit about it, not vague. You can’t expect for your children to tease apart your generalizations to hear what you are really trying to say.

This sounds like:

“Sunday afternoon we are all going to be home and I would like us to do something together from 1-5, so don’t make any plans, please.”

As the holidays get closer, know that you are going to be making lots of plans and expectations in your head. Take this opportunity to speak into the experience you would like to have. Encourage and invite your family into the planning so that they know what to expect and what YOU expect. Find flexibility too – because you are SHARING the experience with others…

Helpful?

I love this topic – know that I am actively practicing what I shared with you today, all the time. Imperfectly.

We are all in this together, friends!!

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Dec 3, 2019

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Today’s guest is Tonya Dalton. Tonya is a productivity expert, writer, speaker and founder of Inkwell Press Productivity Company, a company centered around productivity tools and training. she released her book The Joy of Missing Out on October 1, she's going to share a little bit about her book with us. Tanya is also the mother of two teenagers and really knows what it means to be the leader of a family.  Join us!

 

" I love that it feels like a permission slip. Like I feel like I have permission to just stop chasing my tail.”

“We're filling our calendars, but we're not really filling our souls.”

“it's really about mindful living. It's really about living with intention.”

“Productivity is not about doing more. It's about doing what is most important.”

“Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured.”

“None of us truly have it all together all of the time.”

“Balance is a myth.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The glorification of busy
  • The obligation and pressure to be busy 
  • How not being busy makes us feel about ourselves 
  • How being busy keeps us from nurturing ourselves and others 
  • Quality over quantity 
  • Embracing imperfection
  • Releasing the need to be busy 
  • “Shoulding” on ourselves and why that’s not helpful 
  • Living mindfully with intention
  • Prioritizing activities instead of trying to do all the things
  • Letting go of “Some Day” Syndrome
  • The stories we tell ourselves and unreasonably high expectations
  • Getting curious about our responses to life 
  • Examining our comfort zones and if they are serving us
  • How releasing perfectionism supports connection
  • Letting people lift you up as a gift to them
  • Family as a team
  • Sunday planning as a ritual
  • Division of labor based on team member needs and supporting each other
  • Belonging and significance and filling each other’s buckets
  • Encouraging ownership and buy in with your kids
  • Letting go of balance
  • Finding flexibility in the mess

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

 

I love this question because I think joyful courage to me really means the ability to stand up, to feel confident in your choices, and to live the life you really want. Because here's the truth, you know, living a life is centered on your priorities and letting your priorities sit front and center every day is a choice. And it's not always an easy choice because people will question it. People will pull you in different directions wanting you to say yes to things when really you should be saying no. And so really joyful courage is standing tall and standing true to what is most important to you.

 

Resources: 

The Joy of Missing Out

Productivity Paradox podcast 

Weekly kickstart notepad

 

Where to find Tonya:

TonyaDalton.com

Inkwell Press

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“I have learned SO MUCH listening to these! Thank you all for the work and wisdom that went in to putting this together!”

- Teen Audio Summit parent

 

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For those of you with kids that cross the span of school age to teens. Get all the programs of the School Age Bundle AND the Teen Audio Summit. YES!

 

 

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GET THE BOOK!

 

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

Parenting is messy. Alongside all of the joy comes and emotional freight train full of challenges and frustration. Your child can instantly trigger strong reactions that leave you feeling angry and out of control. What if you didn’t respond so emotionally every time? What if you could learn to be more present to the experience you were having? Might you feel like a better parent?

Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey helps parents navigate the roller coaster of parenting to reveal:

  • How identifying your body’s physical reaction to stress is the first step to taking control of your parenting

  • Why our past experiences add to the conflict with out kids and what to do about it.

  • Real-life stories from parents riding the emotional freight train.

  • The Three B’s Method to change your reaction anytime, anywhere.

  • How to grow your relationship with all of the people that you love.

From toddlers to teenagers, Joyful Courage is the practical and thoughtful resource for parents to navigate the challenge of raising children while choosing to be connected and engaged. Parents can learn how to be the best for their families with Joyful Courage.

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Nov 26, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is available now!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again. Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups:
Live and Love with Joyful Courage
Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens

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Today is a solo show.

I missed you all last week…. As you know, I am in the throes of navigating my own parenting journey and sometimes that means stepping away from my professional work to focus on my family.

For all of you out there who are feeling like you are the only one struggling on this path, it simply IS NOT TRUE. We all have our own way of sharing with the world, and many people just don’t. They keep the hard stuff to themselves, leaving the rest of us thinking that their lives are easy-breezy.

This podcast, and this episode, is my way of pulling back the curtain and sharing from am deeply authentic place. The Joyful Courage community is a place for all of us to bring our whole, vulnerable selves.

There is plenty to worry about on the parenting path, especially as our kids transform into teens and beyond. When is the fear useful, and when is it getting in the way of hearing our own wise, intuition? I explore that today.

I hope you enjoy it!

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THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

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Nov 12, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK is here!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again.  Get it now at www.joyfulcourage.com/book.

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My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields. 

Hunter is a yoga and mindfulness coach, the host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, and supporter of moms near and far. She is also a mama herself and walks her talk with her two daughters. I had the great pleasure of being a guest on Hunter’s podcast and am thrilled to host here on the Joyful Courage Podcast.

Hunter’s book, Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids is available now, and I am super honored to share her wisdom with you all today.

Where to find Hunter: 

Raising Good Humans Book Page: Raising Good Humans Book.com

Facebook Page: Hunter Clarke-Fields, Mindful Mama Mentor

Instagram: Mindful Mama Mentor

Twitter: HClarkeFields

LinkedIn: Hunter Clarke-Fields

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

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Nov 5, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again.  Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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This week is a solo show and I am totally going free style. There aren’t much for show notes, I hope you listen and that what is shared resonates with you. We are all in this together!

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

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CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Oct 29, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again.  Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today’s guest is Jaynay C. Johnson. Jaynay is a therapist, speaker and author, dedicating much of her time and energy to serving adolescent girls and their families. From suffering from teen depression to being written off from family and teachers as being just another troubled teen, Jaynay has always been a firm believer that at any given moment you have the power to say "This is not how the story is going to end." Jennay chose to take control of her story, choosing to dedicate her life to uplifting and empowering the leaders of tomorrow. Jaynay's body of work includes published books, magazine features, radio interviews and multiple guest appearances. A lady of elegance, poise, motivation and hope for tomorrow's leaders Jennay embodies an uplifting message and presentation style that she believes the ones coming behind her will need in order to reach their greatest potential. Join us!

"I think the space where parents miss a great opportunity is to empathize.”

“The reality is phones are not bad. Internet is not bad. It's a tool.”

“If as the parent, you're constantly making the choices for them, you're almost telling them that you don't think that they can make good decision.”

“It is important for us all to just take a proactive approach and have conversations around the best practices of social media, the best practices of having a phone. And I think we just need to be doing that more frequently than we are.” 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The evolution of the concept of adolescence
  • The audacity of “I know, because I was a teenager.”
  • Empathy and raising teens
  • Giving teens enough information to make informed decisions
  • The value of appropriate openness
  • Intergenerational differences
  • The role of mobile phones and when they tend to be introduced to Gen Z
  • Important conversations to have about phones with your kids
  • Big issues facing teens and their parents
  • Emotional intelligence and how it factors into the decision of which paths to pursue
  • Timing of college and the need to be open minded
  • Teaching your kids to trust themselves
  • Challenges facing teens and families of color
  • Being cognizant of cultural differences 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So joyful courage means to me that, although it can be rough to have certain conversations and to pull out some of the, you know, darker sides of life, I find joy knowing that once we pull them out, they get a chance to see the light. And from there, everything goes up and up. So that's what it means to me, that I had the courage to pull it out. But then you're happy because it's out and once it's out, it can breathe.

Where to find Jaynay:

Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | Website

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

:::::

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Oct 23, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again.  Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Hey friends… thank you for meeting me here. Thank you for seeing me and for sharing the ways that this podcast resonates with you and supports you. I have received feedback from so many ofyou talking about how this show is a lifeline for you, and a place where the experience you are having on the parenting journey is validating.

When I first started this show….

  • I had been practicing and facilitating PD for about 7 years
  • Blogging about my experience was landing with readers
  • My community and access of parent educators was growing and I wanted to share conversations with all of you
  • I was looking for a creative way to share content and build my biz
  • I released my first four episodes on April 9th of 2015, my kids were 9 and 12 – in third and sixth grade…. Seems like a lifetime ago

What I didn’t see coming….

  • How easy it was to be in conversation with people I admired about the parenting jourey
  • That I would really be talking so much about HUMANING
  • My desire to do solo shows and share so vulnerably would be so strong
  • That my solo shows would land so deeply with the community
  • That I would feel such a deep connection to listeners
  • That the show would become a life line for ME
  • The tension of leading a community while also navigating the experience of my own children’s teen years…. 

I’m in a time of transition….

  • My offerings are geared more and more to parents of teens – this has been the result of looking for support myself and not finding offers that were useful to me, that spoke to me and my style of parenting…
  • I want to be having conversations about the teen years – but also about humaning, because inside of all of this work we are growing and developing as human beings – every single day I am living this….
  • What I am also noticing is that there are less interviews that I want to be having…. I am feeling less connected to the interview format and more drawn to just speaking directly to you….
  • So I hope that is ok……

 Life happens for you

  • This season is unexpected
  • Long time listeners know that I am in it deep and practicing every day to be as aware and awake as I can with my teens
  • We’ve dealt with it all and continue to e surprised by what is showing up – like, really surprised
  • We can’t know how the narrative will go – we can convince ourselves that we can control it only to be shown time and time again that we CAN NOT
  • I am again in a new place of being show that I have NO CONTROL of the narrative when it comes to my kids…. 

Radical Acceptance

  • Have you heard of this?
  • DBT (which I haven’t ever done and know really nothing about accepting something with all of your soul opening yourself to fully experience the reality of the moment
  • Fighting reality continues suffering
  • Being in acceptance allow “radically accept that you want something you don’t have and it’s not a catastrophe” – Marsha Lineham

Past and future fucks us up

  • How many of us feel guilty and rack our brains looking for where we screwed up? If we did it differently we wouldn’t be in the situation we are in….
  • But but but…. Shouldn’t we think about the future? And how can we not??? I have hopes and dreams for my kids, of course.
  • THEY ARE THE DESIGNERS OF THEIRL IFE AND HOW CAN I GET OUT OF THE WAY????????
  • Creating a space that is pure enough for them to trust themselves.

Popular conversations

  • Would have us believe that there is a five step process for getting the outcome we want with our kids
  • Popular conversations would have us believe that parenting is about them and not us
  • Popular conversations would have us believe that if things go sideways it is about something that we are doing wrong, that there is something to fix
  • Popular conversation blames the world today, technology, and teens themselves for what we are seeing 

What if popular conversation is wrong

What if parenting is all about us?

What if no matter WHAT we do, our kids are going to experience the path they are meant to experience?

What if right here, right now, is exactly as it is meant to be?

Radical acceptance.

If this is exactly where we are meant to be, with all fo the challenges that exist – and I see you out there. Those of you with kids who are navigating mental health challenges, drug use and abuse, risky behavior –

I see you out there who FROM THE BEGINNING were invited into radical acceptance due to your childs different abilities – whether they be physical, mental or emotional.  You are the ones that all of us can learn from. This is old news, this idea of accepting reality AS IT IS. Thank you for being models for the rest of us and modeling what this looks like….

If this is exactly where we are meant to be, if we accept rather than resist the reality that we are finding ourselves in day to day, then there must be a purpose.

Perhaps it is as simple as sitting in this space. Allowing the physical, emotional, and spiritual experience of this acceptance to live without trying to make it go away.

My own experience with this….

  • Eps 203 I talked about getting a therapist
  • Current situation creating a physical response in my body
  • Somatic therapy/radical acceptance called me to transform the experience
  • What also shows up….. self doubt (the ego is super loud)
  • Back to radical acceptance, back to turning inward and being with what is showing up

Raise your hand if you can’t sleep?

Raise your hand if your belly is tied up in knots?

Raise your hand if you are experiencing feat that is with you all.damn.day?

I see you.

Radical acceptance. Things are as they are.

  • Feel that
  • Notice what shows up
  • Allow it to have a voice
  • How does your body respond?
  • What happens when you bring compassion?
  • Can you be with it?

We are not in charge of the narrative that is our children’s lives. Yet , as that narrative plays out, we can write our own narrative about how we are going to show up……

And right now, the narrative that I am writing is one of radical acceptance.

I love you!

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:::::

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Oct 15, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again.  Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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My guest today is Wendy Bertagnole.

Wendy Bertagnole, is a lover of chocolate, lifter of heavy weights, believer in wearing yoga clothes most every day, and a mother of three kids. She works with moms who are frustrated with their children’s behavior, helping them to once again enjoy motherhood and their children. With an undergrad degree in child development and a masters in special education, Wendy has taken what she’s learned, while also raising her three kids, to serve others 

Wendy knows that not every child shows up 100% happy and willing to cooperate every moment of every day, which can be frustrating. She believe every behavior is a form of communication and her mission is to help every parent understand what their child is communicating through their behavior.

Wendy’s work is aligned with the mission of Joyful Courage and I am thrilled to have some time to talk with her today.

Find Wendy:

Website | Podcast | Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest

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15 interviews that highlight all the things that show up during the teen years. !5 experts in Positive Discipline who KNOW the world of parenting teens joined me in powerful, useful conversations that I know you will love.

Click here to buy the Forever Package.

:::::

GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

:::::

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Oct 8, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available so soon!! I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again.  Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Courage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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Today is a solo show – woohoo!

I am having a really hard time prepping a solo show…. Part of the problem is that I feel like I am really in my own work of finding some space inside of my fears and worries about my parenting.

Am I too permissive? Am I avoiding conflict? Or am I meeting my kids where they are at?

Am I being pragmatic, or is this confusing?

Am I enabling or am I meeting my children where they are at?

What is going to happen to them?

Will they be able to cope in the future?

Will they ever feel passionate about anything?

Do they feel worthy of showing up, standing up, giving back?

I literally have been waking up in the middle of the night gripped with tension in my body and mind, spinning through all of these questions, coupling this with “what if…”

Well – I made an appointment to see my fave energy worker to see if I could get some help with removing these blocks, letting go so I could release these fears. And you know what came up – it is time for me to get some therapy.

Yup.

See, I am super aware of what is happening when it is happening. I can see the way I am in the middle of my family, grasping for strings to bring me a sense of control and safety – what is really happening is that I am becoming so entangled in their experience, that I may actually be making things worse… Or maybe not, but the dynamics in my relationships are not what I want them to be.

Shift into love. Shift into connection.  Surrender, let go.

But what happened, what I learned  or was reminded of from my energy worker, is that the “shift” I want to have happen, that I actually want to have happen, is bypassing the very real need that my inner girl has to be seen and heard and felt.

Between the messages I received growing up, and the persona that I try to fill in my career, there is this mistaken idea that to belong, or to matter, or to be “doing my work” I need to not fall apart. That falling apart is somehow weak, or a crutch, or I don’t know….  Not enlightened?

I can pinpoint times in my life where my experience was being dismissed, where I was told that there wasn’t space for me to breakdown and I have internalized that to the point where I can’t move through my pain.

And right now, the pain is fear and self doubt and worry…. My system wants to take the short cut to just breathing, finding neutral with my body and taking the balcony seat (doesn’t that sound familiar?)

And I am not here to say that the breath body balcony tool isn’t helpful, I do believe it is, AND there are times when the work that is being called for goes deeper than mindfulness with breath and journaling.

Working out what I am being shown as a place to get messy and dig in is actually going to support me in using mindfulness/the 3 Bs as tools for daily practice of being in relationship with my teens, WITHOUT bringing in the baggage of what I am holding from my own past…

It’s like when I work with teachers, I get to facilitate PDC, which is super useful all of the kids, and there are a small percentage of the kids that need more, right? For various reasons, there are some kids in the classroom that need more, they need a team, they need creative problem solving that is a bit more out of the box than the majority. 

That is where I am at right now on my own journey, and I need a team. I have some things to work through, beliefs to reframe, and some validation of my human experience to receive. I get to spend some time digging into my stuff in a way that lets it all come undone, finding a feeling of safety for being with the breakdown, so that I can breakthrough what is on the other side of these limiting beliefs.

Thank you so much for listening…. Please let me know how this show has resonated for you.

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15 interviews that highlight all the things that show up during the teen years. !5 experts in Positive Discipline who KNOW the world of parenting teens joined me in powerful, useful conversations that I know you will love.

Click here to buy the Forever Package.

:::::

GET THE BOOK!

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Oct 1, 2019

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey AUDIOBOOK will be available just in time for the Back to school season – it’s summer now, but soon we will all be looking at the transitions that come with fall. I am confident that the Joyful Courage audiobook will be a supportive companion as you ride it out with your kids – full of stories and tools that will connect you with self and others, the audiobook will be something you can listen to over and over and over again.  Keep staying tuned in for details as we get closer to launch day!! Follow Joyful Coruage on FB and IG, and sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

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My guest today is DR. ROB REIHER.

 

Rob is a highly respected developmental and educational psychologist.  He is a media expert who studies the escalating impact of tech, media and consumerism and it’s accompanying “noise” on children, families and society.

 

Also, Rob has extensive experience as a researcher, counselor, speaker, consultant, and educator.  As an adjunct professor of Psychology at Woodbury University in Burbank California, Rob created and taught the first INNERTAINMENT course in the country.  Rob has written two books and is the co-author (with Daniel Acuff Ph.D.) of Kidnapped: How Irresponsible Marketers Are Stealing the Minds of Your Children. He is also the co-host of the Live Above the Noise podcast.

I am thrilled to have Dr. Reiher on to support us in developing tools for this landscape of parenting.

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Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit FOREVER PACKAGE

 

15 interviews that highlight all the things that show up during the teen years. !5 experts in Positive Discipline who KNOW the world of parenting teens joined me in powerful, useful conversations that I know you will love.

 

Click here to buy the Forever Package.

 

:::::

 

GET THE BOOK!

 

Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

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