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First – let me tell you how much I love the show, Parenthood, on Netflix....
Casey is on solo with you today digging into what it means to trust the process in the context of parenting, Positive Discipline, and leaning on our relationship as the most powerful way to influence our kids behavior.
What does this mean?
The relationships/ life skill development journey
When we are stuck in a place with our kids it is easy to believe that it will “always be like this”
What it means to be in an honest open relationship with your children
How to voice concerns without blaming or condemning (thermometer activity)
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Authentic Parenting Conference
Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!
I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.
If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!
Come play with me!!
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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey
This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.
Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.
Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!
The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join
Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!
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** This will only remain available for a limited time **
The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.
Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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Today’s guest is Bonnie J. Rough, who is an author, journalist, and speaker focusing on families, health, education, parenting and sexuality. Her latest book is Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality. has written recently for the New York Times on teaching young children about boundaries and consent and the value of childhood crushes, The Atlantic on both the link between sex ed and gender equality and improving school sex ed, the Washington Post on why it’s important to teach sex ed in mixed-gender groups, and New York Magazine on raising kids without sexual shame. Join us!
"What I learned is that the focus on helping kids wait longer is really not and should not be the end all. It’s really more about how can we prepare them to have a positive experience.”
“The Dutch parents who I met and the American ones too who have inspired me on this really are prioritizing their relationship with their kids over their ideals about what and when their kids will do things.”
“If we have those open lines of communication we actually have more control than if we forbid.”
“The more open and transparent we can be with our kids the better.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Oh my gosh, to me joyful courage is all about that permission, that freeing sense of permission that I got from observing parents who knew that, you know, making little mistakes in a day to day conversation with our kids about healthy sexuality, it's meaningless, those little mistakes. The big thing that we're doing right, you know, having an interest in relating with them on the subject and so when I realize that, you know, it's not a thing to damage our kids by telling them too much, it's not a thing to damage our kids by telling them something that wasn't accurate one day and coming back, circling back to it another day. It's, you know, knowing that I could be gentle with myself and that we can actually have fun with the conversation once they kind of got to just be a thread through our normal life, you know, basically joyful courage for me is about going headlong into it, you know, with optimism and cheerfulness and hope and trust.
Resources:
Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality
Where to find Bonnie:
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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey
This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.
Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.
Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!
The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join
Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!
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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
** This will only remain available for a limited time **
The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.
Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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How we influence the iceberg
Clients come to me to talk about kids behavior
The iceberg- behavior we see is a solution to a problem that we may or may not know about
Example that we played with a few weeks ago in parenting class:
Child won’t get ready to go in the morning and family is late getting out the door
Go to the source
Transparency
Sometimes our kids refuse to go there….
Summing it up:
Before I go….
I have a really exciting update on my BOOK!!
Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey
This is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.
Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.
Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!
The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join
Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!
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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.
Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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Today’s guest is Sid Garza-Hillman, who is a podcaster and youtuber. He's the author of Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto and Raising Healthy Parents, Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family. Sid graduated from UCLA with a BA in philosophy and is a public speaker, certified nutritionist and Small Steps Coach. He teaches people around the world his unique small steps approach to healthy living at www.smallsteppers.com. His latest podcast, What Sid Thinks is currently available on iTunes. Sid is the Wellness Programs Director at the Stanford Inn Eco Resort. He's an ultra runner and race director for the Mendocino coast 50k trail ultra marathon. Join us!
"However you want to parent, you can't pull that off unless you're feeling good in your life”
“If we can sort of tip the scales in our favor most of the time, then we win the day”
“We are not robots. Our kids aren't robots. We're humans with human emotions and experiences and lenses and it's just so messy.”
“If we can really focus on how we be and how we show up, that's going to inspire, inform, empower and influence what we do.”
“Maybe the perfect version of the human being is one that that is about self care and compassion and has a core of ethic that informs their actions most of the time. ”
“Who am I at my best?”
“You've been defining yourself by how you've been in the external world, when that's been in complete conflict with actually what you stand for and what you value.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
I would say even people who listen to your podcast, I would say people who, who are even thinking about making improvements as a parent, there was a huge, to me, an inspiring level of courage there that we are saying in the midst of a very challenging world, that's all I'm sure has always been challenging, but we always think this is the most challenging, but for whatever reasons it seems challenging. Yet in spite of that and in spite of the things we read on the news about horrible things that happen in schools and all these kinds of things, in spite of that we're showing up and we're taking our kids and we're doing the best we can and we want to do better. And there's an amazing amount of courage in that simply that decision then to take that further and say, I not only want it, but I want to do it is again, it actually is courageous in the real true meaning of the word. Where I see joyful part of that is to me, my interpretation of that is that it is all to the end of joy, it is all to the end of we do this because we love our kids and we do this because we want to have a meaningful life. And that includes raising families, for many people. And you know, the most meaningful thing for me is raising my children and like we talked about before, you know, letting them see my flaws and letting and my wife letting them see her flaws and understanding there's a certain beauty in that and a joy in that and growing strong kids to be okay with their flaws is just awesome. So anyway, that's where I see joyful courage.
Resources:
Raising Healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family
Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto
Where to find Sid:
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The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.
Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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Snowy February in Washington state – wowzer!
Today I am talking about screens and technology
Exciting news- Lisa Damour, author of Untangled and new book Under Pressure: Confronting the epidemic of stress and anxiety in girls
My book has a launch date!!
iTunes Reviews!!!
Ok…. On to todays content.
Screens
Why?
Today I am going to share and inquiry from my own experience – not because I know the way, or I have it all figured out, but because I am IN IT with you.
Here are some of the pain points I am hearing from the community AND experiencing myself:
Let’s check in with the kids:
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The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.
Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us!
"If we can’t actually listen to each other and have a meaningful conversation when we disagree, it’s impossible to work together to address the challenges that we’re facing”
“We can’t wait for the opportunities where presence is needed to practice presence.”
“Even when we can't meet our child's needs we can help them to know and recognize that their needs matter to us.”
“Our feelings are a reflection of our needs.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
So I think what joyful courage means to me is it's rooted in the recognition that the places that we struggle, the places that we're scared of the places that we feel pain actually hold the precious gift of our own freedom and when we recognize that having the courage to turn towards those places and to actually include them in our life and learn from them becomes a process that's joyful because we know why we're doing it. It's not just about “I've got to trudge through this” but we've experienced to some degree and have a deep faith that there's there's actually a gift waiting for me on the other side.
Resources:
Text “guided” 44222 to sign up for a short ebook and free guided meditation series
Where to find Oren:
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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.
Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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Recap of the summit
Saw Brene Brown
What we notice and what we speak
What it takes to stay focused under the surface
Our language and messages:
I am going to do a webinar this month in the Patreon community to diver deeper into encouragement and I hope you join in! The Joyful Courage Super Fam is a group of parents who are giving $10/month to the podcast to support in the sustainability and create a win/win. Members of the community enjoy monthly webinars and online support through our closed facebook page. Check it out at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage
Have a beautiful week my friends!! I am going to be watching my tone this week and really working on the sometimes unspoken messages I am sending to my kids when I am less than mindful of what I am doing – and clean up any messes along the way.
Big love!!
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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.
Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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Today’s guest is Rachel Butler. She is an executive and professional coach, an organizational health expert, a wife and mother of 2 boys she is one of those unique women who is both powerhouse and presence. She's a master in organizational systems and she's worked with over 325 organizations. Rachel embodies what it means to be an empowered woman and a conscious mom. Rachel and her mama business partner Gillian Rowinski are the voices behind Unlearning SuperMom a feminist website that supports equal rights and opportunities for women and empowering all of us. We will be discussing Unlearning SuperMom. Join us!
"Our culture has clearly defined what being a good mom should look like and it is oppressive. The martyrdom of being busy, being agreeable, putting everyone else first, running yourself ragged. If super mom is who we become when we are in this world with our eyes closed then unlearning her is a deeply courageous feminist act.”
“Are we doing it because it's a “should” or are we doing it because it’s something that brings us joy?”
“It’s really hard not to get into comparison-itis.”
“I sort of reject that idea that the major measure of success in parenting is enjoying it”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-The impact of childcare costs on returning to work for moms
-The emotional conflict about returning to work
-Keeping it real as a mom
-Who is super mom and where does she come from?
-Re-learning our inherent self-worth that is not based in accomplishment
-Motherhood and martyrdom: when we put ourselves last
-Motherhood messaging and where it comes from
-History of motherhood and women’s work
-The perceived value of women based on their relationship with their children
-Child centred social media messages and guilt
-The value of the messy middle
-Being aware of social media messaging and how it impacts us
-Where do you start unlearning super mom?
-Ways to dip your toe in to shifting towards unlearning super mom
-Stages of learning from awareness
-The mental load we carry
-Checking in with your body
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
I think one of the phrases that most triggering, I already even brought it up in this conversation, the triggering for me as a parent is like "Oh, just like enjoy every moment. It goes by so fast" that statement brings so much anxiety to me and I really understand the intention of it. I do. But for me and I feel like I'm, you know, I'm someone who's like maybe even obsessively working towards like enjoying, you know, trying to be with my kids and you know, so I find it really and I'm sort of a nostalgic person anyway. So anyway, I get a lot of anxiety from that statement and so I sort of reject that idea that the major measure of success in parenting is enjoying it, you know.
So I think from, you know, the most impactful things, you know, profound things that I've learned as a parent has really come from, like, the more painful moments of the parent, like some of the suffering that's come, you know, and what I've been able to learn from that and being able to sort of meet it, you know, meet and face all of the really messy stuff and and I think that really is courage, right, like coming up to that really scary, whether it's personal work or complex relationships or whatever and showing up for them.
So I think the, you know, joyful courage to me in that context is really about looking for the meaning and just showing up in your life and allowing that to not, you know, that what's there to not be good or bad, you know and not treating happiness like it's the pinnacle of life experience.
Resources:
Where to find Sara:
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Today is a solo show all about being the calm inside the storm. That is the dream, isn’t it?? Listen in as I tease apart what this means and offer ideas and strategies around hwo to get there more often.
· Parenting class
· Summit
· Podcast conversations
· E+R=O
· Events and experiences…. 3 Bs
· What if nothing changes?
· What if all we have is how we feel inside of the experience?
· What do we want to BE/FEEL/CREATE??
· Feedback matters – internal vs external validation
· Parenting is a PART of our life that can feel like our WHOLE life
· Energy of emotion
· Personal work, small steps with Sid, ACES with Sarah – unlearning supermom
· Stuck in what it should look like
· What about acceptance of what is? What about surrender to not knowing the outcome?
· Influence yes. Hard work and practice, yes.
· AND you decide how to respond from life --- worry fear, that is the present moment experience you create. Openness, love, that is the present moment experience you create.
· Think about, bring about – energetically we are always influencing our life, our experience
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Audio summit for parents of teens
- One week of real conversations
- PD trainers who have already been through it
- The launch starts January 1st
- Summit will run January 28th – February 1st
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Today’s guest is Sara Harvey Yao. Sara is a leadership consultant who has developed more than 4,000 leaders across the globe. She specializes in helping leaders navigate pressure and stress by staying present in the moment. Sara is the author of two books, Get Present and Drop In. She’s the mother of two teen boys and can speak firsthand to how the power of presence can transform the parenting experience. We will be discussing. Join us!
"Naming feelings opens the doorways for the energy of emotion to metabolize.”
“When we’re in emotion, we’re in a different part of our brain than the language center so it’s often hard to articulate what we’re feeling.”
“Anger...is a signal fire. Something is going on here. It’s a sign your boundaries have been crossed.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-How naming emotions helps us process them
-Facilitating our movement through emotions in the parenting journey
-The power of acknowledging, even to ourselves, when we are struggling
-Feeling vs thinking
-Attitudes and beliefs about feelings that contribute to feeling “stuck”
-Helping our kids name and process feelings and the role of modeling
-Normalizing emotions for our kids
-Anger as a secondary emotion
-What’s really under anger
-Exploring our triggers and where our feelings are coming from
-Establishing a common language with your kids to discuss feelings
-How to support ourselves and our kids to regulate emotions
The courage to try something new and if that’s new to, I’m going to try a new parenting technique, if that means I’m going to sit with a feeling instead of stuffing it, I’m actually going to say something instead of not saying something, any new behavior to me takes deep, deep, deep courage and when we take those leaps into courage, for me it always ends up being really joyful. There’s such an empowered, a sense of empowerment and it leads to new opportunities or new directions that I might not have known about if I hadn’t been courageous. So those two words fit so beautifully together, it’s just joyful courageousness when we try something new.
Resources:
Listen to past show with Sara: Episode 68
Listen to Mindfulness Min Summit
Where to find Sara:
Website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn
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One week of real conversations
PD trainers who have already been through it
The launch starts January 1st
Summit will run January 28th – February 1st
REGISTER NOW – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
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Eps 169
Happy New Year!!
Hope everyone had an easy breezy holiday. Grateful to friends and family and all the ways we were supported to enjoy the season.
So much to be excited about.
I want to share a couple of reviews that came through Apple Podcast last month– I am always so grateful when you all are willing to show up there and provide feedback.
This is the podcast I recommend most to friends. Casey has such a great way of breaking down parenthood challenges and offering tips and commiseration with humility. She doesn’t come across as preachy and she is in it with us! Her guests are phenomenal, her interviewing skills are wonderful and her solo show insights always resonate! She’s experiences the humility of parenthood at all stages and it’s evident she truly wants to help. Thank you, Casey! - Cassthurston
I’m a new listener and found you through your excellent Tina Payne Bryson interview. Just listened to your 2018 recap epsiode, as well. Great work! I’ve subscribed and will be a regular listener. I also look forward to reading your book! Thank you for your excellent, realistic parenting insights! – GAC Sunshine
Thank you so much, you two!! And listeners, if you’d like to rate and review the show, I am going to be sharing reviews here – you may hear your name!!! I am really going to be encouraging you all to be sharing the show. I know that the content of this podcast Is useful – you tell me so!!! And I want as many parents as possible to be listening in. This is how we raise a generation that can lead with compassion and integrity - by parenting this way. So in this context, parenting IS social justice. Lets all be a part of changing the course by not only doing our own work to be more attuned and empathetic parents, but to support others in the work as well!
This is something I will be talking a lot about in 2019. Compassion and integrity. And our DUTY to be engaging in conversations that support and forward others this way too! It can feel vulnerable and scary – but too bad. It has to happen.
Speaking of compassion and integrity – and for the sake of the conversation, I define compassion as sympathetic consciousness of another persons suffering and integrity as being honest, decent, and walking our talk – these are two big themes that I want to highlight this year – both in my personal practice of being a parent and a human on the planey, as well as with the people I work with and all of you.
Compassion and integrity.
Today, I am going to share a bit about a book I am reading that is really blowing my mind, it is called The Path is Everywhere; uncovering the jewels hidden within you, by Matt Lacata. If you’ve listened to the show for very long, you know that I love my energy worker/reiki master friend (shout out to Jessica) and she has turned me on to the work of Matt. I am using this book as part of my soul care time, reading a few pages in the morning to gather inspiration.
I am not very far into the book, and what I read this morning gave me pause and I decided that now would be the perfect time to bring it here to discuss with all of you.
The first part of the book is about what the author calls our “shadow” – this is the part of ourselves that lays dormant until it is jostled into wakefulness. Another way to make sense of it is the way that we feel when we are triggered. Our shadow is who takes over when we are riding the emotional freight train. The parts of ourselves that we may cloak in shame or guilt – the parts that we keep hidden.
Most of us have a tendency to want to hide our shadow, keep it deep inside of ourselves, not let it see the light of day. Many of us may think we are pretty successful with this – until we aren’t. A lot of the clients I see come to me because their shadow is making appearances in the parenting journey and they want to fix it, they want to make it go away.
I have a shadow as well – she wants control and order, she wants to know the outcome, and she wants everyone to be on her agenda. My shadow takes the behavior of others deeply personally, quickly manifesting fear, rejection and disrespect whenever I experience criticism and ridicule.
My shadow, your shadow – our shadows are a part of who we are. And if, like me, you subscribe to life being purposeful, then perhaps our shadow isn’t something that we should turn away from, or get rid of. Perhaps our shadow is something we can turn towards and get curious about.
You all know that I love the personal growth and development conversation. You know that I see parenting as one long personal growth and development workshop. And if you have been listening for any length of time, you know that I am deeply invested in supporting others in doing this work along with me.
This is why I am talking about shadow work today.
Matt Lacata writes:
It is important that we cultivate the intention to become more interested in the truth of our experience than in the demand to find relief from our symptoms.
Putting this in the context of parenting, especially as we look ahead to a brand new year and choosing in to growth and possibility, we can consider the truth of our experiences as taking a magnifying lens to our current struggles – bring in curiosity, ownership, honesty – and ask ourselves questions like: What am I meant to learn here? What is going on for me? What is the emotion that I can connect to right here right now? What is the story I am telling myself about my child? Myself? My safety?
Our response might begin with sounding like: “well, I am pissed!” but what is underneath that? If we get into the blame game, I invite us all to bring it back to a focus on self – because regardless of what triggers our reaction, how we react is wholely ours.
This takes practice friends, and a deep belief that there IS something to be learning from these interactions – faith that we CAN learn. Once we step into that truth – that we are all continuing to learn and evolve, then we can really trust that we can be the parent we want to be.
And what about the “demanding to find relief” part of what Matt wrote? Well we are already pretty skilled at this, aren’t we? Let’s consider some ways we find relief – we yell, we blame, we shame, we withdraw either physically or emotionally, some of us use substances – food, alcohol, drugs – to feel that relief.
And what do we know about all of these ways of relieving the pain and discomfort of our experience – they are short term and harmful to ourselves and others. BUT, they seem/feel easier than facing our shadow, and doing the inner work to grow and learn.
And clearly this is BIG. And it is HARD. And it requires us to decide to choose in time and time again…. AND YOU CAN. And isn’t this the ultimate act of compassion and integrity?? SELF compassion and PERSONAL integrity???
IF this is landing for you – bring it up to your therapist, or hire me to coach you and support you in this work, it is what I do! You don’t have to do this alone – the journey is meant to be traveled with others, IMO.
2019 is a year to walk together – to link arms and be in community. I will share a few ways to do that at the end of this podcast….
On a personal note – I want to share solidarity to all of you that deal with partners overseas and single parents. Ben has left us to do some big work in California on the electrical grid. We don’t know how long the work down there will take – could be months. I know it isn’t the SAME as being a single parent, I know that I have the luxury of knowing my partner will be coming home eventually, but I am looking at an extended period of time holding space for the kids without their dad here….
Clearly I will have ample opportunity to lean into the TRUTH of my experiences vs finding short term relief from what triggers me…
Self care will be crucial. Inviting my kids into more contribution will be crucial – this is a place we have gotten sloppy sloppy. Not that the kids aren’t contributing, just that there is very little structure, which makes me feel crazy and get naggy – no fun for anyone.
So yes, I am sure you will hear me mentioning missing my man over the next little bit….
As far as joyful courage is concerned – WOWZER! So much excitement. I have spent the last few weeks writing, recording and editing the interviews for the FIRST EVER parenting TEENS with Positive Discipline Audio Summit. OMG – it is SO GOOD!! 14 interviews with Positive Discipline Educators, Trainers and Lead Trainers who KNOW the trenches of raising teens. Register now – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit.
You will want to register, as I am going to be offering some sweet deals to those that register early in the month. I am so totally excited – again, the link is www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit . If you are a parent of a teenager, I also encourage you to hop into the Joyful Courage parents of teens FB group – this is a space of support and encouragement from other parents of teens. It is a small but growing group – full of insight and community, check it out.
I am also thrilled to invite you into the Joyful Courage Super Fam through Patreon. This is a group of people who value the podcast so much that they are contributing $10/month and enjoy the benefit of monthly webinars and online support from me. If $10 is to big of a stretch, you are welcome to get in there and contribute what you can. Find out more at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage.
Ahhhh – it is good to be back!! I missed you in December!!
Stay tuned, next week I will be sharing a powerful interview with return guest, Sarah Harvey Yoa talking about moving through the energy of emotions – the perfect follow up to todays topic!!! Big love!
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Creating a Connected Holiday WEBINAR
Monday, December 3rd, 5pm PST and 8pm PST
How are you FEELING about the upcoming holiday season? Excited to host family? Hopeful to bring to life magic for your kids? Anxious about everything going to according to plan?? Bracing yourself for your children's behavior???
I am feeling all of that.
Join me for an hour of exploring how to create a holiday season that FEELS GOOD this year. You will get clear on what it is your want, and leave with tools that will support you in facilitating a holiday that values the connection and love we all crave during this season.
Go to http://www.joyfulcourage.com/connectholiday to register!
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Where we have been:
Podcast highlights
Tina Bryson first interview of the year – SO GOOD!
Got feisty and real about parenting politics in February
Two of my fave “peaceful parenting” experts – Rebeca Eanes and Genevieve Simperingham were on in March and April
You all LOVED Mary Tamborsky – daughter of Jane Nelsen coming on talking about being Raised with PD last May
My interview with Danielle Slaughter last July about privilege and how white women can do better was super powerful
DAN SIEGEL!!!
This fall has been RICH with interviews about teens, energetic connections, self care, supporting our partners….
Not to mention all of the messages I got from you about how much you love the solo shows – thank you for that.
Joyful Courage offers
I loved leading the JC10 twice this year and having that filter into the Joyful Courage Academy. So fun to work closer with you and support your growth in a really personal, connected way.
Next year is HUGE
Be on the look out for more JC10s and JCAs
Stay tuned in for the launch of my first BOOK (woah) in the spring
The patreon community will be on FIYA
AND – an audio summit that I will talk more about later is happening in January.
I am honored to serve you.
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Today’s content:
Parenting through the self doubt and worry
Parenting teens – why have a separate group?
What is missing from the resources?
The continuum of behavior
Attachment and getting a life
Intuition and trusting your gut
It gets ugly
Feeling isolated/shame/ Lisa Fuller episode 87
Why meditation/yoga/journaling matters
What it really means to be aware
The tight rope Kimberly Muench eps 158
Pendulum swing
Trust and surrender over and over again
It’s a crap shoot – the myth of “good parenting”
It’s their journey
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One week of real conversations
PD trainers who have already been through it
The launch starts January 1st
Summit will run January 21st – 25th
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Solo show!
News:
This week’s content:
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Today’s guest is Tammy Keeces, Head of School at Irvine Hebrew Day School, a former teacher, a positive discipline trainer and mama to three teenagers. She has a Bachelor of Psychology from UCLA, a Masters from Columbia University’s Teacher College in Curriculum and Instruction. She’s currently working on her doctorate. We will be discussing responding to tragic events like the Tree of Life Synagogue tragedy, as well as Judaism, positive discipline and how we can all support each other better. Join us!
"None of us should feel alone.”
“People are children and they just want to belong.”
“God gives us many opportunities for goodness and kindness and this is another way for us to remind ourselves that we need to have hope and we need to have love.”
“We have to come together now, more than ever.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
It’s being brave every day, to make the right decisions for ourselves and those that love us and inviting joy despite the challenges, despite the heartache, we have to choose joy and that’s what you’re doing every day with joyful courage and I think that there’s no other way to live our lives at this point.
Resources:
Where to find Irvine Hebrew Day School:
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Today’s guest is Jeremy Schneider. Jeremy is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families focussing on parenting, relationships and mental health. He is the author of Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots and has been featured on the New York Times, The Today Show and CNN. We will be discussing co-parenting and alignment with our partners. Join us!
"Every step that I take in my personal growth is one less step that they have to take.”
“A lot of parenting is about experimentation.”
“You just get better the more you do it. Just keep trying.”
“We don’t want to be the same parent. We just want to be parenting in the same direction.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-Journaling as a way to maintain perspective
-Examining our principles of parenting
-Deciding what kind of people we want to raise
-Personal growth and parenting - how they relate
-Co-parenting and being in alignment with our parents
-Fatherhood and parental involvement of dads
-Finding balance as co-parents in agreeing on a parenting approach
-The importance of parenting education
-Navigating parenting as a dad when you feel uncertain
-How Dads can model emotional expression for their kids
-Approaching our partners with curiosity about their parenting approach
-Parenting as a practice
-Finding harmony in parenting styles
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Having survived a fairly traumatic childhood, I think about courage a lot. I don’t normally think about it in terms of myself and that’s something that I’ve been working on to give myself credit for how far I’ve come and what I’ve been able to do and the kind of relationships I’ve been able to build within my family.
I think Joyful courage is being able to enjoy, not the success, I’m trying to think of the word, being able to bask in this life I’ve built. It took a lot of work to get where I am and my wife and I have worked very hard to get where we are together. And we’ve worked very hard to survive as long as we have with our kids and get this far and I think, to me, one of the phrases that I play a lot in my head is happy chaos. I think of our life as happy chaos.
Chaos doesn’t have to be bad and that’s kind of the way we think about it. My life is chaos, it’s just straight chaotic, because having teenagers and wanting to be there for them and wanting to be there for my wife and build this business and so and so forth; it’s chaos. But it’s a happy chaos because it all involves things that I love.
And to me Joyful Courage has that same kind of feel, right? It’s the freedom, the sort of joyfulness of doing something that takes an enormous effort and overcoming anxiety and fear to be able to do it but that doesn’t mean that it’s bad. It can still be joyful in that experience of it.
Resources:
Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots
Where to find:
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Solo Show this week!
First – continues thanks for all of the feedback around the last solo show, where I shared about navigating my daughters mental health issues. It means the world to me to know that the content of the show is landing for you, and making a difference in your life.
This week I am talking about our boys.
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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/shop
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Intention Bracelets
Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?
Daily Intention Cards
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
Joyful Courage Tanks
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Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home
-Taking back your power after trauma
-What is EMDR and how can it help you heal?
- How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations
-How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles
- The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations
- Resisting the urge to “fix”
- Understanding generational patterns
- The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior
-How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves through their behavior
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Well, in terms of this process of discovering channeling, it means to go forward with joy and courage, not guilt. Celebrate it, embrace it, as I talked about before, grab your partner, grab someone when your kid is having a fit and say “This is what I’m thinking and I’m thinking this and maybe this and I felt this” and try to go through all the different ideas that might be going on and depending on the relationship with your child, some parents choose to share this dynamic with their child and other parents don’t. It can be very powerful that if your child knows this is going on, they can, Arcata now can come to us after she’s knitting or reading a book on tape in her room and say, “I’m really mad out of nowhere, like I was completely happy, I love the book I’m listening to, something’s not right with dad, and will you call him and ask him what?” She’ll say, “I’m really mad or I really hate this” and she’s like, “and I don’t know why.”
So I would just say, it’s fun, it is fun, it’s a different kind of fun than a lot of people might be used to but it’s fascinating, it’s absolutely fascinating when you start taking this perspective. I mean, it’s hard for me to, I mean, I go out and talk to people, I’ll be at a cocktail party or something and someone’s kid, and I’ll say something and then I’m like, “Hmmmm” and I’ll watch the person’s reaction and I don’t think they’re very happy with something I’ve said and their kid will come up and start tugging at them and be like, “I want to go! I want to go right now! I want to leave!” I was right about that. It’s hard for me not to see once you wake up into this way of viewing the world it’s really quite fascinating. So, meet it with joyful courage.
Resources:
Channeling Questionnaire
Embracing your child’s tantrums as a gift - Elephant Journal article
Where to find:
Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift
Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift
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Joyful Courage Coaching
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Intention Bracelets
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Daily Intention Cards
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
Joyful Courage Tanks
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Solo show – sharing from personal experience
Recap what is happening with my teenager
If you listened last year, you heard the struggle
Online school
Clients I’ve worked with
Friends confiding in their experience
What the stats say
My experience of finding information
What my gut tells me
The ways the world has changed
Why it’s so hard
Weight of fear/possible outcomes
Lack of control
Our own stories
PD is belonging and significance
Power of perception
What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed
The challenge of meeting them where they’re at
My experience with this….
Not knowing what this means
The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being
The iceberg
Tip of the iceberg
They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out
Grades/friends/activities
Bad after school special
Under the surface
Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling
Feelings of disconnection
Out of control
Anxiety/depression
The range….
Not all or nothing
Grey areas
Our own beliefs about mental health
My experience, looking back I was afraid to call it what it was because it made it true
My upbringing of not using things (family drama) as a “crutch” messaging
Enmeshment/codependency
I am going to get really vulnerable and highlight something that I see showing up because of the dynamics that are currently alive in my family
My experience with needing approval – give me the gold star, tell me how great I am
Wanting it from my family, especially my dad and step mom
Now noticing that I am searching for it from my daughter
NO BUENO
Getting spiritual
My experience of energy work in the context of my relationship with Rowan
Life happens for us, so…. This is an experience that is happening for me? For Rowie?
Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends
Letting go/backing off
Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request
Treatment
Counseling, naturopath, energy work – this is what WE are doing
You do you. Make choices for your kids.
Listen to your kids. Listen deeply. Hear without fixing
Ask permission
Give them space and trust they will come to you
Don’t be afraid to go big if things feel really off
Ask hard questions
GET SUPPORT
TALK TO EACH OTHER
Quit dismissing teens by saying “everyone feels that way” because even if it’s true this is not what they need to hear – they NEED to feel seen and heard
Check your expectations at the door, accept that this is a part of your parenting story
Take care of yourself
Check your codependency
GET HELP – if your gut tells you that what is happening with your child is extreme, seek help.
I say this to you and to myself. We will get to the other side of this, my friends. And only we get to decide if we get to GO through this time of our lives, or if we GROW through it.
Thank you to all of you parents of teens, those of you who are personal friends who have been brave enough to be in conversation with me, clients, listeners – you are not alone.
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Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?
Daily Intention Cards
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
Joyful Courage Tanks
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Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-Pampering the mind, body and the spirit
-The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters
-Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs
-Getting past our own default mode
-The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom
-When you feel bad about being good to self
-The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default
-Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it
-Finding a new default for sacred self-care
-The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing
-Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility
-How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting
-Being the architect of our own lives
-When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life
-Baby steps to getting back into alignment
-Debugging our programming
-How beliefs impact attraction
-The path to transformation
-Getting curious about beliefs to make changes
-Morning rituals for prayer and meditation
-Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk
-The importance of asking in prayer
-Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
“It means living a life based in truth, and unfortunately, to live truthfully and to speak truthfully in this American culture is seen as something as so courageous and it really shouldn’t have to be lauded as a courageous act to be living as a real person. And unfortunately it gets so many applause, “Oh you’re so courageous to say that, oh you’re so courageous to do that, oh you’re so courageous to speak that” and it’s really just called being truthful. And so joyful courage is really just living in our naturally truthful selves and because we’re short on truth right about now, even more so in our country then it lets us know we are living away from and in contradiction to our natural selves which our natural selves are truthful.
So if we’re just our natural selves, truthful is the way we operate. So, a joyfully courageous woman has just remembered who she is and shed the false, poisonous, faulty beliefs about who she is, which are really lies, and she’s just living in the natural beauty, power and influence that is consistent with her divine design.”
Resources:
Free Gifts from Debrena’s website
Debrena’s books, courses and more
Where to find:
Website | Facebook | Twitter | Youtube
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Returning to the practice
What Positive Discipline is to me….
What I have learned over time
What it means to have a practice
Things to keep in mind
You are the parent your child picked, not because you are perfect, but because you are you. Parenting is an opportunity to heal old wounds, to mend relationships, and grow as an individual, if you let it be
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The power and momentum of learning inside of a like-minded community, a safe space where you can stretch, share authentically, and show up vulnerably is hard to quantify. The Joyful Courage Academy was created to be that place for you. It is a deep dive into the work of becoming ever more conscious and intentional as you bump up against the challenges of raising your kids.
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Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?
Daily Intention Cards
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!
"I want to help shift the consciousness of the way that we’re parenting, especially our teenagers.”
“We want to give them opportunities and choices. But you absolutely have to have some boundaries and structure in place.”
“What do we stand for? What do we value? What do we try to instill in our kids?”
“You cannot give what you do not have.”
“These bumps is where we grow character.”
“You can be right or you can be in relationship."
What you’ll hear in this episode:
-When children arrive at adolescence
- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens
- Choosing your battles
- Defining your family values
- Setting an example for your kids
- Defining non-negotiables
- Ways to offer choices to your teenager
- Detaching from the outcome
- Prioritizing personal care and personal development
- The illusion of control
- Individuation and what that can look like
- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol
- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer
- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach
- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.
Resources:
Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones
Where to find:
Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community
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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS
Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.
A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.
Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/
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You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast.
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50% off all the goods at the Joyful Courage SHOP
www.joyfulcourage.com/yes
Intention Bracelets
Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?
DAILY INTENTION CARDS
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
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Be a Subscriber
Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!
CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!
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SOLO SHOW!!
Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine.
I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition.
And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!!
I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!!
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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS
Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.
A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.
Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/
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Become a Joyful Courage PATRON!
You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast.
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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes
Intention Bracelets
Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?
DAILY INTENTION CARDS
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
:::::
Be a Subscriber
Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!
CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!
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Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us!
"There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be."
“We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.”
“Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.”
“Really, it’s about doing less.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids
- Sustainable ambition theory - Survival Mode, Momentum, Thrival Mode
- Learning to live outside of survival mode
- Meditation as a tool in parenting and life
- Why it’s easier to teach a child to meditate than an adult
- Co-creation as mindfulness
- Mindfulness for older kids
- Parenting as emotional growth on steroids
- The value of quiet
- Listening to your child without trying to fix them as mindfulness
- Giving yourself permission to let go of how things look
- The responsibility of personal growth and the intergenerational impacts
What does Joyful Courage mean to you?
Being yourself, simply put. Being yourself and having the courage to figure out who that is and what that feels like and just keep going after the things that light you up, because that’s joy and it’s going to be uncomfortable to do that.
Resources:
Where to find Heather:
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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS
Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.
A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.
Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/
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Become a Joyful Courage PATRON!
You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast.
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Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM
I would love LOVE to have you in the membership. It’s some good learning and community – EXACTLY what you need to transform the climate of your home.
Check it out à www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc
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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes
Intention Bracelets
Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?
DAILY INTENTION CARDS
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
:::::
Be a Subscriber
Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!
CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!
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SOLO SHOW – woohoo
Let’s talk about intuition today…. Well, I am going to J
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Mother’s Journey Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS
Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.
A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.
EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH the end of August!
Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/
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Become a Joyful Courage PATRON!
You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast.
:::
Living Joyful Courage MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM
I would love LOVE to have you in the membership. It’s some good learning and community – EXACTLY what you need to transform the climate of your home.
Check it out à www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc
:::
All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes
Intention Bracelets
Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?
DAILY INTENTION CARDS
What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards??? These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.
:::::
Be a Subscriber
Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!
CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!