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Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

Joyful Courage is a Conscious Parenting Podcast. Be inspired, entertained and educated as we navigate the challenges and celebrations of choosing to be a conscious parent. Interviews and solo shows will provide listeners with tools, strategies and inspiration that can be directly applied to their parenting journey.
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Feb 20, 2018

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves...

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Today’s guest is Liz Haske, a mother, an international teacher and instructional coach and children’s book author. She has over 15 years elementary classroom experience in six different countries and is super passionate about empowering children to be their most courageous selves.  Her first book, When Worry Takes Hold, was released in November 2017 and aims to help young children cope with worry by using mindful breathing. Join us!

 

“It’s about a young girl who’s afraid to do different things and she realizes that she has the power inside her and if she puts her hands on her belly, she can be brave.”

 

“Stories help us be better people if we are reading the right books”

 

“We want to empower these little people to realize they can do it. They can develop the tools and they can be confident and they can face what is presented to them in healthy and positive ways.”

 

“Worry gets bigger and bigger the more that we do it.”

 

“We can be brave, and everyone has worries … whether it’s helping our kids be brave or us being brave to face whatever parenting challenge it may be.”

 

“Courage is just a deep breath away.” 

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The basis & inspiration for When Worry Takes Hold
  • Worry as a visitor and the power to ask it to leave
  • Acknowledging & expecting worry
  • Externalizing worry and setting limits
  • Following the why – getting to the root of big feelings
  • Manifestations and signs of worry
  • Addressing underlying worry vs. addressing the behaviors
  • Taking a wide view to problem solving worry
  • How not to take worry related behaviors personally
  • Why trying to talk kids out of their worries doesn’t work
  • Managing worry as a practice
  • Tools for managing worry and how they can be applied to other situations
  • Mindful breathing vs. “Let’s take some deep breaths”
  • The power of mindful breathing
  • How to know when to get professional help (duration, intensity, impact, age appropriateness)
  • Journaling worries to find patterns and icebergs
  • Liz’s upcoming projects on the horizon
  • The importance of exercising self-compassion

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I’m going to answer it in two parts. I’d say the first way, which is for me personally, is finally having the courage to do something I’ve been dreaming about for over ten years and the absolute joy of going through the learning process of taking an idea and turning it into something that kids can hold in their hands and hopefully read and become better because of it. So that is absolutely Joyful Courage.

But I think it’s also in the context of kids the feeling that they get when they face their fear and they realize how empowered they are. It might not be breathing is their strategy, but perhaps When Worry Takes Hold might be a book that just starts a conversation with them and an adult in their life that, “Yeah, you know what, I do get a bit worried. Let’s try this breathing thing.” And, “You know what? This breathing thing isn’t working for me.” But then, there’s now this opening for more tools to be introduced because it’s something that’s been brought to the surface.

The book ends with, “Courage is just a deep breath away.” I think that when children can realize this, they’re empowered. There’s really a pure sense of pride and joy in being brave and finding courage and so that’s kind of what it means to me.  

Resources:

When Worry Takes Hold

Where to find Liz:

Facebook

Instagram

Website

Twitter

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Chaos to Calm

New offer from Casey!!

This is a four part video training that will support you in transforming the climate of your home.  More information at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/chaos

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Mother’s Journey 

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets 

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

 What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Feb 13, 2018

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A solo show all about routines

There are a couple tools, that when put into place, make the whole parenting journey easier.  You have heard me talk about special time, that one on one time that is so important for building relationship and a solid foundation of belonging and significance for our kids.

Challenges coming up in the LLWJC group

  • mornings, bedtimes, defiance, meltdowns, sibling issues
    • We find ourselves putting out fires
    • We find ourselves being overtaxed
    • We find ourselves slipping OUT of who we want to be and INTO crazy parent
    • This is also where we loose sight of the way that we are contributing to the chaos at hand….
      • We blame out kids
      • We fall into the trap of “it is always so difficult”
      • We forget that there is always a flow that comes after the ebb….

Yes, special time helps with the challenges mentioned about.

The relationship we nurture with our kids is what has the biggest impact on their behavior, absolutely.

AND, another tool that is super helpful to come back to, again and again, is co-creating routines.

Now, if you are someone with challenges in the morning, or after school, you may be thinking, but we have a routine, and it isn’t working!!!

GREAT.

Not all routines are created equal.

  • Routines are made to be modified and changed up
  • Routines designed to be HELPFUL for everyone will be the most USEFUL

Mindset matters

  • This is not about getting your kids to do what you want them to do
  • This is about helping your children feel like capable, contributing members of the family
  • This is about the process, the opportunity that exists inside the challenge that is currently at the surface

Take a deeper look…

  • Co creating routines means that you are CO CREATING
  • Find a time of day when everyone is feeling good, connected
  • Opening up the conversation to child about how they experience the challenging time of day, validate their feelings, listen and let them know you are taking their sharing to heart – this is not time to talk them out of what they are experiencing or getting them to “see your side”
  • Clear out the space through taking accountability for your behavior. This is really important.
  • Ask for their help to make that time of day easier/better for everyone
  • Brainstorm ideas/tasks
  • Offer/counter offer if you need to
  • Be open to their ideas
  • Be firm/not rigid around your non-negotiables
    • “This is what is important to me, how could we make that work?”
    • “What is your idea for that?”
  • Cross off anything that isn’t related/reasonable/respectful/helpful on the list
  • Work together to create a visual reminder
  • Try it for a week

But, but, but what if it doesn’t “work”

  • Shifting to what is “helpful”
  • Focus on the process
  • TRUST the process
  • Let the routine be the boss
  • Revisit at the end of the week and tweak if necessary

So many routines….

  • Housework
  • Family Meetings
  • Mornings
  • Afterschool
  • Bedtime

Take it slow – let go of urgency

How you show up matters

Be in your practice of curiosity and openness – catch yourself when you want to judge  (roshambo/coin flip) Currently in a new routine of turning screens off from 5-7.  This is a slippery place for us….

Recently posted a handout on the live and love page – will put it in the show notes – for walking through this process. Let me know if you have any questions!

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Chaos to Calm

New offer from Casey!!

This is a four part video training that will support you in transforming the climate of your home.  More information at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/chaos

:::::

All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?? 

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Feb 6, 2018

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Julie Miller is on with us!

Julie is on a mission to live a delicious life and bring joy back to the family dinner table.  She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator who holds a Master’s Degree in Human Nutrition from Bastyr University.  She has over 16 years’ experience sharing food and nutrition philosophy with diverse communities throughout the Seattle area. 

Julie currently specializes in helping families find their own positive feeding dynamic so that food is less of a parenting chore and more of a nourishing experience.  She believes that connection between adults, children and food sets the stage for a lifetime of personal wellness, including healthy eating.  Julie knows, as a Mom, that the constant demand to prepare and serve food can get just a wee bit tiring and tricky.  She emphasizes reducing the drama and eating minimally processed foods, while ensuring that children and adults meet their nutritional needs to support growth, development and wellbeing.   

Content:

  • Got into nutrition for personal reasons
  • Had kids and discovered PD
  • So much judgment in parenting – especially fierce around food
  • Helps parents to make parenting around food a nourishing experience for everyone
  • Most typical complaint? “I don’t like it”
  • Second biggest? Picky eating
  • Parental Fatigue – parents DON’T want to cook but DO want to feel kids good food
  • PD says – “Eating, sleeping, pottying, you can’t make them do it!”
  • You CAN work on belonging, significance and influence
  • They need to be guided, not forced
  • Division of responsibility – defining roles (Ellen Satter’s work)
    • Parent responsible for what, when, where AND maintaining connection
    • Child responsible for what they eat and how much
  • Story about Rowan drinking caffeine
  • Over 12 100mg isn’t terrible
  • Under 12 no caffeine
  • Guide THEM in using the information to make informed choices
  • Until it is personally meaningful for them to feel the effects of their choices, behavior won’t change
  • AND they learn what they live
  • Before bed snacks….
    • Timing
  • Thank you bites??
  • What about suggesting…..
    • Serve food family style. Parents can mentioned all the items that are available, then the parents job is done….
  • What about the salad??
  • Short term vs long term goals
  • Let go of judgement
  • Invite kids into planning/cooking to bulk up their belonging/significance/influence
  • Your job is to provide food, provide some structure and love them unconditionally
  • Let go of self judgement/what others think/fear <3

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage to me is the invitation to live boldly with your own truth, to hold tight to your own convictions and values for your family and your children, and to do it in a joyful way….

Find Julie:

www.harmonioustable.net
email at jmillernutrition@comcast.net
Live workshops in Seattle – reach out to hire Julie

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Chaos to Calm 

New offer from Casey!!

This is a four part video training that will support you in transforming the climate of your home.  More information at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/chaos

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 All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets 

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 30, 2018

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Content:

Solo show today – from the car….  Thank you for having grace for my audio quality this week!! Feeling inspired to share with you on my way to yoga class.

All about the Iceberg Metaphor

  • Shout out to all the parents of teens out there who are showing up and sharing and willing to be vulnerable
  • Connecting seeing an iceberg as a metaphor for children’s behavior
  • Unwanted behavior is the “tip” of the iceberg
    • The behavior that we see
  • Under the surface -
    • What’s opening the door to the behavior?
      • Perception of connection
      • Perception of influence
      • Perception of mattering
      • Trauma/adversity
        • Kids are ALWAYS making meaning with their underdeveloped brain – and forming beliefs from that place
      • Lacking skills for navigating the challenges/emotions that show up
    • Moving from a place of strengthening relationship as a way to understand what is below the surface, to help us influence the behavior at the tip
    • Episode 104 on Making Amends
    • Always be moving towards nurturing relationship
  • What are some of the things YOU do to look under the surface? Head over to Live and Love with Joyful Courage and share!

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Journey to Joy Ecourse

Journey to Joy is a 3-part offer. 

Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work.

You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self-acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

 

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 16, 2018

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Holding space for having a 15 YEAR OLD!!  WHOA!!

What is happening in the BIZ

  • Membership is HAPPENING
  • Alumni group calls
  • Ecourses
  • Coaching calls
    • What is happening in the collective is happening in the individual
    • I speak to the community and I am speaking to myself
    • TRUST – BIG PICTURE – MARATHON NOT A SPRINT

How to “hold the container”

  • Jessica talking about “our job is to be the container”
  • Present, available, confident – even as our kids are making mistakes
  • I got you – I am unconditional

Our response matters

  • Who we be comes before what we do
    • We can handle it
    • Everything will be ok, or not, either way, we stand by our kids
    • We trust that they can handle what life gives them, and we support them inside of that (the world’s consequences, etc)
  • What to do becomes more clear when we practice being in the moment, vs in our emo/fear
    • Learn how to recognize we are there when we are there
    • Practice being with our overwhelm without letting it takes us over (observers)
      • Simple but not easy!!! Takes time!!
    • What we are trying to do is REWIRE the brain (Tina Bryson show 126)
    • Be witness to the presence of the emotional freight train, but let it idle
      • My book!!! Next Fall!!!  WOOHOO

Our kids make mistakes

  • Lagging skills/ impulse/ brain development – DON’T BE SURPRISED BY IT
  • Cause and effect
  • Pushing boundaries to know where they are and who YOU are in the process
    • Making judgements about themselves and their peeps
      • Trust? Safety? Dependability? Can they handle this???

BUT WHAT DO WE DO???

  • Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting – “I am not going to sit here and pretend that I have all the answers to all of your problems. I don’t know you or your families…”
  • What are the outcomes that you want? What are the skills that you are hoping that your adult child will one day embody?
    • What are the skills your child is showing you (through behavior) that they are missing?
    • What is a solution to the challenge that will help them learn those skills?
    • Is there something to “make right”?
    • How can you say less and listen more???
    • Remember – finding solutions to problems, including a “plan for next time” or a “plan to fix the mistake/make things right,” finding solutions are always consequences – HOWEVER consequences that we impose on our children are NOT always a solution to problems.
      • WHAT DO WE DO often is a request for “what do we do to them?”

Kids do better when they feel better. – Jane Nelsen

Kids want to succeed, they don't always know how. – Ross Greene

A Misbehaving child is a discouraged child. – Rudolf Dreikurs

Humans are always moving towards a sense of belonging and significance, am I connected? Do I matter? – from Aderian Theory

The most powerful tool you have for influencing behavior is the relationship that you nurture with your child. Choosing into the work of Joyful Courage, which really means being willing to grow and practice awareness, being present to your child and your experience, and hold space for your kids, no matter how they are showing up, THIS will nurture and preserve relationship.

So – what do you think? Does this make sense to you?? Do you have thoughts about this?

Come join the community discussion over in Live and Love with Joyful Courage. This is a closed FB group for listeners and parents that appreciate this conversation and are committed to learning and supporting each other on the journey.

Thank you so much for listening today – super DUPER appreciate all you moms and dads out there doing the work of making the world a better place through showing up well for your children!!

I will be back next week with Liz Blackwell-Moore talking about teens and drugs – GAH!!!  I know – it’s scary, but listen anyways because she is brilliant and the conversation is helpful!!

Big love!!

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Journey to Joy Ecourse

Journey to Joy is a 3 part offer. 

Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work.

You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?.

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 9, 2018

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Welcome, thank you for showing up! 

Tina Bryson is BACK ON the podcast today!!  You all remember Tina from Eps 100 – which happens to be THE most downloaded show to date of this podcast.

Tina co-authored two of MY fave parenting books, the whole brain child and no drama discipline with Dan Siegel and she is BACK on the podcast today to talk about her NEW book, the yes brain.

I am THRILLED she is back on….

Content:

  • The Yes Brain is available NOW
  • Tina is a mama to 17, 14, and 11 year boys
  • Yes brain and no brain approaches
    • A “yes brain” is a mindset of saying yes to the world, open – neurological state, our brain is integrated and linked up… Over time it becomes hardwired
    • A “no brain” is fearful, reactive
  • Prompted by “what are the skills my child needs to be successful?” – Tina and Dan Siegel wanted to go beyond academics and gold stars
    • They need an integrated brain that has a strong/functioning prefrontal cortex
  • Yes Brain has 4 Components:
    • Balance
    • Resilience
    • Insight
    • Empathy
  • Developmental brain/age/temperament matters
  • Tina shares a story about her own son who seemed to be lacking empathy at a young age
  • Brain develops through experience - What we emphasize (as parents) in our interactions create new linking connection in the brain.
  • Use books, shows, and real world experiences to model and draw forth empathy in our kids
  • Trust development, trust that what you are doing will pay off
  • Supporting our children in feeling their feelings – support them as they practice tolerating difficult feelings
  • Normalize difficult feelings…
  • 2-3 tools to put into practice:
    • Sleep!!!
      • When we sleep the brain LITERALLY freshens up
    • Survive emotional dysregulation
      • When kids are at their worst is when they need us the most
      • Co-regulaton – a soothing presence to communicate “you’re safe, I’m here”
      • Build/teach skills to help them regulate themselves – GREEN ZONE
      • Check out Eps 100 to hear Tina dig deeper into this
      • Teach them to understand themselves
    • Rethinking success
      • Our children having an authentic self that they can trust
      • It’s about the journey and not JUST the destination
      • BIGGER than gold stars and academics
    • Eudaimonia – happiness comes from meaning, connection and peaceful contentment

Tinabryson.com

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Journey to Joy Ecourse

Journey to Joy is a 3 part offer. 

Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work.

You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets 

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?.

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Jan 2, 2018

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Welcome, thank you for showing up!

Content:

Super happy new year

  • Love that everything is possible
  • Fresh opportunities
  • Embodiment of excitement/anticipation

 The work of parenting….

  • Really the work of human-ing
  • Being in relationship with self/others
  • Recognizing our own conditioning and breaking through to our souls desires
  • Honored to support

Todays topic – what it means to hold the container and get the results you WANT

My experience of big goals and daily intentions/practices – a bit from my conversation with Edna – areas of growth for me around supporting my clients in declaring and creating results in their lives.

  • Overarching goals “What do you want at the end of our work? How will you measure success?” This can be anything from potty trained toddlers (Katie’s reflection)/easier bedtime/deeper relationship with teens (Lorrianes feedback)/less yelling and more loving…
    • Some is easy to measure, some, not so much….
    • PLUS it is a pendulum swing
  • Many. Small. Steps.

It is so important to set goals – that way you know where you are going.

  • Cruise control vs being intentional
  • Being intentional DOES require you to face some hard truths sometimes, to bump up against thoughts/ beliefs / emotions that maybe you have become really skilled at avoiding
  • AND to live the fullest, most authentic life, we must make room for ALL of it – even the stuff that is hard

 Setting goals

  • I have weekly, monthly, quarterly and annual goals
  • They all feed into each other
  • The baby steps I take during the week set up my for the monthly goals,etc
  • The ANNUAL GOALS are the container (remember, I mentioned that earlier?)

 Living the practice

  • It’s not even really about the goals, it is about the journey TO the goals.
  • It is about going 100%
    • Reference Krista’s blog post about 100% is easy
    • https://boldlyembodylife.com/bold-notes/.
  • It’s every moment of saying yes to the practice we have decided to commit to.
  • “To be responsible, keep your promises to others, to be successful, keep your promises to yourself.” – Marie Forleo
    • what this means to me….
    • Yes to myself for myself
    • How that then influences the entire ecosystem around me
      • What do I mean by ecosystem?
      • What happens in a healthy environment? Everything is influenced

My goals for 2018

  • Biz
    • Ok – you all know how completely passionate I am about Joyful Courage
      • Elevation with programs and podcast
      • Being my OWN sponsor
      • Continuously working to streamline the exchange of service <3
    • Family
      • SPECIAL TIME
        • Family meetings - VIGILANT
        • Small weekly “dates”
        • Monthly bigger “dates”
          • CONNECTION CONNECTION CONNECTION
        • Personal
          • HEALTH
            • Sacred mornings
            • Whole 30/ fueling my body with what it NEEDS
            • MOVEMENT – yoga every day

 Mistakes and compassion

  • Ebbs and flows
  • Stumbling blocks challenges
    • ALL OF THIS ^^ is a PART OF THE PATH
    • Wake up calls to more intention!
    • Things to CELEBRATE

Always moving forward

  • What are your goals for 2018?
  • What will you be practicing daily?
  • How will you support yourself in this important work?
  • Do you want a community?
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Dec 26, 2017

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Welcome, thank you for showing up!

Content:

My guest today is Lori Petro.  Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.

  • Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced
  • Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other
  • Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in
  • Conscious communication cards
    • Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships
    • Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind
  • Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages
  • Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there
  • SEEING our children in their emotion/experience
  • They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness
  • Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story)
  • Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding
    • Tell me more about that…
    • It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top
    • Opens up conversation
  • Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong
  • 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity
  • Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation
    • Being firm is a piece of it
    • Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary
  • Conscious communication cards
    • Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week
    • Developed into a model for her parenting program
    • Stress/skills/support
      • Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress)
      • Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills)
      • Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support)
    • Divided into two section
      • Behaviors/words to avoid
      • Examples of what to say/directions to go in
    • Target cards
      • What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior
      • 5 steps for peaceful resolution
    • Parents use the cards in many different ways
      • Post them in their world
      • Sit with them at the end of the day and review them
    • IT’S A PRACTICE
      • Daily
      • Progress not perfection (even for Lori)
    • Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills
      • We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT
    • Lori shares about her personal practices
      • Finding work/life balance
      • Meditation
      • DAILY mindfulness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Not doing things that my heart doesn’t want to do – to not do anything because I was guilted into it, then I am not doing it because I want to , but because I feel less of myself. And I am trying to move out of any victim thinking, or less than thinking…  Up our self worth as parents then offer that to our kids.

Where to find Lori: 

Website l Facebook

Conscious Communication Cards

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Dec 19, 2017

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SOLO SHOW

Context – we all have the power and the skills to be the parent we want to be 

A recent post from the Live and Love with Joyful Courage community:

Can we talk about sharing our big feelings with our kids?

My kids are 2.5 and 4.5yo, and I don't know how to share my big feelings in front of them without freaking them out. I want to be able to be my full and authentic self with them, in an age appropriate way. And I realize, the fact that they are upset when I am upset means that they are afraid of my big feelings and may be afraid of their own big feelings. We try to welcome their big feelings (tantrums, disappointment, etc.) but I think we do a miserable job at it.

Compounding this, I am someone with explosive emotions. I tend to feel things very deeply and it takes me time to calm down. I have worked hard to make sure I don't express those emotions in a negative or scary way. But instead I most often bottle them up, which isn't good either.

Celebrating awareness. Celebrating emotional intelligence. Celebrating authenticity. Celebrating personal responsibility.

Misconceptions (in general):

  • not ok for our children to see us upset
  • not ok for our children to FEEL upset
    • they’re being naughty
    • they’re manipulating
    • they’re learning “bad behavior”
  • welcoming big feelings is the same as condoning hurtful behavior

This is a POWERFUL example of what I think is the PURPOSE of parenting:

  • to grow into our best selves

Children are mirrors

  • not mimics
  • instead, provide a reflection of how we effect the world, what our impact is, what we are inviting

Children/parenting journey is an invitation

  • recognizing conditioning
  • recognizing what our “driver” is
  • recognize commitment vs attachment
    • Committed to being a connected parent vs attachment to what that looks like (slippery, perfectionism, comparison) 

Children/parenting journey is unrelenting

  • The lessons come every day, moment to moment
  • The growth is like peeling an onion
  • There is no where to ARRIVE

Child/parenting journey is an opportunity to grow

  • I can’t say this enough
  • Where are your hard edges?
  • Where is there room for self growth?
  • Where can flexibility show up inside of rigidity
    • “I am someone with explosive emotions.”
    • We are ALWAYS evolving
      • What can we learn about ourselves?
      • What can we practice that will be more helpful and less hurtful?
      • How can we deliver our experiences and be heard?
      • How can we create a PRACTICE that honors us and our experience while also models the life skills we want our children to one day embody?
        • Practices are UNIQUE and INDIVIDUAL
        • The myth of “balance”
        • Assumptions about our “roles”

Taking care of ourselves and our own self-regulation, in the end, will do more to teach our children and influence their behavior than any tool you can find in a book or the internet.

You’ve got this!

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On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

Sign up now http://www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc/

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Dec 12, 2017

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Welcome Mercedes Samudio.  For almost a decade, Mercedes has been working with families  to help them develop healthy communication skills, manage severe emotional issues, develop coping skills to manage behaviors, create dynamic parent-child relationships, and navigate social media & technology as a family.

Throughout the course of her career she has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness.

In 2014, Mercedes began to transition into her private practice where she focuses on parent coaching and guiding families to reducing unwanted behaviors, developing effective parenting strategies, creating healthy communication habits, and designing social media/tech plans for their household.

Content:

  • Mercedes talks about her background experience with teen parents
  • Supporting parents in being confident in their ever evolving parenting identity
  • Where #endparentshaming came from
  • Others/media offering mixed judgments – no one changes when they feel shame/unsafe
  • Movement to get people to see that even when others are doing things you don’t agree with, how to step into empathy to see where they need support
  • People doing the best they can with the tools they have
  • Shame as a defense to our own discomfort
  • “Raising a human while trying to be authentically human yourself”
  • You are bigger than your parent role
  • Take time to focus on self and partner as a tool for surrendering to what your child’s current challenge is
  • When we focus solely on our child’s mistakes, all we see are their mistakes
  • Bring the skills/areas of other parts of our life into the parts that feel a bit shakey
  • 10,000 feet view
  • We have our own shame conversations….
    • Reframe the expectations you have of yourself
    • Example: how do you deal with things when you are angry?
    • What do I need, what can I do for myself?
    • How can I use my support system to help me?
  • The misperception that conscious parenting shouldn’t be hard
  • Conscious parenting requires us to be conscious parenting
  • 18:30 quote
  • People are attached to their shame – the stories feel familiar
  • Figure out what your stories are that take you to shame
  • People grow and change in space that is free from shame and judgement
  • Considering FOO – Family Of Origin
    • Write down why these relationships matter to you
    • Still want connection…
    • Let them know WHY you want to stay connected (be specific)
    • Then, share what it is that you are going to be practicing and invite the family member into supporting you
    • Ask for alignment
  • CONNECT BEFORE CORRECT (not just for kids J )
  • Set you boundaries to keep YOUR bucket full for YOU family
  • Shameproof Parenting by Mercedes
  • How to build support with other parents and non parents
  • A shame proof village!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being able to find joy even in the times when it’s not happening... I’m still showing up.

Where to find Mercedes: 

Website l You Tube

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On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

 

Sign up now http://www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc/

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Dec 5, 2017

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Intro Sharing:

  • Visioning about supporting all of you!!
  • E-League
  • The conversations I want to be having on the show… Minding the gap, supporting you ALL in being the parenting you want to be when it is hard to do!
    • If you want to show up different you MUST practice doing the work, leaning in, choosing YES

Content:

What it means to be intentional

  • Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience
  • Present moment is key
  • Awareness is grown through practice 

Getting hooked

  • Our kids behavior as bids
  • The lob
  • Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it
  • Development

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

  • Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc
  • Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper
    • What is your current story about yourself and your family?
    • Is it true?
    • Byron Katie – turn it around
    • Is it true
      • Finding evidence
    • Accept that this is where you are at.
      • Noticing urgency/frantic energy
        • Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful
      • BBB
        • Breath
        • Body
        • Balcony
      • Courage to trust
        • Follow your intuition
        • Let it go/surrender
        • Trust the people in your life
        • Trust the process
        • Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too
          • Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation

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On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

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Nov 28, 2017

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Guest Intro:

Dr. Robin McEvoy is a developmental neuropsychologist practicing in Denver, Colorado.  She evaluates and diagnoses a wide range of learning disabilities and learning needs in children, adolescents and adults. This includes the identification of reading disabilities such as dyslexia. She then works with the family to develop a treatment plan to remediate the weaknesses and accentuate strengths. In addition to her private practice, Dr. McEvoy is an assistant professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center. Dr. McEvoy has authored a children’s book, Buddy: A Story for Dyslexia  (illustrated by her daughter).  She is the co-author/editor of the recently published book, Child Decoded: Unlocking Complex Issues in Your Child’s Learning, Behavior, and Attention.

Content:

  • Child Decoded – inspired by the tough expectations and increase in labeling/diagnoses of academic/social development.
  • Using a master checklist as a guide for finding what it is they need
  • Checklist is a triage
  • Looking under the surface – physical/biomedical limitations
  • Diet and gut and neurons
  • Parents navigating all the services for their children with complex issues – and feeling as though no one else can “see” their child the way that they can
  • Gather evidence with video and photo to share information about your child
  • Child Decoded fills that gap for parents to go from “I have worries” to restarting when parents feeling stuck in the treatment/not sure what to do or where to go next
  • Modify the environment vs supporting our kids in living in the “real world”
  • Paradigm shift – we can be seeing every child in a more holistic way, look at every child as an individual… Mind AND body
  • Current lens – we tend to treat at the symptom level with the “quickest” approach (lots of times with meds)
  • Sometimes the answer is really simple
  • Complimentary/Alternative medicine
  • Both/and mindset… so many solutions in both western and eastern medicine
  • Putting together the team – who is needed?
  • How do you support parents with overwhelm and loneliness as they advocate for their kids…? Find support on the internet/social media – be proactive in seeking out support
  • Breathe – complex issues or not, you are in this for the long haul

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Know that you have more experience with your child than anyone else…  You know your child the best. Have faith in your child, have faith in yourself.”

Robinmcevoy.com l Childdecoded.com

Blog l FB – Dr. Robin McEvoy

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Nov 21, 2017

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Dedication to the Conscious Dad who sent in feedback about being excluded.  I am so grateful to know that there are dads out there that are enjoying my content!!  Big thanks to this dad and all dads that are listening to the show.

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Intro Sharing:

  • Thank you, listeners!!
  • Honored to serve you…
  • Mother’s Journey recap – Seattle, Portland, Boise
  • Orange County, East Hampton, St. Paul – 2018 Mother’s Journey locations
  • Boldly Embody Life – Krista Petty Raimer, Grace, Elevate
  • When I am a yes to trusting, surrender and presence is already there
  • Visioning for 2018

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Content:

Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences

  • Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold
  • What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting?
    • Reference to a poll on my personal FB page
    • Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend?
  • Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class
  • The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well…
  • Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions
  • There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way
  • Parents internal experience takes over
  • Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility
  • Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way
  • This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them
  • Kids need to feel the tension
  • Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn
  • Example – homework
  • Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want
  • Check your assumptions… and check in with your child
  • Humans LONG to be listened to, seen
  • Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible
  • What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect
  • Allow the natural consequence the power that they have
  • Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence
  • Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings
  • We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives
  • What already exists when they make mistakes is powerful!

Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.

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Oct 31, 2017

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My guests today are Shannon Kinney-Duh, creator of A Free Spirit Life, and Ashley Walburn, owner of Home Holistic, and the founders of The Mindful Mama Movement – a podcast, community that empowers mamas, encourages authentic living and celebrates what it means to live an inspired life. 

Shannon and Ashley bring women from around the world, in all stages of motherhood, on a journey of learning how to trust ourselves, how to listen to their intuition, how to let go and forgive, and how to embrace imperfection in the mess of life. They inspire others to practice mothering from a place of presence, creativity, humor and wisdom.

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Content:

  • How Ashley and Shannon met
  • The birth of the Mindful Mama Movement Podcast
  • The power of trusting our gut is the work of parenting
  • Popular opinion vs turning inward towards our intuition
  • Inspiring women to trust themselves and reconnect to their own intuition
  • Moving from survival to space in our life to enjoy it
  • We are good at the head stuff by dropping into our heart is a powerful way to shift into being with our family
  • HAHA!! Interrupted by the birth of a baby J ((real life people))
  • Woohooo – Ashley shares the birth story that interrupted our show
  • Creating communities for mamas
  • Going to yoga class and staying for connection with other mamas
  • Who are you? How are you? Inviting community to be together and real
  • Being part of community allows us to discover our own value and wisdom
  • Online communities can be places of powerful discovery, allowing for thought time and the possibility of going deeper
  • Themes that show up in groups – “Am I doing it right?” “Am I okay?” “Is this normal?” “What am I outside of mom?” “How do I find balance and flow while being a good mom?”
  • Exploring our roles
  • People are seeking to be real
  • We are better mamas when we nurture all parts of us
  • Theme that shows up with mamas is desire for simplicity – declutter, let go, surrender
  • Jaws theme music is not helpful!!

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What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

Ashley: Joyful courage, I think for me… The biggest part of what I do, whether it is at  a birth or meeting one on one with mothers, is really just finding your power and stepping into your own strength, not giving a shit, anything, a thought about what anyone else thinks – what do I really want? What does my baby really want? And go from my soul… I know this is right, and when I feel grounded and feel like myself, then I make decisions that are mine.  When I feel like myself, then I feel braver to do everything. And it gives my kids permission to do the same.

Shannon: Ditto that, and adding having a playful, just making sure we are really following our heart, our instinct, and looking at taking risks with a sense of adventure – that is how I see my daily life – look at this without the jaws music, stay curios, stay playful and light -  not always that way - we are so dang serious about this parenting stuff! I just want to look at taking risks and being brave with a sense of adventure, that’s joyful courage.

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Where to find Ashley and Shannon:

Mindful Mama Movement podcast

FB Page l FB Group l IG

Ashley:

Home Holistic  

FB Page

Shannon:

A Free Spirit Life

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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One more in 2017 – Boise, ID November 4th - This is for every mom
For more information, shoot me an email – casey@joyfulcourage.com
Or register now at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 24, 2017

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Dedication: I love you Jessica, Micki, Stephanie and Jennette. Thank you for being my support and my safe harbor through the journey of raising teens.

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Solo show!  I am digging into my own trenches and what is currently alive in my experience of parenting two adolescent kids.  Pulling back the curtain to share what it means to truly pull back the curtain and TRUST the process.

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Content:

  • The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting
  • Parenting for the long term…
    • Keeping in mind brain development
    • Mistakes are opportunities for learning
    • Everyone should have a voice
    • Relationship matters
    • Kindness, firmness and trust
  • Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model
  • My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen
  • Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together
  • All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society
  • In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices
  • I know I am not alone in this rub
  • We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor
  • Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound
  • GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com
  • If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves
  • We then can evoke trust in our relationships
  • Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes)
  • The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back
  • Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding
  • Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly
  • “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer
  • Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter
  • Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available
  • Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!)
  • Neutral allows space for relationship with our children
  • The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them.
  • Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy
  • There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up
  • Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably
  • We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different
  • Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life!
  • DAILY INTENTION CARDS – 31 cards for setting a daily intention joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards coupon code: PODCAST for 10% off your first order J

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

One more in 2017 – Boise, ID November 4th - This is for every mom
For more information, shoot me an email – casey@joyfulcourage.com
Or register now at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 17, 2017

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Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

  • Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully
  • Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you”
  • Navigating fear
  • The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard
  • Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing
  • Our olders have mixed feelings
  • The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings  - awareness of what is happening internally for us
  • What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression
  • What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible
  • Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings
  • Cure – more connection, more empathy
  • “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem”
  • Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later”
  • Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks
  • Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day!
  • Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release
  • Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig
  • Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time
  • “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings
  • Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them
  • Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older
  • Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham
  • ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out
  • Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child
  • Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent
  • Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

Website l FB Group
Sarah’s FREE Stop Yelling Ecourse
Sarah’s virtual Introducing New Baby Workshop ((STARTS 10/19)

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Ready for some support in the practice of being a conscious parent??  I am so excited to share my latest project with the community. A deck of DAILY intention cards that you can use as you grow in your awareness of BEING the parent you most desire to be!

Follow me on Instagram as I roll them out to the community!

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PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 10, 2017

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Welcome to this week’s solo show!  Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in!

What you will hear this episode:

The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America.  Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough.

  • Classroom management is slippery
  • Teachers are doing the best they can with the tools they have
  • Navigating student’s needs with the academic requirements passed on to teachers
  • Pendulum swings from social/emo learning to academics
  • Pressure to teach kids what they “need to know”
  • Teachers ALWAYS name the social/emotional skills as their desire for students
  • There is an assumption that children are learning life skills in the home
  • Teachers fall back on behavior systems
  • “Charting” children’s behavior
  • Assumption that students have what they need to be cooperative, contributing members of the classroom
  • Temperament matters
  • So how do we talk to teachers about our children’s need?
  • You, the teacher, counselor, after school people, you are all the child’s support team
  • When communication fails amongst adults, child suffers
  • Coming from fear, we show up offensive, invites defense from others
  • Teachers have a tricky job
  • Connect before correct is a powerful tool to take advantage of in all the relationships of our life – teachers/school staff included
  • Use curiosity
  • How can you educate the teacher about your child in a way that enlightens them about your child and all children
  • It is useful when a parent comes to the teacher and says “I see you and the tough job you have, and I want to educate you about my child”
  • Pay attention to your physical response/mama bear mode, and PAUSE before emailing/calling the teacher
  • Get in touch with your child’s teacher BEFORE there is an issue – build relationship
  • Make amends when you need to – repair matters AND you are modeling really important behavior for others
  • The person that benefits the most is your child!

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 3, 2017

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Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

  • College friends turned podcast co-hosts
  • Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas
  • Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents
  • SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like
  • Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience
  • Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule
  • Freedom to travel
  • Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing
  • Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing
  • Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills
  • Vastness of homeschooling
  • Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism
  • Being conscious about what your main goal is
  • Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest
  • Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready
  • Early entry into extra-curricular activities
  • Simplicity Parenting John Paine
  • Supporting kids through their changes of heart
  • It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story
  • The process of navigating waning interest is rich
  • Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream
  • Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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Where to find Angela and Maren:

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PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Sep 26, 2017

Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week!  Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

 

A Free Spirit Life

 

A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh.   Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/

or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast.

 

Living Joyful Courage Membership Program

 

  • Doors are OPEN through October 1st!
  • Join us today!
  • Members share their experience of learning and community
  • Themes coming up: October – Mindset, November – Respect, December – Gratitude
  • Access to all past webinars, as well as content over the next three months
  • 3 month commitment for one payment of $159
  • joyfulcourage.com/ljc
  • Book a short FREE call to ask questions https://ljc.youcanbook.me/

 

Todays Content

 

  • Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends
  • Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD
  • Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters
  • Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about
  • Shopping cart analogy
  • My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences
  • Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way
  • Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do?
  • The space between authoritarian and permissive styles
  • Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness
  • True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust
  • Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship
  • Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable
  • My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world
  • You have to be who you are
  • So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill
  • Children get to DESIGN themselves
  • Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear
  • My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust
  • What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group
  • GIVEAWAY!! Win a copy of Love Warrior by writing a review of the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes

 

Thank You!

 

Come back next week for a brand new interview! Listen to the podcast through the website OR subscribe!!! Find me on iTunes, Google Play or iHeartRadio! 

 

Big love!!

Sep 19, 2017

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Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher  and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting.  Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully.  As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work.  In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

 

IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Alison shares Bonnie Harris’ iceberg analogy and how it guides parents to identify the underlying root of a child’s behavior.
  • Like a medical issue, we often treat the symptom until the symptoms persist then we are forced to find the root cause.
  • Realizing that the child’s behavior that triggers us is the root cause of our reaction and inability to connect and show up best for the child.
  • Only when we dig into our roots and what is underneath our icebergs can we better guide our children through their own experiences.
  • Triggers can cause us to panic and ‘future trip’ into fear about our child’s behavior, enabling us into unhelpful methods.
  • Using our curiosity to dig to the root - is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, cold, hot, uncomfortable, lonely?.
  • Once we identify our triggers we can move into the practice of showing up the way our kids need us to.  We chose connection and enforcement that they matter.
  • Often we misjudge our kids motivation and intention leading to disconnection and an increase in the child’s mischief.
  • Once a parent gets it and truly understands the process begins within the parent first then the practice strengthens and the child, family and parent begin to thrive.
  • There is no one perfect general response to situations with your child.  
  • Practicing prevention, in-the-moment and then repair strategies alleviate and get to the root of the issue.
  • An open conversation on how parenting is shifting from authoritarian to permissive.  Why parents today need something to change and are willing to find the courage to revolutionize how the adult/child relationship evolves.

 Where to find Alison:

Website l Facebook l Instagram l You Tube

 Change the World in A Generation (video)

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PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Sep 12, 2017

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Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent.  Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development.

 What you will hear

  • The emotional journey of choosing Positive Parenting
  • Is your inner voice helping or hindering your practice
  • Our old stories can create blocks when we practice PD
  • What shows up when our children touch on those old stories (triggers)
  • How we talk to ourselves when it seems everyone around us has it together
  • Where do we chose to sit when we are in anger, resentment and “stuckness”
  • Why are you choosing PD and/or Conscious Parenting?
  • What are the themes that drive us to want to parent this way?
  • What themes to we use to keep us on a pendulum
  • Once we choose into the practice we can create habits that navigate through these themes and stories
  • Awareness is the first step to helping us acknowledge the triggers so we can create a connection into this parenting journey
  • This is a collective journey
  • Mindfulness with ground us into the practice and what we need
  • Using mindfulness will bring you into your biggest tool- your body, senses, feelings and emotions
  • Listening to your body is accepting the messages and signals you are sending to your conscious
  • What do you notice in challenging situations?
  • Where do your signals sit? Belly? Shoulders? Chest?
  • Follow the wisdom your body is sending.
  • Fears cloud our vision and takes us into the “what ifs”
  • Getting curious allows us to approach our children without getting stuck in the fog
  • How to use the neutrality of your body to shift into a better experience
  • Shifting can open us up the possibility that we are the best parent for our kids and we can make repairs

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Podcast Highlight:

In Her Voice, By Kelly Covers

website l itunes l FB l IG

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Sep 5, 2017

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Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!!  She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The parenting struggle is real
  • Meredith opens up about the first few years with little ones
  • Feeling stuck, alone and eventually facing a difficult life event moved her to speak out
  • We are not alone, we all feel lost at some point
  • Sharing the hard parts of the journey is the first step in thriving though it
  • You deserve more than to survive
  • Parents deserve to thrive
  • Creating a like-experiencing community can support us through even the most mundane events, potty training anyone?
  • Humor is key! Sometimes the truth and humor are all you need to feel connected
  • How to handle overnight success and sticking with your purpose
  • The importance of modeling purpose
  • Why having our own goals outside of our kids is important
  • Balance is tough
  • Letting go of ‘mom-guilt’

 

Where to find Meredith:

 

Website l Facebook I Instagram l Twitter l You Tube

 

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Aug 29, 2017

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Skills, skills skills! Mama Tanya shares with our community an incredible example of how meeting your child where they are at can shift the outcome of your experience. It is easy for us as parents to become presumptive about misguided behavior  Remember how curiosity is key? By becoming curious with our kids, we are able to recognize the skills they still need to develop, as well as see the reasons for certain choices, which are not always what they seem.

Mama Tanya shares:

“Sorry for the long post but I need some advice. “ school, and they gave him homework to do over the weekend. He said he didn't think it was fair to have homework on the weekends (which I agree), but on Saturday he set his homework on fire! Took the lighter when no one was watching, went outside like he was going to go play, and set it on fire burning half the page and dunking it in the pool.

When I found the half burned sheet of paper in the pool, I kept my cool but was obviously shocked that he would react that way to homework. I let him know that I thought it was a poor decision to 1. light something on fire (safety!) and 2. refuse to do his homework in such a permanent way. Internally I felt helpless and frantic to solve the problem, externally I let him know that I get it, homework sucks, and I reminded him that he could ask for help.

I asked him what made him set it on fire, was he feeling overwhelmed? Or angry? Or both?  He was visibly upset both about being caught and about homework so I didn't preach or press the issue until later that day. When he was calm I talked to him about how sometimes we have to do things we don't like (like washing dishes) but we can learn to do it anyway, it doesn't have to be perfect, and we can ask for help.

I also explained that between two extremes (setting homework on fire and staying up till midnight doing homework- neither which are healthy) he could find a happy medium. He said he had not done his best and that he would try to do his best this week. - I felt like it was handled positively all in all.

But, when he told his father and co-parent (who lives elsewhere) over the phone, his dad immediately started saying that he wasn't going to send him something previously promised, that he would take his computer and phone away if he ever did it again, and went into punishment mode.

So, what would you do? I thought about saying he couldn't do his electronic time until he completed his homework. Or I would give him extra electronic time every time he completed his homework. But I am super conflicted. I feel like homework issues should be dealt with by the teacher. Natural consequences. Of course I want to help the teacher, but not sure how...”

Bullet Point:

  • How to approach the reasoning behind the behavior
  • Kids do more in response with how they feel
  • Getting off the emotional freight train
  • Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence
  • Parents assume children make choices rationally, when in fact they have limited skills
  • Revisiting Dr. Siegel’s “Palm of the Hand” example
  • Assessing what else can be going on inside their body
  • How to identify lacking skills and helping kids deal with the discomfort
  • Letting go of our perspective as the only perspective
  • Letting go of “should” (ex. They should know better)

Quotes:

14:52 “Curiosity really allows us to move past assumptions and get into our child’s world”.

15:07 “Curiosity requires us to let go of the idea that we know all the answers and what it is that our kids need”.

Links mentioned in the show:

Podcast Episode 75 – Marcilie Boyle

Podcast Episode 100 – Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Dan Siegel's Brain Video

Casey's Teaches Kids about the Brain

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Aug 22, 2017

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World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road.  Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it.  With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape.

What you will hear in this episode:

  • Alex’s journey into and out of chaos
  • An experience of transitions from a working professional to working mom to stay at home mom and back to working mom
  • Our vision vs. our reality
  • Why finding calm is so important as a mother
  • The importance of mother’s nurturing a relationship with self
  • Identifying patterns and models in current parenting
  • Understanding where patterns and models come from
  • Understanding the internal work necessary to tackle patterns & models
  • How we set ourselves up and why this can ultimately lead to chaos
  • Changing how we see the road – going from linear to cyclical
  • Understanding the cycles through life
  • Awareness of what we model for our kids
  • Access to tools 1) manage stress 2) manage anger 3) creating a life for yourself that are aligned with values and self loving
  • How our words create expectations for the inner child
  • Where courage lies
  • Summary of how Alex helps mamas on the road to calm - #1 Internal Work #2 External Work
  • Self Care – is about “doing stuff that lights you up”
  • Calm responding wisdom & tools

Quotes:

“When you have kids and you're a stay-at-home mom and you have stay-at-home parents, checking those boxes and feeling that sense of achievement doesn’t always happen”. 6:34

“Models and patterns live deep inside of me based on my own childhood and my own experiences”. 11:16

“Create a new best friend voice that is going to support us in the choices we are going to make”. 12:06

“If we can switch from that and seeing these mistakes, those blowups as opportunities to reconnect with your kid, teach your kid, learn yourself”. 20:28

“It’s your job to love yourself and to practice self care and self love because your children are watching you. AND you are a better everything when you do”. 43:04

What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

“I think that you need to be courageous to be a conscious mom, to practice positive parenting, or to take that journey toward calm responding. It’s about opening yourself up to feelings. It’s about treating those moments as learning opportunities when you do ‘make those mistakes’. When you open yourself up, you need to be courageous to be vulnerable. Once you do that it opens up this space for connection, which without there would be no joy”.

Where to find Alex:

Website
Facebook
Linkedin


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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Aug 15, 2017

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Practice, practice, practice. There is no other way to really move into how we want to BE. Practice is the key. The beauty of choosing and moving through practice is we discover new ideas, concepts and understandings that make our practice more enjoyable AND dare I say magical. In this episode we dig a little deeper into the idea of using our lens to take us to where we want to go. When toddling through different lenses we can shift this practice even deeper.  We are joined by Ian O’Roarty, tween extraordinaire, into the lens of his practice through making amends. Listen and see how many fruitful lenses you discover.

What you will hear:

  • iTunes reviews – yay!! Thank you!!
  • Ian is my guest to talk about what making amends looks and feels like from an 11 year old perspective
  • Power of perception
  • Moving into the perception of being a new sibling
  • What might that look like to a toddler?
  • How we collect evidence to support our perception
  • What will we choose in the practice of collecting evidence?
  • Is our evidence creating our fears? OR is our evidence helping us move through how we want to be?

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Essential Oils

It’s all about the peppermint this week. I played with using this essential oil to increase my focus and concentration when it was time to WORK.

** I am not an expert – I am learning and sharing with you as I go.  DO YOUR RESEARCH TO STAY SAFE!!

If you are interested in finding our more you can email me at casey@joyfulcourage.com OR get your first starter kit at  http://bit.ly/caseyyloils

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

:::::

Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

 

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