Patty Wipfler is the Hand in Hand Parenting Founder and Program Director. Her 40 years of work with parents and children has given rise to Parenting by Connection, a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her Hand in Hand team trains parent leaders in the US and 10 other countries, and offers accessible support for the vital work of parenting. With co-author Tosha Schore, she has written the book, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies in English, Spanish, and 10 other languages. She is the mother of two sons, and grandmother to three.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
• Active listening and how it helps people notice how they feel about their own experiences
• How being listened to and being able to sort through feelings can help activate problem solving.
• The impact of our own childhood experiences on how we perceive challenges in our children’s lives
• Parenting by connection and its relationship with positive discipline.
• Influencing and using presence, setting limits to encourage better behavior.
• How to hold space for your child who is emotionally elevated and let them deal with big feelings
• Letting your child feel the feelings and its impact on the healing process
• The size of the trigger relative to the depth of hurt – helping your child navigate big feelings
• Emotional upset as efficiently releasing tension
• Listening partnerships and how they can alleviate parenting stress and facilitate better parenting
• Emotional projects: ongoing parenting challenges and how to address them
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Joyful Courage is a human being’s birthright to be joyfully courageous. Joyful courage means to me what a one year old will sometimes do to pull themselves up so they can stand up next to a table or as a toddler is trying to walk across the room it’s like they don’t care what happens, they are just going to try it and they are proud of themselves as they do it. I think it’s the attitude towards life that we are born with, that we get to keep if we aren’t hurt too badly. Sometimes you have to work on hurt to get your birthright back.
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